We have a sign hanging in our house that reads…
Be Nicer than Necessary!
And another that reads…
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.” ~ John Wesley
But it’s hard to be consistently nice, isn’t it?
Somedays you just don’t feel like it. You’re in a bad mood. You don’t feel well. Or it seems like everyone you talk to is cranky and unkind.
And it’s those cranky and unkind people who tempt us to keep score.
Are you a score keeper?
Do you have a mental tally sheet for acts of kindness?
Do you keep track of the number of marks by your name so you can decide when it’s time for your friends and family to ante up?
It’s Time to Toss Your Tally Sheet
Because being nice will bless you and make your life better.
Here are just some of the ways…
7 Ways Being Nice will Make Your Life Better
1. Will make you happier.
Being nice just feels good. It’s amazing how you can turn a bad mood around just by being nice to someone. Smile – people will smile back at you. Hearing that “thank you” for a random act of kindness will encourage you.
There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy and so many beautiful people to be happy with.
Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ. Ephesians 4:32
2. Will help you notice people over things.
It’s so easy to focus on our phones and building our “kingdoms.” When you and I make an extra effort to be nice to everyone we connect and build relationships.
“Let your smile change the world, don’t let the world change your smile.” ~Author Unknown
Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith. Galatians 6:10
3. Will help cure loneliness.
I know so many people who are lonely “in real life” even though they have hundreds of “friends on social media. Sometimes doing something kind for someone else is all it takes to make a connection that turns into a lasting friendship.
“The world is full of nice people. If you can’t find one, be one!” ~Author Unknown
Two people are better than one because they get more done by working together. Ecclesiastes 4:9
4. Shows people you respect and value them.
Being kind is one of the best ways to show humility and respect to others.
All of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude. 1 Peter 3:8
Always be humble, gentle, and patient, accepting each other in love. Ephesians 4:2
5. Leads to deeper conversation.
It’s easy for conversations to shut down when disagreements turn unkind. But oh, the ways a gentle and caring word can reopen the dialogue and help us do a better job of understanding each other.
“Speak in such a way as others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way as others love to speak to you.” ~Author Unknown
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. Proverbs 31:26
6. Is absolutely free.
Being nice won’t cost you a thing and the payback is huge. That’s a great return on any investment. And God’s grace and kindness inspires you and me to be generous with others.
“The cost of a thing is the amount of what I will call life which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run.” ~Henry David Thoreau
He is so rich in kindness and grace that He purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins. Ephesians 1:7
7. Is contagious.
I love how often people will pay a kindness forward. When you are nice to someone you may be starting an endless chain reaction that goes on and on.
“A purposeful act or extension of kindness to another is never wasted, for it always resides in the hearts of all involved in a chain of love.” ~Molly Friedenfeld
Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favor with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation. Proverbs 3:3–4
You and I could almost be nice simply for selfish reasons!
The paybacks are huge.
But it takes a change in attitude. It takes caring about others. It takes following The Golden Rule.
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. Matthew 7:12
One more thing, remember…
People are watching. You and I are representing Christ Jesus everywhere we go and those watching us are making up their mind about Him by what they see in us.
There are countless reasons for being nice and yet it’s so easy for us to get self-absorbed and forget the emotional needs of the people with whom we cross paths.
Friend, family, acquaintance, or stranger . . . everyone benefits when we choose kindness.
So make being nice a priority. Practice until it’s a habit.
Because you and I can change the world one “nicer than necessary“ moment at a time and at the very least . . . we’ll improve ours.
So take moment to memorize Colossians 3:12.
Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
Carry it in your heart, apply it to your life, it will bless you!
People with a heart for God have a heart for people.
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