Rev isn’t pastoring a congregation at the moment, but he has in the past. We know what it’s like to lead a group of people with varying personalities and opinions.
We know what it’s like to have someone threaten to leave for exactly the opposite reasons that someone else is threatening to leave. If you’re in leadership you know that it’s impossible to make everyone happy, and you may even feel like you’re gifted at making everyone unhappy.
Many pastor’s families struggle with:
- living in a fishbowl.
- conflict between members.
- criticism of their efforts.
- financial challenges.
- unrealistic expectations.
- balancing family and ministry.
- distance from extended family.
While most don’t have to cope with everything on this list; every pastor’s family will have to deal with some of them.
Imagine yourself with hundreds of bosses. Why? Because with every contribution there is an unwritten belief that the giver has the “right” to tell the pastor how to do his job.
Pastor’s wives and their children are under constant scrutiny. Sometimes they know how they are being criticized more often they are just being talked about family to family.
Pastor’s families also receive complaints about their husband and father. How would you feel if your husband’s coworkers came to you when they were unhappy with him.
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But he’s faithful because he loves the Lord, he’s following his calling, and he loves you.
Pray for your Pastor
Nowthese are the gifts Christ gave to the church: the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, and the pastors and teachers. Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do His work and build up the church, the body of Christ.
Then we will no longer be immature like children . . . Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church. He makes the whole body fit together perfectly. As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole body is healthy and growing and full of love.Ephesians 4:11–12, 15–16
Please pray that your pastor…
- To love the Lord … heart, mind, soul, and strength.
- To have a passion for God’s Word.
- To have a heart for prayer.
- To encourage others to be in the Word and to pray.
- To be blessed with wisdom and strength.
- To boldly preach the Word of God.
- To receive the help they need to carry out their calling.
- To enjoy God’s peace.
- To cling to their faith in Christ.
- To receive the encouragement they need.
- To feel loved and appreciated.
- To get the rest they need.
- To have and enjoy family time.
- To be blessed with God’s provision.
- To be surrounded by God’s protection as they serve others.
- To have strong supportive friendships.
- To remain tender-hearted when criticized.
There’s an old saying . . . if you want to get rid of your pastor, compliment him – he’ll work himself to death.
Your pastor is trying hard. He’s doing his best, but he’s human just like you with weaknesses and flaws. His family, well they’re human too. They need you.
Love them the way you want them to love you.
One final note – our family has been blessed at every congregation with many wonderful people who have loved and encouraged us and made it very easy to love them. A huge thank-you to each and every one.
I wrote this referring to pastors in the masculine, not to make a political statement but because that is the perspective with which I’m familiar.
One more thing…
Let your pastors know you’re praying . . . it will bless them.
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