The Best Ways to Get Over a Pity-Party

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I was frustrated, discouraged, and probably a little stinky! I was deep into a pity-party and didn't feel like getting over it. But...

“I am so frustrated, discouraged, and probably a little stinky!”

That thought kept playing, rewinding, and playing again after the post I’d researched and worked on for several hours disappeared with the sudden crash of my browser. I’ll admit it pushed my normally positive self right over the edge.

We were also on our third full day without hot water. (Note to self – don’t have your water heater die at the beginning of a holiday weekend.) I love hot water. Tuesday as I write this post the plumber is working in the basement and I can’t wait to get scrubbed from head to toe. Yes, I love hot water. I really love hot water.

Lost post and no hot water.

You know what?

Small problems. With flooding, terrorism, illness, poverty, and countless other tragedies happening around the world . . . my current problems are small. But that’s where we live isn’t it? We live our circumstances. Our moments. Highs and lows. Too often it only takes a few unpleasant inconveniences to tank our moods and rob our joy.

Thankfully – I stopped (after some Rev sympathy) and allowed perspective to cover my discouragement. I wrote something else and gave myself time to process truth.

Three Things to Turn Your Mood Around

Paul said, Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18

1. Never stop praying – I’m thankful God can handle my grumbles. My loving Father doesn’t send me to my room until I quit whining. He simply invites me to come to Him and allow Him to teach me a better way. Prayer changes me, often being the wake-up call I need as I turn to the Lord and surrender my circumstances to His love.

2. Be thankful in all circumstances – Not for all circumstances but in all circumstances. I could be thankful . . . I still had water. I had a stove where I could heat water. I have a home and food and all of my daily needs are met. I have internet and a computer. I have time to write. I have health and . . . I could go on and on and on. 

Giving thanks really does change my mood.

3. Always be joyful – I definitely fail on the always part, but joy typically returns following prayer and gratitude. I’m learning to turn to God more quickly and allow Him to restore my joy.

One More Thing – Feel Good Stories

 Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. Hebrews 10:23–24

Hope in Jesus is a sure foundation. Hope in the love and kindness of others lifts and encourages a discouraged spirit.

Have you ever visited Gives Me Hope? Their subtitle says, “Life is beautiful today.” 

This is a site where people anywhere in the world can share stories and experiences that have helped, encouraged, and given them hope. Here are just a few…




Have you seen the videos of Clay-Chalkville High School’s Graduation?

Christian Crawford shared a powerful prayer…


Moments like this . . . Give Me Hope.

Have you had a time when God turned your
whining and grumbling into hope-filled joy?

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7 thoughts on “The Best Ways to Get Over a Pity-Party

  1. Loved the fact the student took charge and prayed and didn’t care what the naysayers would say. Also glad you found your way out of the “poor me syndrome.”

  2. Like you, Deb, I’ve found that when I’m on the brink of a pity-party, remembering to pray and be thankful are the very things that pull me up from the pit. Our God is so good!

  3. Hi Deb! I hope you’re not reading this because you’re in the shower! “Don’t it always seem to go, that we don’t know what we’ve got ’til it’s gone?”

    I love a good shower too. Here’s hoping that you’ll be clean and happy soon! Oh yes, God has turned my grumbling to joy many times, but especially in bringing us our children. I was so sad at not being able to get pregnant, but He allowed us to have a family through adoption. Yay!!

    1. Yes, we’ve had hot water for two days and i’ve enjoyed several long soaks and feel so much better. Oh, I understand the infertility heartache. Our youngest is adopted as well. So thankful for the ways God turns our tears into reasons for joy. Blessings to you as well.

  4. Deb,

    This is a great post!

    My one-word for 2015 is perspective…and I love this: “I…allowed perspective to cover my discouragement.” That is beautiful, and how I needed to read that today!

    Thanks so much for sharing this encouragement! And I’m so glad you have hot water now. 🙂

  5. This post made me laugh, Deb– mainly because we HAD to do this last weekend too. No RUNNING water– although we made the choice to go camping with our 2-year-old.

    Ever try to clean up cry-puke with no running water? Good times.

    But I was surprised how well I handled it– your verse sprang into my mind and it was great to watch how the weekend wasn’t totally ruined by one hard night.

    Amen, sister. Amen.

    1. Shariat, your comment reminded me of a camping trip we took when our children were little. It was a lot like the movie, Vacation, minus the crazy relatives but adding three cases of stomach flu. It was our last camping trip. LOL Gotta maintain a sense of humor . . . it’s part of God’s grace.

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