How’s Your Marriage? Here’s Help and Hope

Sharing is caring!

A review of Juana Mikels book, Choosing Him All Over Again - a story of romance and redemption.

How’s your marriage?

No really.

How’s your marriage?

Good? Great? Not great? Not even good? On the brink?

I know when I’m struggling with anything it helps to know I’m not alone. That someone understands what I’m going through. It helps even more to know the person who understands is on the other side and willing to bless me with some hard learned wisdom, advice, and hope.

This post is part of the Choosing Him Blog Tour which I am delighted to be a part of along with nearly one hundred other inspiring Christian bloggers. To learn more and join us, CLICK HERE


I recently read Choosing Him All Over Again – A Story of Romance and Redemption by Juana Mikels.

Author Elizabeth Elliot wrote the following:

[Tweet “I wish all those whose marriages are in trouble could know Juana’s story. “]

This excellent book is raw, honest, and filled with Biblical truth. Juana is true to the story saying:

I’ve written Choosing Him All Over Again the way I did, ending and all, because that’s the way it happened—to me. My story is a story of romance and redemption, with twists and turns that will leave you thinking at different points that you have it all figured out, only to find out that you don’t. By reading the whole story, you’ll be able to see how God mysteriously works over the course of our lives.

She begins Chapter One like this:

I VIVIDLY REMEMBER WRITING THE note that October night. It stands out in my mind as if it were written with a permanent marker. It was a defining moment, a pivotal decision. It felt like an awakening.

[Tweet “With a growing intensity, I decided that I wanted out of my marriage.”]

Did she draw you in? I’m not surprised she drew me in too, and held my attention throughout as she shared how the Lord pulled her close and changed her views on life, love, and marriage.

Screen Shot 2015-01-09 at 3.41.49 PM

Juana Mikels wrote her own story of how God saved her marriage along with practical teaching on faith and marriage written out of her own failure, pointing us all to Jesus Christ who has the power to change lives and marriages. You can get a copy here HERE. Or on Kindle HERE.

There is also a FREE downloadable companion Choosing Him Bible Study Guide is HERE!

I’m thankful to have been part of the Choosing Him All Over Again Blog Team. The Mikels’ story is a blessing for anyone married or thinking of marriage. It’s one that makes clear that a “cord of three strands” is not easily broken. Visit Juana’s website where she regularly shares words of hope and encouragement.

Quotes about God and Marriage

“There is no more lovely, friendly or charming relationship, communion or company, that a good marriage.”  ~Martin Luther

“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” ~Timothy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage

“I used to want the perfect marriage and it drove me to distraction.. because marriage is never perfect. The more I learned to find my satisfaction in God, the more satisfied I became with my husband and my marriage.” ~Barb Raveling

[Tweet “”Make it your goal to create a marriage that feels like the safest place on earth.” ~Gary Smalley”]

Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered Himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. Ephesians 5:1–2

Praying 2015 becomes the best year ever for your marriage. I believe reading Choosing Him All Over Again will help you with wisdom, advice, and hope.

Sharing is caring!

About Deb

Thank you so much for visiting CMB. I'm glad you're here. Please visit About Blessing Counting and Deb at the top of the page, and don't forget to leave a comment and subscribe before you go. God bless you!

12 thoughts on “How’s Your Marriage? Here’s Help and Hope

  1. Deb, how exciting that you are a part of this. I clicked on the link and went over to Juana’s site, but it’s sort of late in the game for me, and I’m trying so hard to find the balance between getting more involved in Blogland things and making time to write in order to move forward if not finish the projects I’m working on while working full time! This was a great post and the book looks great

    1. Thanks Mary! It really is an excellent book. I find many of my book review opportunities through interactions on FB and commenting. Often an author will ask their followers to consider reviewing a new book. But you are right, it takes time. I think you’re right to focus on your projects . . . it sounds like life is very full. 🙂

  2. Beautiful post, and it definitely made me want to read the book. I am going to check it out, and also her website. Thank you for sharing and helping encourage godly, Christian, strong marriages!
    God bless!

    1. Thank you Jenn! I love Juana’s honesty about their struggles that leads to hope through intentional changes. I would love to see more couples work to restore their marriage. It’s become so easy to just move on. Blessings to you.

  3. Deb,

    This book is great! Thanks for sharing! Sometimes we forget that marriage is work and we are to be a servant to our spouse! Sharing this on Twitter today and pinning it!

  4. Lovely! My favorite saying on marriage is the art of marriage Quoting:
    “Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created.
    In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…It is never being too old to hold hands.
    It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
    understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner. It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best. – by Wilferd Arlan Peterson”

    1. Great tips Michelle. Rev and I celebrated the 46th anniversary of our first date over the weekend. He made me laugh with his first words, and he’s been making me laugh every day since. We also say “I love you” multiple times each day. I’m very blessed. Thanks for stopping by and adding these helpful points. Blessings!

  5. This book sounds like the perfect resource for anyone contemplating marriage or already in one. I’m so blessed to be married to my Danny, and I make sure he knows every day how much he is loved.
    Blessings, Deb!

  6. Marriages are hurting all around us, it seems. Marriage is tough.I think part of the reason it’s so tough is because we rarely talk about how tough it is. Many people have this fantasy that marriage is eternal roses and romance, and we panic and flip out when real life hits. That’s why it’s great when people like Juana step forward to be real and vulnerable.

    1. You’re right Loren. I think one of the issues is the confusion that love is how the other person makes “me” feel. The feeling fades and is impossible if we don’t work toward applying the wisdom of 1 Corinthians 13.

Leave a Reply to Deb Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *