Everyone knows one – a Christian bully. It should be an oxymoron, but unfortunately it’s not. But it’s not too late to change.
Shouldn’t that be an oxymoron?
Sadly, it’s not.
You may not call it bullying. You may call it just voicing your beliefs and opinions, but if you’re mean and belittling—based on the definition above . . . you are bullying.
I’m not saying you and I have to agree with everything we read. I’m not a member of the political correctness police. I simply believe it’s possible to disagree without being ugly. I also believe we hurt the name of Christ when we call ourselves Christian and we’re mean.
I felt the need to talk about this after reading through a Facebook conversation that bothered me. A frustrated mom asked for help, and although she received some ideas and things to try, others were well . . . much less than kind.
Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Post a Comment
The next time you get ready to click the enter button to leave a comment on a blog post, in a chat room, or a Facebook group please ask yourself the following questions:
- How would I feel if someone said this to me? To my child?
- Would I say this if I found myself face to face with this person?
- Would I say this to a friend? To someone I wanted to be my friend?
- Could this be misunderstood or interpreted as being uncaring or unkind?
- Is this good? Is it helpful? Really?
- What is my intention?
- What do I want this comment to accomplish? Is that likely?
- Does this comment glorify God?
Remember . . . your words have the ability to would more than you think.
I love this verse from Colossians:
Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Colossians 3:12
I promised to share inspiring stories of faith, hope, and love with you this year, and I want to live up to that promise. So I looked for a positive story that referenced bullying, and found…
“It’s Not Too Late to Change”
This is the story of Cameron Thompson, a seven-year-old second grader who is working hard to make amends after teasing another boy in his class for bringing a Barbie doll to school for show and tell.
When Cameron launched the group this spring with the help of the boy he teased, 76 kids showed up on the first day, blowing past the school’s expectations.
The principal says bullying is down in the school district thanks to what she calls positive peer pressure.
And Cameron now says:
“If somebody was bullying another person or teasing, I would say stop and that’s not funny and you should accept a person for who they are.” he said. “It’s not too late to change.”
Friends, it’s not too late to change.
Maybe it’s time for us to start a group. Women who are willing to stand up for each other publicly, privately, and online. Women willing to say “stop” and “that’s not funny.” Women willing to encourage each other and stop competing.
Why do we try to build ourselves up by tearing each other down?
I believe that like me . . . you are trying hard and doing your best. You love the Lord and want to love and trust Him more. You love your family. You put your all into raising your children. You pray for them and want them to mature into faith-filled happy successful adults.
You work away from home, at home or both. Your children go to public school, private school, or are homeschooled. You’re conservative, liberal, or somewhere between. You are tall, short, thin, thick, with a skin tone that is yours alone.
You are beautiful and you’re doing your best.
So is your sister, friend, coworker, and neighbor. Love her. Help her. Encourage her. Like Cameron, you and I can change. We can make things better. We can refuse to take part in bullying. We can refuse to stand by quietly when someone else is bullying.
It’s not too late to change. We can reject our inner Christian bully and love better.