5 Verses to Pray When You Need a New Perspective

When my attitude stinks and I need a new perspective, I need help. God's help. So, I'm praying and asking Him to empower me and fill me with His transforming truth. #Prayer #Perspective #Faith #Hope

I can remember sitting with a friend over lunch.

Her daughter had recently returned home from college for summer break. My friend was thrilled to have her daughter home but also a bit concerned.

You see…

Her daughter had arrived upset with everyone! Her profs and teachers were uninformed and unhelpful. Her friends were unkind and unappreciative. And her roommate was the WORST! She wasn’t even sure she could take living with her the following semester.

My wise friend listened patiently to her child go on and on for a few days until she finally said, “You know how much I love you and I’m very sorry you’re going through this but I can’t help but think there is one common denominator in every one of these relationships.”

I will never forget her words because although I laughed with her at the “me” focus our children can have at times, I couldn’t help but wonder how often I’ve been the “common denominator” in one of my own bad days, or weeks, or longer.

How many times have I taken my bad mood, my insecurities, my quick to judge attitudes, my “I know I’m right” opinions (okay, well you get the idea) into a conversation where I should have listened with kindness, compassion, and love.

It’s hard though, isn’t it? Sometimes I want to be self-absorbed and “me” focused. Sometimes I want other people to take care of me … or just do it my way for a change.

I can almost see you nodding your head.

But there’s a problem … that attitude never makes me happy. If you’d like to know why, check out How to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy.

As I looked back over those words from the other day, I realized that many of the tips began with “Ask God…”

So today, that’s exactly what I’m going to do! I’m asking God to give me a new perspective … one that will glorify Him, bless my relationships, and as an added bonus, maybe even make me happy.

5 Verses to Pray When You Need a New Perspective

Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things He does for me.
He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases.
He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies.
He fills my life with good things.
Psalm 103:2–5

Oh, Father, when I’m tempted to be “me” focused and self absorbed, please help me turn to You. Help me remember all the things You have done for me in the past, and quite honestly all You are doing for me today … I woke up, I can see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. I have a roof over my head and food to eat. And most important, I have You! I have faith and the peace-filled assurance that I can trust Your promises. Help me focus on Your goodness and mercy today and all the days of my life. Give me a new perspective.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2

Father, forgive me. There are so many voices all claiming to speak the truth. Telling me Your Word is outdated and misinterpreted. I have to admit, the people shouting the loudest seem so very unhappy and distressed.

Father, I ask You to give me wisdom and strength. And by the power of Your Spirit as I study Your Word and turn to You in prayer … guide me by Your truth. Transform my thinking that I might know Your will for me … Your good, pleasing, and perfect will which I believe is the only true way for me to have a new perspective and enjoy peace, hope, and joy each day.

You must not forget this one thing, dear friends: A day is like a thousand years to the Lord, and a thousand years is like a day.
2 Peter 3:8

It’s so easy to grow impatient, Father. Honestly, I would like my prayers to have been answered yesterday. I want health restored and relationships repaired. I want peace and kindness to prevail. I want people to listen and understanding to win the day. I want to see lives surrendered to Your love.

I pray and I pray and wait and wait and time goes on. Please give me an eternal perspective. Help me remember that it’s all under Your control. You are at work in my life and the lives of the people I love answering prayers in Your perfect way at Your perfect time. Please give me everything to focus on You and trust Your love as I wait.

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:13

And Father, on those days when I’m tempted to lose the perspective and attitudes You want for me … give me the strength I need for this moment and help me go confidently into each one knowing You will give me all I need to live for You.

For Jesus Christ, the Son of God, does not waver between “Yes” and “No” … and as God’s ultimate “Yes,” He always does what He says.For all of God’s promises have been fulfilled in Christ with a resounding “Yes!” And through Christ, our “Amen” (which means “Yes”) ascends to God for His glory.
2 Corinthians 1:19–20

Father, thank you for Jesus. It doesn’t matter what the world says … Jesus is the answer. It doesn’t matter how I feel, whether or not I’m having a good day, or even if others agree … Jesus is the Way, Truth, and Life.

Every promise You have ever made is fulfilled in Jesus. Please help me surrender this day, my mood, my attitudes, and my perspective to You … so that in all I do and say I might follow Your will and live for Your glory. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.

What am amazing blessing it is to know that even though you and I are completely incapable of getting this new perspective on our own … God not only wants to give it to us, He has given us His Spirit to live with and within us to transform and empower us.

The presence of the Spirit is able to help us look at life a whole new joy-inducing way!

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How to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy

7 / 15 / 197 / 14 / 19

One of Rev’s favorite questions to ask a new Bible Class is…

“Name the one person you think about the most?“

It’s okay … you can take a minute to think about it.

Most moms believe they think about their children most.
Occasionally spouses will indicate they think about their husband or wife most.
Maybe it’s a friend, someone you’re dating, a parent, or someone else.

After a few minutes of thought and discussion, Rev always answered the same way.

“NOPE! It’s none of those people. If you’re completely honest … the person you think about the most is … YOU!”

Each time the room immediately filled with nervous laughter and nodding heads.

We can’t help it!

You and I filter every thought, every interaction, every detail of our lives … through the filter of “ME!”

How does this affect me? What do they think about me? Will I succeed? How do I look? What will I do? Will this project go well? Will my children make me proud or embarrass me? Will I ..?

It’s normal! Just a part of life that has touched every person on the planet since Adam and Eve were banished from the Garden.

That’s the thing about sin and self-focused thinking…

It makes us miserable.

It’s our non-stop thinking about ourselves that leads to worry, anxiety, selfishness, anger, pride, etc. All those things that leave us distressed and discontented.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

The One who created you knows you.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Psalm 139:13

He made you for His plans and purposes.

You were made by God for this time and place in His story!

And He didn’t just create you to leave you to figure it all out on your own. The Lord is fully aware of the experiences that have and will influence your life.

You go before me and follow me.
You place Your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand.
Psalm 139:5–6

Who God created you to be and the experiences He allows become your lens (how you perceive) and your filter (how you process) your life.

And simply put … how you and I process and perceive our life experiences formulate our perceptions, our views, and opinions. They affect the way we react, the way we touch others, the way we LIVE.

That’s the truth we live with and it’s not bad … it just is.

Which is how Rev could know that everyone in any room thinks about themselves more than they think about anyone else.

So, what do we do with all of those ME thoughts without letting them get out of hand?

Everyone views life through a self-defined ME filter but the only thing that will make you happy is to look at life with a godly perspective. #Faith #Love #Perspective #BeHappy

5 Things You Can Do to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy

♥ Surrender Your Thoughts to God.

I know when I spend time focused on my appearance, my stuff, my social media footprint, my failures or successes … on me, I am setting myself up for a pretty miserable day.

And it’s in those moments, I want to hear the Lord whisper…

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”
Matthew 11:28

How awesome is it that Jesus invites us to bring all the “stuff” of life to Him? He will help us carry the things that burden us so we can enjoy peace and joy.

And just in case you need to see the promise…

You will keep in perfect peace
all who trust in You,
all whose thoughts are fixed on You!
Isaiah 26:3

♥ Ask God to help you seek and trust Him.

I’ve chosen the word “SEEK” as my forever word. It’s based on Luke 12:31

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.

You see, for far too many years I doubted that verse. Oh, I believed in Jesus for my eternal future but I didn’t believe He was able to give me strength if the struggle was too great or courage if I was afraid of the path before me.

He graciously and patiently showed me the truth of His “nothing is impossible” love. A love we can trust today, tomorrow, and forever.

♥ Ask God for His help to love others well.

It’s hard to love others the way God wants me to when I’m constantly filtering their words and actions to a filter of “ME.”

Jesus told His followers:

“I am giving you a new commandmenst; Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.”
John 13:34

It’s not a request. It’s a command.

But loving like Jesus doesn’t mean failing to set aside time for rest. It doesn’t mean saying “yes” to everyone and everything.

I believe loving like Jesus means we will:

be forgiving.
be kind and compassionate.
be humble.
and love unconditionally.

I also know I can’t love like Jesus without His help. I need wisdom, discernment, strength, courage, and a whole lot less of “ME” thinking if I’m ever going to love others the way He commands.

♥ Ask God to help you do what you can and leave the rest to Him.

Although I know I’m supposed to do all of this one day at a time, I’m guilty of way too much past and future thinking.

I can overthink the things I’ve said and done and what people think about the things I’ve said and done. I can stress about what I’ll say and do in the future and what people will think about what I say and do in the future. And I can too often live my present influenced by the lens of “ME” based on the past and in anticipation of the future.

Yes, I’m a recovering people-pleaser with a long way to go.

And from the looks of my social media feed, I’m not alone!

But Paul wrote:

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2

I believe that as I surrender to the Lord, He will continue to transform me.

And that transformation includes changing my lens … my perspective.

Remembering that it’s not about “ME!”

I currently need a new pair of eyeglasses.

I have my new prescription but I can’t find a new frame that I like as well as the ones I have.

And maybe that’s part of the problem with our “Me” filters. We know we need to surrender to God’s transforming grace but we’re just having trouble giving up our old way of looking at things … it’s comfortable and we’re a little worried that we won’t like the new ones as well.

But imagine the view, the perspective the Lord wants to give us. Imagine the clear beautiful way we could view things if we would just let Him help us filter our lives through His Word and promises.

Just imagine…

How beautiful life might look if you allowed the Lord to change your perspective.

Who knows, it might even make you happy!

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5 Things You Can Do that will Leave a Legacy Blessing

7 / 11 / 197 / 11 / 19

Simply stated, a legacy is something that is handed down from one generation to the next.

Originally, it was thought of as property, wealth, or other personal property that is left to descendants or heirs.

But over the years leaving a legacy has come to mean anything left behind … how you and I will be remembered.

I like that because it place the emphasis on values over valuables.

I’d like to invite you to welcome my friend, Nicki Schroeder, today, as she shares her thoughts on the basic ways you and I can leave a legacy of blessing as we touch the people around us with the things we value most.

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You and I will leave a legacy ... anything from values to valuables. Here are 5 simple things you can do to make sure you leave a legacy of blessing. #Leavealegacy #Faith #Freedom #Blessings

What type of legacy do you want to leave for future generations?

Lately I have felt pretty defeated when it comes to the idea of leaving a legacy.

We can’t have kids naturally, which makes the whole leaving things behind to people hard! At one point we decided to adopt three siblings ages 2, 4 and 6. But after a year and a half process, the adoption failed due to a lot of unethical insanity in the system. As a result, we also decided to close the door on future adoption opportunities.

So what possible legacy can I leave in my situation? I have no kids, no plans for future kids. I have lots of stuff and a will that’s designed to get rid of all the things when we leave this world.

Is leaving a legacy behind just about leaving people your stuff?

Have you heard the song from Casting Crowns called “Only Jesus?” It talks about how it’s not about the stuff we leave behind in this world, but the imprint of Jesus that lasts in the people we meet on this earth. Oh how I desire to leave a strong imprint on others!

I’m doing this cool Bible study with a group of ladies from my church called “Keys to Freedom” from Nancy Alcorn.

If you grew up in an abusive or dysfunctional home, it’s totally a study worth looking into. It talks about how all the icky stuff from our childhood leaves an imprint on our lives and we pass that stuff along to the people we meet daily, unless we make the choice to let all the bad stuff go and find freedom in Christ from our past hurts.

Don’t you want freedom from past hurts and to live free in Christ Jesus?

Of course you do. We all do. But we keep our schedules too busy and our minds too active to just rest in the Lord and heal the hurts from our past. And if you also happen to have a present-day relationship with someone who adds to your pile of hurts, the emotional baggage keeps adding up and weighing you down. We all need to choose freedom!

“So if the son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” John 8:36

Leaving a legacy of freedom!

So back to the legacy thing. After a lot of prayer and thought, this is the legacy I choose to leave this world –

I want people to know that I am a woman who passionately loves Jesus!
I want to put God first above all else, even when pressure comes from others to knock Him down the list.
I want my love for Jesus lived out through my compassion for others, especially in their times of need.
I desire peace in my daily life and choose to spread peace to others.
I want to serve others well and do my best to give out grace in abundance to those who do me harm.
I choose to forgive those who hurt me, even the ones who aren’t sorry for the pain they have caused.

I think it so important for us to remember that even our desire to leave a Godly legacy comes with healthy, firm boundaries to ensure others don’t take advantage of our Kingdom-focused hearts.

5 Things You Can Do that will Leave a Legacy Blessing

Live for Jesus
Study God’s Word
Pray often
Forgive others
Admit when you mess up

It’s certainly not a comprehensive list, but it’s a great place to start!

What things would you add? How do you focus on leaving a legacy of blessing?

Nicki Schroeder is a Christian radio personality, writer and speaker living in the beautiful Midwest. Nicki desires authenticity in her relationship with Jesus and others. She is a soul encourager who wants to help you glorify Jesus in the middle of your busy beautiful life. Jesus is her superhero. Visit her for encouragement and a free 5-day grace challenge and other goodies at www.nickischroeder.com.

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You Need to Know You are More Than An Avatar

7 / 8 / 197 / 7 / 19

If you are a writer or blogger, I have a question for you.

Who do you picture as you write?

In writing courses, this imaginary person represents your ideal reader or customer.

Some call it writing for your “avatar.”

You create this imaginary person by determining your ideal reader’s…

Goals and values.
Sources of information.
Age, gender, religion, family status, education, and location.
Needs and areas where they need help.
Habits, hopes, dreams, and values.

Now it’s possible that I just have a lousy imagination but this has always been hard for me. I’ve never been able to picture some fictional character created by a generic list in my mind when I’m pouring my heart out in a post.

An avatar just isn’t personal enough for me.

Which is one of the reasons I love receiving your comments and prayer requests. You see, I want to picture you when I’m writing … just a couple of good friends, sitting at our favorite coffee shop, talking and praying about life’s challenges.

I want to know you!

I want to talk with you, not at you.

Because that’s how friendships grow.

One on one! One conversation at a time!

But this isn’t just a truth for writing; this is a truth for life!

You are More Than an Avatar

Jesus told His followers He was giving “a new commandment” when He said:

Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. John 13:34

So, I decided to take a closer look at the way Jesus “loved” people.

True, He taught multitudes, healed crowds, and fed thousands. And those things showed us a great deal about His love in general.

But the moments that grab my heart most when I study Scripture, are Jesus personal interactions with people. The one on one, look them in the eye ways He loved the individuals around Him.

Jesus saw persons over people.

Uniquely created human beings in need of…

forgiveness.
healing.
comfort.
peace.
encouragement.
hope.
love.

Whether they were His followers or not … Jesus loved souls.

One account that always touches me is – The Rich Young Man in Mark 10:17–31:

He came to Jesus with a question?

“Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

Jesus responded by reminding him of the commandments and the young man replied…

“I’ve obeyed all these commandments since I was young.”

Then as if there was a pause in the action … Jesus didn’t correct him. He didn’t put him in his place. He didn’t give him a quick run down of all the ways he had fallen short … although He could have done so easily.

His reaction to the young man’s foolishness and pride was…

Looking at the man, Jesus felt genuine love for him.
v. 21

Genuine love!

Love asks questions and listens to answers and gently and respectfully offers a better way…

“Go and sell all your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”

Jesus loved him enough to gently invite him to give up his pride and dependence on things that cannot last … t0 follow Him, the One who could give a treasure that lasts forever!

And although Jesus already knew how the young man would respond, He lovingly offered the best He had to give.

I’m also inspired by the account of The Woman at the Well in John 4.

This woman was 1. a Samaritan, a mixed race hated by the Jews 2. known for having had several husbands and she’d moved on to living with a man to whom she was not married 3. women didn’t talk to men with whom they were not related in public.

Based on the expectations of the culture – no respectable Jewish man would have stopped to talk to her.

But Jesus did.

And once again, He asked questions. Listened to responses. And offered hope-filled life-giving truth, when He said:

I am the Messiah!
v. 26

And through their conversation, an entire community came to know Jesus.

“Now we believe, not just because of what you told us, but because we have heard Him ourselves. Now we know that He is indeed the Savior of the world.”

Jesus didn’t preach at some ideally imagined avatar.

He talked to young and old; men and women; Jews, Samaritans, and Gentiles; Temple visitors and those who had never even entered synagogue; sick and healthy, rich and poor … anyone who would talk with Him. And each time, He asked questions. He listened and He lovingly and gently spoke the truth.

Friend, you are so much more than an avatar!

You are uniquely and wonderfully made.

You shaped me, inside and out. You knitted me together in my mother’s womb long before I took my first breath. I will offer You my grateful heart, for I am Your unique creation, filled with wonder and awe. You have approached even the smallest details with excellence; Your works are wonderful; I carry this knowledge deep within my soul.
Psalm 139:13–14 (VOICE)

The Lord knows everything about you.

O Lord, you have searched me and known me!
You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
    you discern my thoughts from afar.
You search out my path and my lying down
    and are acquainted with all my ways.
Even before a word is on my tongue,
    behold, O Lord, you know it altogether.
Psalm 139:1–4 (NLT)

And He loves you!

For we know how dearly God loves us because He has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with His love. When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us.
Since our friendship with God was restored by the death of His Son while we were still His enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of His Son.So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God.
Romans 5:5–6, 10–11

And because He loves you and me and everyone else so much, He has called us to love each other not simply look at each other as avatars.

I understand that politics and marketing are in the business of defining and labeling us. People who want us to buy what they are selling, benefit when you and I define each other by gender, race, religion, income, and level of education.

But when we believe that those labels define a person, we ignore the unique physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual parts of their make-up that have molded them into the extraordinary one-of-a-kind soul God loves. A soul God wants you and me to get to know and love as well.

I can’t tell who or what broke your heart by the color of your skin. I won’t know what stresses you out or frightens you by the level of your education. I will never know what you’re passionate about by your gender alone.

I can’t know if you lost your job, lost a child, or if you struggle with the pain of rejection. I don’t know if you are fighting a chronic illness or if the doctors recently gave you a frightening diagnosis. And I can’t see whether you’re having a great day or if today you just want to pull the covers over your head and hide.

Your gender, race, religion, income and education will never tell me your personal story … your past hurts, the people who helped and encouraged you, your successes, joys, hopes, and dreams. Those are things unique to you … and I want to know you.

So, I have not created my ideal reader avatar and I never will.

It’s okay if you have. Every blogging course I’ve ever taken has recommended it.

But maybe, for just a moment, you and I can stop in person and online and get to know each other as individuals. We can stop for a bit and ask questions, listen, and share the Truth that gives life.

For people who know and love Jesus, it’s not about selling a product or point of view. It’s all about inviting people into a forever relationship with the One who created them, who knows the number of hairs on their head, who loves them so much He gave His life for them, who cares about their wants and needs, their regrets and fears, their hopes and dreams today … just as much as He cares about their eternal futures.

Friend, you are more than an avatar. You are uniquely and wonderfully made. You are loved by the King of kings and Lord of lords. You are precious to Him and so is every other person on the planet.

So, whatever your gender, race, religion, income, or level of education … I want to get to know you. Please tell me your story. Leave a comment or a prayer request. So I can picture you sitting across the table from me at our favorite coffee shop as I tell you about Jesus, the One who transformed my life and set me free.

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5 Verses You Need to Pray that Ask God to Bless America

7 / 4 / 197 / 5 / 19

I’m stopping today to thank God for the blessing of growing up and living in the United States.

Oh, I know we’re a population with conflicting ideas and a long list of things we could do better but friends, we are free!

I looked up the Bill of Rights for a list of freedoms we enjoy. It’s really awesome!

Freedoms in America

Freedom of Religion
Freedom of Speech
Freedom of the Press
Freedom of Assembly
Freedom of Petition

We are blessed!

If you’re like me, you would like those freedoms to last for many generations in the future.

As I read through the Bible there are two important things necessary for a nation to be successful and lasting…

♥ 1. People honored and trusted God and intentionally made every effort to follow His commands.

♥ 2. People asked God to forgive their failures and help them honor and obey Him.

People prayed!

So, I thought today would be the perfect time to stop for a minute or two and Pray for America!

5 Verses You Need to Pray that Ask God to Bless America

I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them. Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we can live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity.
1 Timothy 2:1-2

Father, I lift up our country to You. We need You. We’ve always needed You but right now at this moment, it feels like we need You more than ever. I am so thankful for those who are willing to serve our nation … whether they are elected or appointed, military or local law enforcement. Lord, please place Your hand of protection over them. Guide them and help them wherever they serve.

Father, please work in the hearts and minds of those who lead our nation. By the power of Your Spirit, I pray that they will both know and follow Your will. Please help them to see past politics and power and give them hearts to make decisions that are in line with Your will. Lord, help us! Lead us. Forgive us.

Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14

Father, forgive us. We have gotten so many things wrong. We don’t love You well. We don’t love each other well. We don’t follow Your commands as we should. We judge the behavior of others and make excuses for our own flaws and failures. We need You. We Need Jesus. We need Your forgiveness and we need changed hearts and minds. We are so very sorry. Please heal us and help us. Please bless America!

What joy for the nation whose God is the Lord,
whose people He has chosen as His inheritance.

Let your unfailing love surround us, Lord,
for our hope is in You alone.
Psalm 33:12,22

Father, We need our joy restored. We need You!

The enemy wants us to focus on the junk … on problems that divide us. But You are able to unite us with Your peace.

Please surround us with Your unfailing love, Lord. Give us hope for the future. We have victory in Jesus … all the enemy can do is distract and distress us. When we place our trust in You and focus on all You have done and continue to do in our lives … we will have hope and joy!

If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you.
James 1:5

Father, Wisdom is defined as knowing what is right and true and doing it. We could even say … wisdom is knowing Your will and obeying it.

We so often fall short when it comes to wisdom! By the power of Your Holy Spirit, work in our hearts and minds and bless us with Your wisdom. Work in our nation’s leaders … give them the wisdom they need and help them apply it. And give us all reverent fear and the courage and strength we need to trust and obey Your will.

May God be merciful and bless us.
May His face smile with favor on us.
May Your ways be known throughout the earth,
Your saving power among people everywhere.
May the nations praise You, O God
Yes, may all the nations praise You.
Psalm 67:1–3

Bless us, Father! We need Your mercy. We need Your favor. We need You. Help us love others in ways that will make You known.

Your Word tells us that You want everyone to come to know and love You … Jesus said, “Go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you.

You want all people everywhere to trust and follow Jesus. And You’ve given us Your Spirit so we don’t have to figure things out on our own.

Thank you, Father! You have given and You continue to give us everything we need. May we praise and worship You in all we say and do.

Friends, there are so many more things we could pray specifically for our nation. May we take our concerns to Him. May we pray for one another.

And most importantly, may we continue to show deep love for one another … as “love covers a multitude of sins.”

God bless America!

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Positively Proactive Help for the Best Rest of the Year

7 / 1 / 197 / 1 / 19

You started the year with goals, plans, hopes, and dreams but now you need to be positively proactive help to get back on track to bless the rest of the year. #Blessings #Productivity #Faith #Hope

Today is the first day of the second half of the year.

So, let me ask you … how’s it going so far?

If you’re like me you started the year with goals, plans, hopes, and dreams along with some good habits to start and a few bad habits to break.

So..?

In my own case, I keep thinking of Paul’s words…

And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t.I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway.
Romans 7:18–19

I’m so good at having good intentions and so bad at having consistent follow-through.

Something I’ve realized in the last few days is that I have a problem with being more reactive than proactive with my days.

For example…

I consistently get up each morning and brush my teeth, wash my face, and tame my hair. I get dressed and make the bed. I feed and walk the dog. And then I sit down and spend time with the Lord.

That’s all good but that’s also when I stop being proactive. From that point on I spend much of my time going “squirrel, squirrel” to almost anything that floats by and distracts me.

A post on social media can have me digging around the internet. An email can send me off to do some online shopping. A news article or opinionated post can agitate and distract me. Or a random memory can put me on a path to visit my reserved spot in a town called melancholy.

Yep, I start out positive and end up wondering “what in the world just happened here.”

It all became a little clearer for me the other day. I was just finishing up my Bible study and prayer time when the phone rang. The conversation was with one of my favorite people and we were just having fun when all of a sudden one of my “trigger” topics came up and I found myself chasing a squirrel down the path of “truth” and “self” righteousness.

Now, it’s not that my views were wrong, it’s just that (1) I couldn’t help but wonder what my pontificating was accomplishing because (2) I was “preaching to the choir!”

After our conversation ended, I felt that still small voice whisper, “Do you feel better? Was that helpful? Was it”

…true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise? Philippians 4:8

Nope! Not so much!

That’s when I realized how much is lost when I’m reactive rather than proactive.

So, I’ve made a list of action steps I’m calling “proactive help” to get back on track. Things I believe will bless the rest of the year and maybe even make it the best yet!

Positively Proactive Help for the Best Rest of the Year

1. Count your blessings every day.

I started “Counting My Blessings” during one of the most difficult times in my life. I launched it to hold myself accountable to noticing God’s goodness in the middle of the pain.

Whatever is going on in the world, even in my world, God’s grace and mercy never change. His perfect love is unfailing!

Whether I write them in a journal or on a piece of paper to drop in a jar or basket, I want to go back to keeping a list of the many ways God is providing for and protecting me … heart, mind, body, and soul every single day.

Let all that I am praise the Lord;
    may I never forget the good things
He does for me.
He forgives all my sins
    and heals all my diseases.
He redeems me from death
    and crowns me with love and tender mercies.
Psalm 103:2–4

2. Seek God first every day.

What does it mean to “seek God first?”

I sometimes think I can think of it as beginning each day in prayer and Bible study.

But I wonder if it’s more than that. I wonder if it’s more of an attitude … in finding my purpose in Him.

Do you remember the 5 Purposes of a Purpose Driven Life?

1. You Were Planned for God’s Pleasure.
2. You Were Formed for God’s Family.
3. You Were Created to Become Like Christ.
4. You Were Shaped for Serving God.
5. You Were Made for a Mission.
Rick Warren

I think it just may be time for me to reread that book! I just may be allowing too many “squirrels” to distract me from focusing on and doing what’s most important.

You can also click on the link above to find the goals I made at the beginning of the year … I know I needed to read it again!

3. Assess your goals and the progress you’re making.

I’m going to be completely honest with you here…

I am terrible at goal setting, time management, and follow through.

I am a Sanguine who like to chase “squirrels!”

So, I can spend all kinds of time making a list of goals and thinking about the best ways to plug them into my schedule and on a good day, I might make it ’til lunchtime before I’ve abandoned it all and gotten off track.

But I will not give up! I’m making a new list of goals this afternoon and attaching to my planner. Although I may not plug in specific times, I’m going to be intentional about doing a weekend assessment of my progress.

4. Learn to say “no” so you can say “yes” to the best.

I want to be able to live my purpose intentionally. And I believe that God sometimes sends interruptions to help me grow in different ways.

But I also know…

Not every interruption is from God and it is not God-honoring for me to chase every “squirrel” I see.

So, I want to prayerfully set those goals I talked about above and live purposefully.

And as a reminder, I’m going to keep the following quote from one of my favorite time-management instructors…

“You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage pleasantly, smilingly, and non-apologetically – to say no to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger yes burning inside.”
Stephen Covey

5. Let go of the past and refuse to worry about the future.

This is a hard one, isn’t it?

It’s so easy to bring yesterday’s baggage into today and worry about how today’s doubts and concerns will affect tomorrow.

But Jesus clearly told us not to worry about today’s troubles or tomorrow’s unknowns.

Why?

Because when you and I seek God first, He is faithful to give us everything we need.

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need.
Matthew 6:33

Jesus very next words are … “so don’t worry about tomorrow.”

And we can let go of the past because we are forgiven and free in Jesus.

I don’t know about you…

but I’m ready to stop chasing “squirrels.” I’m ready to stop living a reactive life.

Be proactive!

I’m ready to apply proactive help to the rest of the year and enjoy the freedom and blessings God offers to those who live with purpose as they place their hope and trust in His Son, Jesus.

And I’m praying the following words of Paul for each of us as we make the the next six months the best rest of the year.

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in Him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Romans 15:!3

One more thing…

I believe being positively proactive can bless every area of our lives.

So, are you ready to look back at your goals for the year and make some positively proactive changes to bless the rest of the year.

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5 Verses to Pray When You Need to be Strong

6 / 27 / 19

When the challenge your facing feels overwhelming and it's hard to be strong, it's time to pray. These 5 Bible verses and prayers will help when it's hard for you to find the words. #Prayer #Faith #BeStrong #Hope

You tossed and turned most of the night and still, you can’t believe it’s morning already.

The challenge you’re facing feels overwhelming and if you could, you’d just pull the covers over your head and stay in bed … all … day.

Oh, I can relate!

Truth is … you and I have to live through what Jesus called “trouble” more often than we’d like.

“I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.”
John 16:33

I’ll admit, I hate the “trouble!” I’m guessing you do too!

But you and I can be “brave.” We can be strong because Jesus defeated evil.

By living a perfect sinless life.
Through His suffering and death.
Through His resurrection.

He spoke those words just prior to His arrest. He knew what was coming. Jesus was no stranger to “troubles.”

He understands … and that truth gives us strength and hope when our giants loom large.

Whatever you and I are going through … whether it is a failing relationship, a daunting diagnosis, a financial concern, a legal problem, a what do I do now decision, or an ongoing pain that feels like it will never end.

Whatever it is … the Lord is able to give us everything we need to be strong one day at a time.

But I’ll admit…

When I’m going through “trouble” it’s hard for me to turn from my restless anxiety and focus on God’s all-sufficient grace.

Which is why I need to pray. I’d love for you to join me.

5 Verses to Pray When You Need to be Strong

I was so foolish and ignorant—
    I must have seemed like a senseless
animal to You.
Yet I still belong to You;
You hold my right hand.
You guide me with Your counsel,
    leading me to a glorious destiny.
Whom have I in heaven but You?
    I desire You more than anything on earth.
My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak,
    but God remains the strength of my heart;
He is mine forever.
Psalm 73:22–26

Father, You gave me Psalm 73:26 to claim as my own, when my heart was broken.

And I can so relate to the words above…

I’ve had many times when I’ve made foolish choices. Yet … You continued to call me Your own. You held me close and patiently taught me Your truth.

Thank you for Your loving me and covering me with Your grace and mercy. Thank you for Your healing touch … for holding me and for giving me strength when I was at my weakest.

Father, thank you for guiding me. There is nothing in this life I desire more than You. Even if my health fails and my spirit is weak, I believe You will always be my strength. In Jesus name. Amen.

Remember that I commanded you to
be strong and brave. Don’t be afraid,
because the Lord your God will be
with you everywhere you go.”
Joshua 1:9

Father, on my own, I’m not strong … not even a little bit. And this problem feels overwhelming.

But then I remember, You divided the Sea (Exodus 14) and used a marching band to defeat a city (Joshua 6). You gave life to dry bones (Ezekiel 37) and healed a broken world through Your Son.

My circumstances are not too great for You. Please help me turn my focus from the problem to You, the One who already knows the outcome. Please make me aware of Your presence. Help me trust Your will for me. Help me follow wherever You lead with courage and strength.

God is our refuge and strength,
always ready to help in times of trouble.
“Be still, and know that I am God!
I will be honored by every nation.
I will be honored throughout the world.”
The Lord of Heaven’s Armies is here among us;
the God of Israel is our fortress.
Psalm 46:1,10–11

Father, You are my safe place and source of strength.

Your Word says You are always ready to help me. You invite me to “be still” and know You … Lord of all, God of gods, and King of kings.

Father, I need You to help me be strong.

I need You.

So, I will quietly sit here in Your presence trusting that You will give me whatever I need to face the day ahead. Thank you, Lord.

The Lord is king. He is clothed in majesty.
    The Lord is clothed in majesty
    and armed with strength.
The world is set,
    and it cannot be moved.
Lord, Your kingdom was set up long ago;
You are everlasting.
Psalm 93:1–2

Father, this world is Yours … everything in it. You speak the word and creation obeys.

Sometimes when I look around, I see a world in chaos. People turning on each other over ideology. Terrorism. War. Natural disasters. Personally, we are suffering with broken relationships, financial hardships, and health concerns. And we’re afraid.

Yet, nothing is new to You. You have always known the end from the beginning and You are always in control. Father, please help me keep my eyes focused on You, for You are able to make me strong today and give me the hope I need for tomorrow.

I begged the Lord three times to take
this problem away from me.
But He said to me,
“My grace is enough for you.
When you are weak,
my power is made perfect in you.”
So I am very happy to brag about my weaknesses.
Then Christ’s power can live in me.
For this reason, I am happy when
I have weaknesses, insults,
hard times, sufferings,
and all kinds of troubles for Christ.
Because when I am weak,
then I am truly strong.
2 Corinthians 12:8–10

Father, Help me remember that whatever I’m going through … Your grace is enough for today. Please help me remember that when my circumstances don’t change … when the struggle I’m facing doesn’t end.

I’ve prayed and prayed and You quietly remind me of Your more than enough grace. You are able to help me face today and I believe You will help me face tomorrow … because You have strengthened me through many yesterdays. Thank you!

I know Jesus is with me and Your Spirit is within me. I trust You to guide me. and give me all I need … joy in the midst of weakness and strength to live through this trouble with courage.

Thank you, Father. With Your help, I will be strong and live this day surrendered to You. By Your grace and for Your glory. Amen.

God knows exactly what you need to be strong.

He is with you.

And..

He will give you what you need today and what you need again tomorrow.

When I’m tempted to center my attention on my struggle and anxiously remind myself that I’m not enough … that I can’t, I will turn to the One who is able to give me exactly what I need through His grace, mercy, and love.

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Powerful Reasons Why It Is Good for You to Be Kind

6 / 24 / 196 / 24 / 19

It's important to be kind because kindness not only benefits the one who receives it ... kindness benefits the one who gives it. #BeKind #Kindness #Blessings #Friendship

Shh. I have a secret to tell you. Not something I’m proud of but if I’m being honest…

Some days I just don’t feel like being kind.

Some days I just want to focus on myself and give in to impatience, frustration, and annoyance.

There are the days I don’t feel great or I’m anxious about a problem or potential problem. And well, there are even days when I want to succumb to being self-indulgent and self-absorbed.

I know. Remember I said … it’s not something I’m proud of.

The truth is it’s hard to set aside my feelings and emotions in a constant effort to remain encouraging, and kind … and it’s especially hard with people who are selfish, cranky, and irritable.

Am I right?!

Go ahead, you can admit it! You’re safe here!

The thing is, it may be that being kind “matters” most … when it is hardest to give.

I know … that is not what you wanted right now. Not really what I was looking for either.

But whether you and I like it or not…

Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Colossians 3:12–13

The word “must” doesn’t give us other options, does it?

But there is good news!

God put a blessing in being kind.

Because kindness not only benefits the one who receives it … kindness benefits the one who gives it.

Here are some truths I’ve learned…

Powerful Reasons Why It Is Good for You to Be Kind

Be Kind – It makes you happier.

Did you know being kind boosts your serotonin and releases endorphins?

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter which contributes to a sense of well-being and feelings of happiness. Endorphins are “chemicals produced naturally by the nervous system to cope with pain or stress.”

Kind words are like honey … sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.
Proverbs 16:24

Be Kind – It helps you notice people over things.

Life feels like it’s moving so fast and distractions are everywhere. I’ll admit, I can get so lost in the doing that I miss wonderful moments with the people I care about.

Reminding myself to be kind, helps me see people and look for opportunities to help. And seeing and caring for the people God puts around me is a beautiful way to love like Jesus.

Kindness is a way I can give from the outpour of grace I have received.

Grace has to be the loveliest word in the English language. It embodies almost every attractive quality we hope to find in others. Grace is a gift of the humble to the humiliated. Grace acknowledges the ugliness of sin by choosing to see beyond it. Grace accepts a person as someone worthy of kindness despite whatever grime or hard-shell casing keeps him or her separated from the rest of the world. Grace is a gift of tender mercy when it makes the least sense.
Charles Swindoll

Be Kind – It helps cure loneliness.

I know of so many people who are lonely “in real life” even though they have hundreds of “friends” on social media. I shared 5 Psalms to Pray that will Help When Feel Lonely just the other day.

I’m learning it’s impossible for me to feel lonely when I’m doing something nice for someone else.

“Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.”
Mother Teresa

Be Kind – It reduces stress and anxiety.

People who make kindness a priority consistently have 23% less cortisol, which is the stress hormone.

A group of highly anxious individuals performed at least six acts
of kindness a week. After one month, there was a significant
increase in positive moods, relationship satisfaction and a decrease in social avoidance in socially anxious individuals.
University of British Columbia Study – RandomActsofKindness.org

Random acts of kindness can bring joy to both the giver and the receiver. Try to do at least one each day this week.
Vee Freir, Learn To Stress Less

Be Kind – It can lead to deeper conversations.

Kindness speaks with gentleness and respect. Kindness listens.

A gentle caring word and listening ear can open up a conversation and help us do a better job of understanding each other.

But deeper conversations take time – so an important part of being kind is slowing down long enough care about the hurting person behind the person in front of you.

Sometimes the person who is hardest to be kind to is the person who needs it most. You never know how much the person beside you is suffering.

“Speak in such a way as others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way as others love to speak to you.” ~Author Unknown

Be Kind – It might become contagious.

Don’t you love pay-it-forward stories?

One kind act inspires another and then another. I love how often people will pay an act of kindness forward. It’s possible you and I can start an endless chain reaction of kindness that goes on and on without even realizing it.

“A purposeful act or extension of kindness to another is never wasted, for it always resides in the hearts of all involved in a chain of love.”
Molly Friedenfeld

You and I have a choice…

I’ll admit, it’s easy for me to get self-absorbed and selfish. It’s even easier for me to be responsive and treat people the way I feel they’ve treated me.

That’s not what Jesus said, He gave us The Golden Rule…

“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you.”
Matthew 7:12

The thing is…

People are watching us. You and I are representing Christ Jesus wherever we go and those watching us are making decisions about Him based on what they see in us.

Friends, family, acquaintances, or even strangers . . . everyone benefits when you and I choose kindness.

So, with God’s help, I’m making it a priority to be kind. I want to practice it until it becomes a habit.

And the crazy blessing given to us by our awesome loving God is when you and I are kind to others it is actually good for us. How cool is that?!

One final quote with a few ideas to inspire us…

“One of the most spiritual things you can do is embrace your humanity. Connect with those around you today. Say, “I love you”, “I’m sorry”, “I appreciate you”, “I’m proud of you”…whatever you’re feeling. Send random texts, write a cute note, embrace your truth and share it…cause a smile today for someone else…and give plenty of hugs.”
Steve Maraboli

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5 Psalms to Pray that will Help When You Feel Lonely

6 / 20 / 196 / 21 / 19

We've never been more connected than we are today. Yet, more people say they feel lonely often. We're praying 5 Psalms that will help and give us hope. #Prayer #Hope #Loneliness #FeelLonely

We’ve never been more connected as a society than we are today.

Social media has given us more “friends” than ever before. We get clicks and likes and shares. We feel loved when something we share goes “viral” and unloved when something else is ignored.

Psychologists tell us that in spite of all the connections we have online, more and more people say they feel lonely … as we’ve replaced real-life relationships with online “friendships.”

Loneliness is something the Bible could refer to as being “common to man.”

Solomon says there is “nothing new under the sun.”

Since the first death, the first rejection, or the first time someone was left out … loneliness has been a part of our sin-infected world.

But God…

[Oh wow, those are my two favorite words!]

But God told us that He cares about the lonely … about widows and orphans and those who feel abandoned and forsaken.

So, if you include yourself among those who feel lonely today, please join me in praying…

5 Psalms to Pray that will Help When You Feel Lonely

Turn to me and have mercy,
for I am alone and in deep distress.
Psalm 25:16

Father, Thank you for David’s honesty. It helps me to know that my loneliness is not unique or at all unusual. Even the one You called “a man after my own heart” experienced distress … times when he felt like no one understood him or what he was doing through.

I get it! I think that’s where some of my loneliness comes from. I look around and it looks like so many others have their act together and well, I don’t even feel close to that.

I need You, Lord.

Why am I discouraged?
    Why is my heart so sad?
I will put my hope in God!
    I will praise Him again—
    my Savior and my God!
Psalm 43:5

Father, Why is it that I have these days when it feels like no one understands. I can be standing with people who clearly tell me they love me or be surrounded by a room full of people, and still … my thoughts make me feel isolated and alone.

Please be my encourager. I need You! I want to keep my focus on You, Lord. I want to think about all You have done for me in the past. I want to remember that this feeling is temporary.

You are my hope … my Savior and my God! Thank you!

He heals the brokenhearted
and bandages their wounds.
He counts the stars
and calls them all by name.
How great is our Lord! His power is absolute!
His understanding is beyond comprehension!
Psalm 147:3–5

Father, I am not alone. You are the One who created the heavens, counts the stars and knows their names. You created me and Your Word tells me You know everything about me … even the number of hairs on my head. (Matthew 10:30) That is beyond my ability to understand.

What I do understand … the times You have comforted my broken heart, the times You have given me hope when things appeared hopeless, the times You have forgiven me and covered me with Your love.

I am not alone! You are with me. Thank you, Lord!

The Lord keeps you from all harm
and watches over your life.
The Lord keeps watch over you
as you come and go,
both now and forever.
Psalm 121:7–8

Father, thank you for watching over me … for protecting me. Jesus promised to always be with those who trust and follow Him. (Matthew 28:20) He promised the Holy Spirit, the Helper, the Comforter. (John 14:16)

With You, I am never alone. You are with me to comfort, guide, and strengthen me. Please make me aware that You are watching over me wherever I am … always.

You are my peace, my strength, and my hope. Thank you, Lord! Amen.

You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!
Psalm 139:5–6

Father, Thank you! The truth-filled knowledge of Your constant loving presence in my life is wonderful! It is my greatest blessing.

When I’m feeling lonely, I’ll admit, I spend a lot of time thinking about myself. When I center my heart and mind on You and all You have done and continue to do for me, I experience Your hard to understand gift of peace and supernatural joy.

And then … I’m able to reach out. To look for someone else I might help or encourage and I know from experience the best way to be free of feelings of sadness, discouragement, and loneliness is to go out and bless someone who needs Your love and encouragement.

When I feel lonely, Lord, give me eyes to see those who are lonely around me, a heart that understands and cares, and the courage to reach out with Your love.

By Your grace and for Your glory. Amen.

When you feel lonely…

I love the above quote by Kay Arthur.

And this one from Elizabeth Elliot…

Loneliness comes over us sometimes as a sudden tide. It is one of the terms of our humanness, and, in a sense, therefore, incurable. Yet I have found peace in my loneliest times not only through acceptance of the situation but through making it an offering to God, who can transfigure it into something for the good of others.

Maybe their words are the perfect responses to those times I feel alone…

Rest in God’s perfect love, humbly lay my feelings at the throne of grace, and look for ways use my struggle with loneliness to bless someone else.

With God’s help … we can all feel lonely a little less often!

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5 of the Best Ways to Guard Your Heart and Love People

6 / 17 / 196 / 15 / 19

Learn how to guard your heart while remaining open and vulnerable ... but do it with God's help, wisdom, and discernment. Awesome relationship advice! #Relationships #Friendship #KnowtheTruth #FaithLife #Blessings

You were determined. Things were going to be different this year. You made relationship goals and you’re trying hard, really you are.

But there’s a problem. You brought last year’s baggage into this year’s efforts and your family and friends did the same.

Doubts, disappointments, failures … memories linger and somehow get in the way of the changes you were hoping to realize.

We’re almost half-way through the year and the desires and dreams you had in January … began to fade months ago.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to give up. I want to rekindle that spark of hope. So, I’m going to God’s Word for inspiration and ideas of changes I can make to guard my heart against recurring disappointments and maybe, just maybe, bless my relationships as well.

Kind Solomon wrote in Proverbs…

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
Proverbs 4:23

It sounds good but what exactly does it mean to “guard your heart”?

The dictionary defines guard this way…

to keep safe from harm and danger
to keep a close watch
to keep under control or restraint
to provide a safeguard

That’s the simple definition and it makes sense but how do you and I guard something as fragile as our hearts … especially when they are so vulnerable to the words and actions of the people around us.

If you’ve ever had your heart broken . . . you may believe “guard your heart” means never allowing yourself to be vulnerable again.

And I understand, sometimes living behind a protective wall feels safer and easier.

But you and I were made for community . . . for relationships. God wants us to live connected to Him and to each other and that means isolated living isn’t really an option, at least not a good one.

We need to learn how to remain open and vulnerable while also guarding our hearts … but doing so with wisdom and discernment.

And that is not easy!

So, here are 5 ways I believe you and I can guard our hearts and bless our relationships.

5 of the Best Ways to Guard Your Heart
and Love People

1. Know God’s Truth to Defeat Lies

The enemy of our souls is constantly whispering distractions and defeat. His goal is to rob our peace, devastate our efforts, and ruin our relationships.

If you and I want to live in community with guarded hearts, it’s essential for us to know the truth.

God’s truth.

Jesus said, “I tell you the truth,” 78 times. Truth for life and truth about relationships.

When the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on His own but will tell you what He has heard.
John 16:13

God’s Word is full of relationship advice but it’s hard for you and me to apply it if we don’t know it.

The more we fill our hearts and minds with God’s truth the easier it is to guard our hearts while still remaining open, caring, patient, and kind.

I’m holding onto Colossians 3 as a reminder:

Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.
Colossians 3:12–15

2. Carefully Control Your Thoughts

Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
Philippians 4:8

I bet you wanted to start with an easy one!

Thoughts pop in from everywhere. If you’re like me, you find it almost impossible to remain focused on the true, pure, and lovely aspects of life; especially when opposing views are so readily available.

And that’s true in our relationships as well.

Old habits are hard to break. Annoying behaviors get on our nerves. Conversations turn into arguments and hurt feelings leave us thinking about anything and everything but things like truth, respect, kindness, and love.

You and I can guard our hearts by…

Addressing problems kindly, calmly, and quickly. Forgiving fast. Refusing to bring up the past.

And giving thanks for small steps of progress believing that God has hope-filled plans for the future.

3. Pray for Wisdom and Strength

Plain and simple … I need God’s wisdom in my relationships.

I need God’s help! It’s impossible for me to apply verses like the one above without His help!

Honestly, I can’t tell you how often I’ve had to go to the Lord praying…

“I don’t want to be merciful, kind, humble, gentle and patient right now. I’m hurt, frustrated, and angry. Please help me see this person the way You see them and help me love like Jesus.”

Or…

“I don’t know how to handle this situation. Please reveal the truth to me, guide my thoughts, and show me what to do and say going forward. Help me set wise boundaries and bless this relationship with Your grace, mercy, and love.”

If you do not have wisdom, ask God for it. He is always ready to give it to you and will never say you are wrong for asking.

And…

The wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.
James 1:5 (NLV) and James 3:17 (NLT)

I love that the Lord wants to bless us with wisdom and tells us what it looks like!

4. Love Yourself God’s Way

I’m not very good at self-love when it comes to pats on the back and pep talks.

It’s important to stop and remember just how much God loves us!

In perfect wisdom … He cares for, provides, protects, comforts, strengthens, and saves us!

Loving ourselves means … caring for our bodies, minds, emotions, and souls. For more details about loving yourself God’s way click here.

I love this quote about God’s love by Jerry Bridges…

“God’s unfailing love for us is an objective fact affirmed over and over in the Scriptures. It is true whether we believe it or not. Our doubts do not destroy God’s love, nor does our faith create it. It originates in the very nature of God, who is love, and it flows to us through our union with His beloved Son.”

And it is God’s unfailing love flowing into and through us that helps us love others.

5. Love Others as You Love Yourself

It’s easy to think of love as a warm fuzzy feeling of affection you and I have for people who are precious to us.

But I don’t believe that’s what Jesus meant when He said…

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Matthew 19:19, Mark 12:31, and Luke 10:27

Loving others as we love ourselves is caring for them physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It is love that is caring and kind, forgiving and patient … it reflects the love of Jesus.

Which is another reason why I need God’s help! My selfish nature absolutely can’t do that on its own.

Trust God with the Rest

Sometimes I think guarding our hearts this way only works in a perfect world. In a world where you and I are dealing with imperfect people like us … we must do our best to do what we can and trust the rest to the Lord’s loving care!

Guard Your Heart

Friends, your heart is precious. It is the core of who you are. What you believe takes root in your heart and reveals itself in your words and actions.

The Message paraphrases Solomon’s words this way…

Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts. Don’t talk out of both sides of your mouth; avoid careless banter, white lies, and gossip. Keep your eyes straight ahead; ignore all sideshow distractions. Watch your step, and the road will stretch out smooth before you. Look neither right nor left; leave evil in the dust.
Proverbs 4:23

That’s awesome relationship advice!

Remember…

You are precious to God. The people around you are precious to Him, too. Guard your heart with His truth, reflect His love, and trust Him to help you with the rest.

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5 Verses to Pray When You Want to Seek God First

6 / 13 / 196 / 14 / 19

I want to get up each morning and seek God first. I want to live surrendered and free in Jesus! But it takes prayer. So, I'm praying 5 verses asking for the Spirit's help. #Prayer #Faith #SeekGodFirst #Blessings #BlessingBloggers

SEEK was my word for 2018, and I chose Luke 12:31 as my verse…

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and He will give you everything you need.

At the end of the year, I knew there was no moving on. Seek went from being my word for the year to being my word for life!

I think the reason it’s so important to me is because giving God first place in my life was something I struggled with for much of my life. I believed and trusted in Jesus for my salvation but I also struggled to surrender myself completely.

Satan had planted a seed of doubt … one that told me much was asked of those who surrendered completely. So, I held back just a little because I doubted God’s ability to strengthen me through my “what if” fears.

But I was wrong!

Life is hard whether we’re surrendered or not. Bad things happen to the faith-filled and to those without faith. But by God’s grace, I’ve learned that God is greater than my circumstances, even when they are painful and unwanted!

The Lord provided everything I needed through a season of overwhelming events and proved He is able to give me everything I need whatever my situation. I can now say…

I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.
Romans 8:38

He gave me what I needed when I needed it! Never early. Never late. But right on time.

Now I cling to verses like…

God is our refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble.

And…

“My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”
Psalm 46:1 and 2 Corinthians 12:9

I want to get up each morning and seek God first. I want to live surrendered and free in Jesus!

But it takes prayer. So, today I’m praying 5 verses asking for the Spirit’s help to…

Seek God First

Search for the Lord and for His strength; continually seek Him.
1 Chronicles 16:11

Father, Seeking is not a “sit back, wait and see” way of life. It’s spending time in Your Word, coming to You in prayer, and worshipping You in spirit and truth. Seeking is realizing I’m lost without You. It’s recognizing my need for Your mercy and grace. And it’s living a life of gratitude for Your gift of love … Jesus, the One who “came to seek and to save those who are lost” like me. Please help me continually seek You today!

Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.
Proverbs 3:6

Father, I want to trust and obey Your will faithfully but I fall short. Please forgive me and help me. Your Word says repentance is more than just saying I’m sorry; it is intentionally wanting to change. It’s trusting Your Word as truth and obeying Your will. It’s being willing to accept Your help in stepping off the path I’m on to take the path You want for me. Please help me apply these truths to my life.

The Lord is good to those who depend on Him, to those who search for Him.So it is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord.
Lamentations 3:25–26

Father, I hear You whisper, “be still and know … cease striving” but it’s hard Lord. My life feels like it’s spinning. Do this. Be there. Check this box. Finish that project. Run this errand. Help. Serve. Accomplish. I’m exhausted! I need You! I am stopping right now … stopping to surrender and breathe in Your goodness.

By Your grace, help me remember, I don’t have to do this alone. Your Spirit is with me to counsel and guide. Make me constantly aware of Your sweet presence as I depend on Your truth to guide me and give me strength.

Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.
Matthew 6:21

Father, I know when I have You, I have everything I need. But the world shouts at me. My schedule harasses me. Some days … life simply wears me out.

With the help of Your Spirit, turn my focus from the chaos and desires of the world to the treasure I have in You. Fill me with Your peace. Help me replace the noise of life with the simple sounds of worship and praise. Give me a passion for Your Word and prayer. Be my treasure and my heart’s desire. Satisfy me with Your love.

Give thanks to the Lord and proclaim His greatness. Let the whole world know what He has done. Search for the Lord and for His strength; continually seek Him. Remember the wonders He has performed, His miracles, and the rulings He has given,
Psalm 105:1,4–5

Father, Thank you! When I remember all You have done in the past, I’m overwhelmed by Your grace and mercy. You have sustained and strengthened, healed and helped, provided and protected. I am overwhelmed. Thank you!

I surrender this day to You. I will follow where You lead and obey Your will as You reveal it to me. I will seek You with all I am and love You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength. Please fill me with Your Spirit that I might willingly and faithfully keep this promise … by Your grace and for Your glory.

Seek God First

Jesus promised…

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.
Luke 12:31

Everything! And the next verse…

So don’t be afraid … it gives your Father great happiness to give You the kingdom.
Luke 12:32

Great happiness! Wow! What a blessing it is to know our prayers to “seek God first,” are prayers our Father loves to answer!

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Jesus is the One Who Can Unite People in a Call Out World

6 / 10 / 196 / 10 / 19

Is it okay to call out all the people with whom we disagree? What about other Christians? I've challenged myself to find out what the Bible says. #BibleStudy #ChristianCommunity #SocialMedia #CountingMyBlessings

Eight years ago, I spent the months of June and July updating my passport, getting the required vaccines, and trying to figure out what in the world I should pack. Each day spent getting ready to travel to Bolivia as a member of the World Vision Bolivia Bloggers Team.

I was considerably older than the rest of the team’s members and I definitely had the smallest platform … I’m still in awe of the ways God worked to graciously allow me to go on this life-changing trip.

If you’re curious about the trip itself … you can learn more here.

The trip itself is not the reason for this post.

You see, the reason I’m writing this is … I met Rachel Held Evans that week.

I chose not to speak out while she was ill and following her death. But recently, I’ve felt the Lord’s nudge to share some thoughts with you.

Not as much thoughts about Rachel as thoughts about the rest of us.

You see, I struggle with being judgmental. There is something self-righteously satisfying about stopping to call out the people we deem”false teachers.” The people we believe are doing or say “it” wrong. Whatever we decide “it” is.

Honestly, I caught myself being guilty again just the other day.

So, I’m definitely not here to preach at you. Like you, I’m on a journey of faith … honestly sharing the things the Lord lays on my heart. They are things I need to hear and so I wonder if you might need them too.

Back to Bolivia and meeting Rachel…

Rachel and the others in the group were the ages of my children. Their life experiences differed from mine in almost every way. Although, I probably shared my thoughts with them more than I’d like to admit … I hope I asked lots of questions and listened intentionally because several of their ideas were new to me and I wanted to know more.

Rachel was in the middle of writing her book – A Year of Biblical Womanhood.

The following is the first paragraph of the book’s synopsis on Amazon.

Strong-willed and independent, Rachel Held Evans couldn’t sew a button on a blouse before she embarked on a radical life experiment—a year of biblical womanhood. Intrigued by the traditionalist resurgence that led many of her friends to abandon their careers to assume traditional gender roles in the home, Evans decides to try it for herself, vowing to take all of the Bible’s instructions for women as literally as possible for a year.

I smiled as I read those words because I don’t remember Rachel, as being strong-willed, although I’ll admit I only spent a week with her.

What I do remember about her is her smile and willingness to laugh, her kindness, and her passion for the children and families we were visiting and her heart for the ministry of World Vision.

Did I agree with everything that was said that week? No.

But I cared for and about everyone on the trip … including Rachel. When I heard she was ill, I prayed and prayed and prayed that God would heal her. And it broke my heart to learn she had died.

There was something else that broke my heart…

People using that heart-breaking time to say cruel and hateful things about her on social media because they disagreed with what she wrote.

Jesus is the One Who Can Unite People in a Call Out World

So, why am I writing about this now weeks later?

Last week, the Lord tapped me on the shoulder as I was read the following in Jonah and 1 John…

Jonah didn’t want to go to Nineveh.

Why? Because Jonah hated the Assyrians and believed they deserved God’s judgment. Jonah had judged them and believed they deserved whatever God’s punishment.

So, when God asked him to go and “deliver the message” … Jonah took off in the opposite direction.

Which is how he found himself in the belly of a big fish.

God graciously and mercifully turned him around and gave him a second opportunity to obey. Which he did.

Jonah went to Nineveh and gave them God’s message:

“Forty days from now Nineveh will be destroyed!”
Jonah 3:4

And do you know what happened?

The people of Nineveh believed God’s message, and from the greatest to the least, they declared a fast and put on burlap to show their sorrow.
Jonah 3:5

But Jonah was not happy…

“Didn’t I say before I left home that You would do this, Lord? That is why I ran away to Tarshish! I knew that You are a merciful and compassionate God, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. You are eager to turn back from destroying people.
Jonah 4:2

As I sat there pondering my own judgmental attitudes, I turned to my New Testament reading in 1 John 2:

Dear friends, I am not writing a new commandment for you; rather it is an old one you have had from the very beginning. This old commandment—to love one another—is the same message you heard before.
1 John 2:7

So, my heart was hearing … don’t judge people—love them!

I kept reading…

If anyone claims, “I am living in the light,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is still living in darkness. Anyone who loves a fellow believer is living in the light and does not cause others to stumble.
1 John 2:9

The Life Application Bible Notes say:

John’s words focus on the attitude that causes us to ignore or despise others, to treat them as irritants, competitors, or enemies. Christian love is not a feeling but a choice. We can choose to be concerned with people’s well being and treat them with respect, whether or not we feel affection toward them.

And I would add, whether or not we agree with them.

The LAB Notes also say:

Love should be the unifying force and identifying mark of the Christian community. Love is the key to walking in the light.

Friends, you and I are representing Jesus to the world. Why would anyone want what we have … when we publicly ridicule, condemn, and call out those with whom we disagree.

When we don’t agree, you and I are called to speak the truth in love.

Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of His body, the church.
Ephesians 4:15

Maybe we need to be more focused on love because too often we forget that part, choosing to speak the truth with a sledgehammer.

What if speaking the truth in love looked more like…

Worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it. But do this in a gentle and respectful way.
1 Peter 2:15b–16

What if we did a better job of humbly telling our own broken stories that share the transforming power of God’s love!

What if we just told people about Jesus, the One who not only knows the truth but who is the Truth and the Way and the Life.

You see, He’s the One who prayed..

Now I am departing from the world; they are staying in this world, but I am coming to you. Holy Father, You have given me Your name; now protect them by the power of Your name so that they will be united just as we are.
John 17:11

He prayed for us to be united by His love and I want to honor Jesus’ prayer.

So, I’m asking God to give me eyes to see everyone as a soul desperately in need of His love. I’m asking Him to make me gracious and merciful in the way I treat others. I’m asking Him to help me listen more and call out less.

Because…

I don’t want people to know the truth according to Deb. I want people to know Jesus and experience the power of His transforming love.

1 John 4:8 says:

God is love!

Overwhelming love! Love who never gives up … who mercifully and patiently seeks out people and transforms lives.

Love who can unite people in a broken and sinful world. Love who can heal hearts and relationships. Love who has promised us LIFE!

I want to care more about people and less about being right. I want to treat everyone with caring kindness and compassion. And I want to be silent when I’m tempted to call out.

I’m praying with the help of the Holy Spirit, I will do a better job of loving like Jesus.

Will you please pray with me?

Father, thank you for faithfully showing me Your grace, mercy, and love. Please, please forgive me for failing to extend the same grace, mercy, and love to others. Please help me realize that I don’t have to agree with someone to be respectful, caring, and compassionate. Help me to be a better example of Your love in my home, at work, at church, in my community, and online. Unite us, Father, by Your love. In the name of Jesus. By Your grace and for Your glory. Amen.

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Know What You Believe and Why – The Logic of God

6 / 6 / 196 / 7 / 19

I jumped at the opportunity to review Ravi Zacharias’ new book, The Logic of God and I can’t wait to share it with you.

If you want to ground your beliefs on the truth and feel more comfortable sharing what you believe, The Logic of God by Ravi Zacharias, is for you. #BookReview #Faith #Christian #CountingMyBlessings

I love that Zacharias says this in his introduction…

God wants us to know Him personally and live out our faith day by day in meaningful ways, but the noise, chaos, clutter, and busyness of life so often overwhelm that we find it difficult, if not impossible. We also can just routinely go through life not even conscious of His existence and end up trapped in a vicious cycle of wrong thinking and believing…

You see, everyone has a worldview … an idea about how it all began, what it means, who and what defines right and wrong, and how it all ends.

We all want answers! We want something to believe and a reason to believe. We want Truth!

The Logic of God

The test for that truth includes three questions…

Is it consistent and lasting?
Is it relevant to my life?
Is it based on fact/history?

When submitted to these tests, the Christian message is utterly unique and meets the demands for truth.

This book will make you think … in a good way.

It’s divided into 52 chapters and Pastor Zacharias recommends that the reader take a week to challenge and stir his/her heart and mind with the text, questions and applications.

I couldn’t wait a whole week to start the next “experience.” So, I’ve been reading it more quickly but keep going back to the section I want to focus on to flesh out each truth for myself.

If you want to ground your beliefs on the truth … a truth you’ll feel more comfortable sharing as you tell your personal story, this book is for you as it faithfully points to Jesus—the Way, the Truth, and the Life … the one and only way to the Father.

Quotes from The Logic of God:

Truth can exist only if there is an objective standard by which to measure it. That objective, unchanging absolute is God, further revealed to us in the person of Christ.

There is only one place in the world where love, forgiveness, and justice come together, and that is at the cross.

Might we sit still long enough to take in what God has for us? That is the greatest investment we will ever make.

And my favorites…

The weighty differences of worldviews can separate us from others but in my work of offering a defense of the Christian faith, I know firsthand they can be discussed without compromise and without animosity, with gentleness and respect … It is critically important to know that behind every belief is a believer and behind every question is a questioner.

Christianity is not a religion or perspective; it is God’s self-disclosure in Christ!

Book Description:

Jesus Christ alone answers our deepest questions.

We all have doubts that challenge our faith. We wonder whether the Bible still matters, or whether God is truly as loving and personal as we hope. In his first ever devotional, The Logic of God, apologist Ravi Zacharias offers 52 readings that explain how and why Christianity, the Bible, and God are still relevant, vital, and life-changing for us today. To all our dilemmas Ravi says, “I am convinced that Jesus Christ alone uniquely answers the deepest questions of our hearts and minds.”

With a remarkable grasp of biblical facts and a deep understanding of the questions that trouble our hearts, Ravi tackles the most difficult topics with ease and understanding. But The Logic of God is more than intellectual; it is also personal, offering thoughtful wisdom on:

when Jesus draws especially near you.

the deep ray of hope found in God’s Word.

how God transforms disappointments.

why prayer matters.

how genuine peace is possible.

making sense of suffering.

Ravi makes profound biblical truth easy to understand. And if your life is busy, this book is designed for you! It addresses 52 topics that you can read over the course of one year or slowly digest at your own pace. Each entry includes a Scripture, questions for reflection, and some practical application steps.

When you’re struggling with questions and doubts, confused, curious, or just want a clearer way to express your faith The Logic of God has answers that satisfy the heart and the mind.

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When You Need to Know God Never Changes

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I have something to confess…

When life feels fragile and the news is upsetting, I need to remember that God never changes and wisdom says there is nothing new under the sun. #Faith #BibleStudy #Wisdom #Truth #SeekFirst

I can be a pretty passionate hand-wringer.

I know, I’ve told you I’m in recovery when it comes to worry and anxiety, and I am … really! At least that’s what I tell myself. (Picture an awkward smile here.)

But the truth is … the news, a controversial post on social media, or a divisive op-ed can agitate me in a matter of seconds.

When I see the ways the enemy is at work trying to turn us against each other, I’ll admit I occasionally find myself worrying about the future for us, for our children and our grandchildren.

I’ve even been known to do a little ranting about it on occasion. Based on the emails I receive, and the posts and comments I read online … I’m not the alone in this struggle.

Which is why I’m stopping today to remind myself of one very important truth…

God Never Changes!

It’s easy to look around, focus on the negative, and get upset when it seems like culture is on a path to self-destruction. But take a look at the wisdom of Solomon…

History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new.
Ecclesiastes 1:9

When I read through Bible as history … the evidence is clear, sin has been sin since the Garden.

People are selfish, prideful, and power hungry. They manipulate the truth for personal gain and do what it takes for popularity.

But God said about Himself through James…

Don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters. Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.
James 1:16–17

And through the writer of Hebrews, He said this…

God also bound Himself with an oath, so that those who received the promise could be perfectly sure that He would never change His mind. So God has given both His promise and His oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie.
Hebrews 6:17–18a

And the promise is Jesus…

These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to Him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God’s inner sanctuary. Jesus has already gone in there for us. He has become our eternal High Priest.
Hebrews 18b–19

Which makes me stop and ask the question…

How do I keep my hope anchored on the truth when the world shouts louder than God’s gentle whisper?

And that’s when I realize this 3-part answer…

1. Read God’s Word – Old and New Testaments.

I know, life is busy and our time is limited. So, if you and I are able to find time to read our Bibles at all, it’s tempting to stick with the parts that are interesting and easier to understand.

I get it … traveling through the wilderness with the Children of Israel can seem like it’s actually taking 40 years and it’s easy to wonder how the accounts of judges and kings apply to the 21st Century. But reading through the Old Testament reminds me how often I sound like a whiney wilderness wanderer and begin to know that it’s true … “nothing under the sun is truly new.”

This year I’m following the Bible Reading Plan at the back of the Life Application Bible. It “offers a complete view of Scripture and does so without being overwhelming” by skipping repeated material. I have a little more time for study this year, so I decided to add a Psalm or a few verses from Proverbs, and a section from my favorite books of the New Testament (John, Romans, or 1, 2, 3 John).

As I’m reading, I write the verses that stand out to me in my journal and when I’m done I write a prayer based on what I’ve read.

So, part #2 is…

2. Pray

About everything always!

Never stop praying.
1 Thessalonians 5:17

Devote yourselves to prayer with an alert mind and a thankful heart.
Colossians 4:2

You and I can trust the God who promises to hear us…

This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.
1 John 5:14

And calm our fears…

I prayed to the Lord, and He answered me. He freed me from all my fears.
Psalm 34:4

Because He loves us…

God showed how much He loved us by sending His one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through Him.
1 John 4:9

I haven’t always kept a prayer journal but I’ve discovered this year that I love writing my prayers. Putting my words on paper slows me down and helps me really think about what I’m praying. And I love being able to go back and see the ways God has worked on my heart and mind as I’ve cried out to Him.

The next one is important. At least it is for me…

3. Take the Philippians Challenge.

Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise … then the God of peace will be with you.
Philippians 4:19, 20b

Last week, I made the decision to stop following anything or anyone that posts negative rants on social media and I stopped watching all news outlets.

I get to choose what I read, listen to, and watch. I also need to carefully choose what I think about and I’ve decided that for me, it’s self-defeating to dine on a constant diet of messages that discourage my mind and hurt my heart.

When I do these three things, I am better able to…

Trust the God Who Never Changes

The One who has faithfully kept His promises in the past and will keep His promises in the future … God never changes!

What makes me so sure?

He gave us Jesus, the fulfillment of all God’s promises … from the Word spoken in the Garden, to kings and prophets—Jesus is God’s answer.

And when I’m “still.” When I fix my focus on Jesus. When I listen to the Holy Spirit … I’m not worried!

When the Father sends the Advocate as my representative—that is, the Holy Spirit—He will teach you everything and will remind you of everything I have told you.

“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.
John 14:26–27

Because God, who created everything, sent Jesus to suffer our punishment and give us eternal life. And for today’s struggle, He has given us His Spirit’s presence to help us remember the truth about His grace, mercy, and love.

So, I’m taking some time to turn away from the stuff that agitates me and spending more time thanking God for the gift of the peace I have in Jesus. And with the Holy Spirit as my Helper … I will reject hand-wringing and remember – God never changes!

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5 Verses to Pray When You Have a Broken Heart

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When life as you know it falls apart and you have a broken heart it's hard to find the words to pray. 5 Scripture-based prayers for your broken heart. #Relationships #Prayer #BrokenHeart #Faith #CountingMyBlessings

I’ve had countless nights when I’ve taken a long list of concerns to God before sleep arrived.

I’ve had many sleepless nights when our problems felt immense and words eluded me … when I just kept repeating “please help us.”

And I’ve had a handful of times when there simply were no words at all. Times when I found myself curled up in a ball trying to hold together a heart that had been shattered into a million pieces.

When life as you know it falls apart and you have a broken heart it’s hard to pray, isn’t it?

Even when you and I know that praying is the very thing we need to do, it’s hard when the only thing we can think about is HOW MUCH THIS HURTS!

When I’m heartbroken and my emotions are reeling out of control … I need help. I need someone to pray with me and for me. I need someone to remind me that God is sovereign and nothing happens in my life beyond His loving care and concern.

So, I’m writing prayers for us. Prayers you can pray when you have a broken heart. Maybe that day is today. Maybe it will be someday in the future. Whenever or whatever … God wants us to bring our brokenness to Him in prayer.

5 Verses to Pray When You Have a Broken Heart

He heals the brokenhearted
    and bandages their wounds.
He counts the stars
    and calls them all by name.
How great is our Lord! His power is absolute!
    His understanding is beyond comprehension!
Psalm 147:3–5

Father, You know the name of every star in the universe. You know how many hairs there are on the top of my head. You know my heart is shattered. In fact, right now, it feels like it will never be whole again and I’m terrified.

I need You! I would love for You to change my circumstances. I want You to turn back the clock and make this all disappear but even if You won’t … I need You!

Please hold me close. Please heal my broken heart. Please heal my wounded spirit. You see my pain. You understand my circumstances. And I believe You are able!

And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will.And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.
Romans 28:26–28

Father, These words comfort me.

Thank you for giving me Your Spirit … with me and within me. Thank you for praying for me. Thank you for knowing what I need even when I don’t. I believe You are able to bring something good out of this. Your promise says You use everything, even painful circumstances, to bring about the good You want in my life. So, even though I don’t understand right now, even though this hurts and the future looks blurry, I will trust You because I love You!

“Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you.
I have called you by name; you are mine.
When you go through deep waters,
I will be with you.
Isaiah 43:1b–2a

Father, I’ll admit I’m afraid right now. Everything feels fragile and uncertain. But Your Word says, I belong to You and promises that when I go through difficult times that frighten me … You are with me.

Please give me a real sense of Your presence. Hold me. Help me trust Your perfect love and saving grace.

Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.
1 Peter 5:7

Father, I give this all to You. I give You my uncertainty, my worry, and my fear. This world can be hard. People hurt each other. There is so much suffering. I can’t do this on my own. I need You. Please help me. With Your Spirit’s help, I will trust Your love and stay focused on You. I will remember all You have done for me in the past confident that You will give me everything I need today. I will “be still and know” that You are the God who saves me. Thank you.

Whom have I in heaven but you?
    I desire You more than anything on earth.
My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak,
    but God remains the strength of my heart;
    He is mine forever.
Psalm 73:225–26

Father, I desire You more than anything. I love You! I believe that through Jesus death and resurrection I am forgiven and fully alive. I trust the promise that You have already supplied everything I need through Jesus. (based on Philippians 4:19)

So, when my health fails or when I have a broken heart, I will turn to You. Because You alone are able to heal me. You are able to put the pieces of my broken heart back together and give me the strength I need!

I belong to You! You hold me and guide me. With Your Spirit’s help, I can give You my brokenness and start to live with hope and joy.

By Your grace and for Your glory. In Jesus name. Amen.

Friend…

If you clicked over to these prayers because you have a broken heart, I’m so sorry. Please leave a comment here or over on the Blessing Counters Pray Page and we will pray for you.

If you’re here because you are a regular reader and you’re doing well right now, you may want to save these prayers for the future.

Jesus said…

“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth, you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”
John 16:33

Yes, Jesus has overcome the world.

And I can tell you from experience, He has overcome the power of a broken heart. I know because He is the strength of my heart, my Healer, and my source of hope and joy!

If you’re struggling and you have a broken heart today, check out … Things You Need to Do That Will Heal Your Broken Heart.

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