Quit People Pleasing – Balance Around the Blogosphere & Linkup

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The greatest challenges to a balanced life are the demands and expectations of the people around us.

So many of us live with a constant cloud of guilt hanging over our heads and hearts.

We want to meet needs. We want everyone to be happy. We want to hear what a great job we’re doing.

That’s my dream. And the truth is it’s just that . . . a dream!

If you want a balanced life you have to quit people pleasing.

You have to focus on pleasing the One who knows His plans and purposes for your life.

Begin with prayer – You Can Enjoy a Balanced Life.

Then work through – 12 Steps to a Balanced Life – Part 1 and Part 2.

Trust that God wants you to live with order and balance. Trust His love for you.

He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to His name. Psalm 23:3

Teach me your ways, O Lord, that I may live according to Your truth! Grant me purity of heart, so that I may honor You. Psalm 86:11

Teach me to do Your will, for you are my God. May your gracious Spirit lead me forward on a firm footing. Psalm 143:10

Show me the right path, O Lord; point out the road for me to follow. Lead me by Your truth and teach me, for You are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in You. Psalm 25:4–5

King David sounded a lot like you a me. His life was far from perfect. Reading through his life we can find encouragement for our off-balance lives. But David asks for guidance and direction. He asks, seeks, and knocks, and  Paul described him as, David, a man about whom God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.’ Acts 13:22

So, take your off-balance days and lay them at the foot of the cross. Ask God to teach and guide you, and be at peace knowing that balance in best found when you live to please an audience of One. The One who loves you most and best, and wants to give you balance.

He says to you as He said to His children long ago, “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.” Jeremiah 31:3

It’s time to see what’s going on…

Around the Blog

Balance Around the Blogosphere



This week’s beauty is from my friend, Ivy DeLeon.

Read her post – Entertaining: Harvest Time for a little inspiration as
we celebrate the first day of fall this weekend.


Mel Caldicott at Essential Things Devotions will inspire you to take time for rest
in her post Rest From a Life Ruled by Busyness.


Joanne at Days and Thoughts will motivate to keep going
when you don’t know what to do in – Moving Forward.

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You’ll find my favorite pic this week on my
Fall – Pinterest Board.

Share a link to your favorite fall photo in the
comments or linkup.

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21 thoughts on “Quit People Pleasing – Balance Around the Blogosphere & Linkup

  1. Great reminders to rest in Him. I am so thankful that He draws me to Himself, especially on the days I am feeling wobbly.
    Bless you for sharing, Deb.

  2. Oh Dawn, Too many days I feel off-balance. I’m so thankful He promises to plant my feet on solid ground and lighten my burden. Many blessings to you!

  3. Confession! I am a recovering people pleaser. It was a long journey to go from that place to accepting I’m loved unconditionally by God, but He has been more than patient with me along the way. When He is at the center of our lives, we can begin to understand who He has meant for us to be, and still love others without ever thinking we have to do or say the “right” thing for their sake.
    This has been a wonderful series, Deb. Thank you and blessings!

    1. Me too Martha! Still in recovery . . . once in a while people pleasing still gets in the way of peace and contentment. I join you in being extremely thankful for God’s love and patience. Thank you for your kind encouragement.

  4. Deb, Thank you so much for sharing my post. I am not sure how I have ever missed hearing about this linkup. It is beautiful & filled with encouragement. Going to need to spend some time here & visit. Your mention is both humbling and much appreciated! Blessings!

    1. Joanne, You are most welcome! I loved it, and it went so well with my topic for the week. I hope you’ll come back and join the linkup each week! Blessings to you as well!!

  5. Deb. What a wise post. Balance: hard to do but necessary. Balance in they eyes of the Lord is a yielded heart. You wrote it well. Thank you. On another note have you joined the Consilium, A collective where wisdom meets grace?I believe you have so much to contribute to the community.Check it out.

    1. Oh Chris, You are so kind! Thank you for your encouragement. I’m humbled and blessed. I just asked to join the Consilium . . . I didn’t know about it, but when I got there I have many friends in the group already. Where have I been? And why didn’t they tell me? 🙂 Thank you again. I’m looking forward to getting to know you better in the days ahead. Many blessings!

  6. Such good words, Deb! I am learning how to be a woman after God’s heart and do everything He asks! In my challenges, I’m learning to keep my focus on him, not others around me! It’s tough, though, the pain of negative thoughts, of people who don’t see you as God sees you!

    1. I think learning is what we do best on this journey. I don’t think we will ever get perfect balance this side of heaven, but keeping our focus on the Lord will give us the best we can hope for here.

    1. Oh Julie, Thank you! I’ve been too quick to allow the fear of disappointing friends and family to determine my balance. Praying that focus on the Lord will guide my future and give me peace through His loving presence. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

  7. I’m not a religious person, but counting your blessings and being true to yourself is true for everyone. I do like to think that pleasing others is what pleases me most. x

    1. Hi Bron. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I agree counting our blessings and focusing on the positive and essential to enjoying happiness. And I too, enjoy pleasing the people I love. I think there is a problem when our lives get off-balance because of trying to “dance” fast enough to meet everyone whims and wishes. I’ve been guilty of that in the past and at that point . . . no one is happy anymore. Knowing how to balance pleasing those I love against doing it out of fear or guilt made all the difference for me. Blessings to you!

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