It’s a fact of life that if you believe something long enough it becomes your truth. It may not even be close to actual reality – but it’s your truth. Deep seeded, rooted, growing false truth.
We believe all kinds of falsehoods simply because we have mentally affirmed them repeatedly.
In her book, So Long Insecurity, Beth Moore said – “We’re going to have to let truth scream louder to our souls than the lies that have infected us.”
Many lies we believe began in childhood and grew with time and repetition.
I hate lies. Not just a little. I REALLY hate lies. So, I’m working to give up lies I’ve carried around for more years than I’d care to admit.
And I’m beginning with . . .
The lie that – Your happiness is my responsibility.
Are there people in your life who expect you to provide their happiness? Your children. Your spouse. Your parents. Your best friend.
The truth is – I don’t have the power to make anyone else happy. And neither do you.
No matter how much you and I want the people we love to be happy. No matter how much we actually love them or care about their well-being. We don’t have the power to do anything more than offer a temporary fix for whatever is causing their unhappiness.
I used to call it my efforts to make people happy – doing the “dance.”
The “dance” was working to be more fun, more enthusiastic, and more entertaining for the benefit of someone else. It’s exhausting and honestly only had the slightest chance of being successful.
Recently, I read these words by Scot McKnight in 40 Days Living the Jesus Creed: “The Father who dances endlessly with the Son and the Spirit is the same Father who persistently yearns for us to join the dance.”
He writes—“Theologians often call the ‘oneness’ shared by the Father, Son, and Spirit, the ‘dance of the Trinity.’ God is love. The music of God is love. Anyone who loves God and loves others is dancing . . . to love is to walk onto the divine dance floor.”
I want that dance.
- To love God.
- To love others.
- To allow God to love others through me.
I’m no longer going to believe that it’s my responsibility to frantically produce effort to accomplish the impossible task of making someone happy, no matter how much I love them.
I am simply going to love them. Because although I can’t make them consistently happy, I can love them. And loving them realizes the…
Truth is – Your happiness is your responsibility.
And happiness that is more than a quick and temporary fix is found in surrendering to the music of God, swaying to the beat of His love, and dancing on the “divine” dance floor.
When I “dance” to give happiness I may just interfere with God’s perfect invitation to the “divine” dance. I may teach people to rely on me not God.
So, I will change my focus. I will look up before I look around. I will seek God’s wisdom in my relationships and I will dance the dance guaranteed to fill me with the joy of the Lord.
Would you care to join me?
Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude. ~Denis Waitley
Lead me in the path of your commands, because that makes me happy. Psalm 119:35