We live together, work together, study together, play together, and worship together.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if everyone was easy?
If people were always pleasant, helpful, and encouraging, appreciative, forgiving and fun.
But relationships are complicated and even those we love the most drive us crazy at times.
And although you can’t change the people around you, you can bless and improve your intimacy with family and friends.
Start by looking at everyone as someone God is interested in, someone He cares for, someone He loves.
Would it change the way you think? What you say and what you do?
Truth about God and Your Relationships
God knows all the ways that person frustrates you and the ways you frustrate them.
He knows their flaws and He knows your flaws.
He knows the number of hairs on their head and He knows yours too.
He knows how He gifted them and He knows how He gifted you.
God knows and loves them perfectly, faithfully, and fully. He knows loves you perfectly, faithfully, and fully too. Not because of who you are, but because of who He is.
He is love and He wants you and me to be expressions of His love.
So, I’ve made an A to Z list of ways I can do a better job of expressing God’s love and bless my relationships.
How to Bless Your Relationships from A to Z
Let your loves know they are important to you and that you’re thankful for them through what you say and how you say it. Say “please and thank you” often and enthusiastically.
“There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.” ~Author Unknown
Believe in those close to you and let them know. Yes, they are imperfect. Everyone is.Trust God’s power to change them and you.
“Never give up your wife, husband, children and families. Believe that people can change. Give others opportunity to change.” ~Lailah Gifty Akita
There is always something to celebrate. AND life is more fun and relationships are stronger when you celebrate.
“Celebrate the happiness that friends are always giving, make every day a holiday and celebrate just living!” ~Amanda Bradley
Do small humble acts of service to show your love.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. Ecclesiastes 4:9
Be positive, compliment, and inspire those you love. Bless them in ways that will give them courage and confidence
So encourage each other and give each other strength, just as you are doing now. Hebrews 3:13
Forgive fast! Choose to believe the best and forgive with a heart that believes in and hopes for a better future.
Bear with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
Pour yourself into others freely, willingly, and quickly just because you can.
“Love is not patronizing and charity isn’t about pity, it is about love. Charity and love are the same—with charity you give love, so don’t just give money but reach out your hand instead.” ~Mother Teresa
Believe that with God’s help, tomorrow will be a better day, and bless others with your hope-filled attitude.
“Let your hopes, not your hurts, define your future.” ~Robert Schuller
Intentional Interaction –
Invest yourself in people. Spend time together . . . talking, doing, or just being.
“A beautiful thing happens when we start paying attention to each other. It is by participating more in your relationship that you breathe life into it.” ~Steve Maraboli
Ask God to help you find joy in your relationships and look for the good in people.
“Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.” ~Karl Barth
Something that’s easy to say and harder to do especially when you’re tired and spent. Do it anyway.
Instead, be kind to each other, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32
Be willing to laugh at yourself and your circumstances. Choose to find the humor in life . . . it’s just another way to look at things.
“Laughter is the most beautiful and beneficial therapy God ever granted humanity.” ~ Chuck Swindoll
It takes extra time to really know the stories and feelings of the people in your life but it’s so worth it.
“The first service that one owes to others in the fellowship consists in listening to them. Just as love to God begins with listening to His Word, so the beginning of love for the brethren is learning to listen to them.” ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Look for reasons to compliment, thank, and build each other up. It will bless you.
“When we take time to notice the things that go right – it means we’re getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day.” ~Martin Seligman
Don’t blame – be willing to own your part in problems and disagreements and do what you can to make things better.
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” ~Jim Rohn
Stop, breathe, and count to ten, twenty, or a hundred.
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Ephesians 4:2
Stop complaining, nagging, criticizing, or anything that is discouraging or heart-hurting.
“Complaining not only ruins everybody else’s day, it ruins the complainer’s day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get.” ~Dennis Prager
Treat everyone with respect . . . always and without exception. Even when they don’t believe deserve it. It says more about you than it says about them.
“There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self.” ~Henri Frederic Amiel
Say “I’m Sorry”
Just like forgiving quickly, don’t hesitate to ask for forgiveness. Always be in a hurry to repair a relationship that is hurting.
“Never forget the nine most important words of any family…
I love you.
You are beautiful.
Please forgive me.” ~H. Jackson Brown
Be honest. Tell the truth gently and respectfully. Be trustworthy. AND don’t ever give anyone a reason to question your integrity.
“Truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is hypocrisy.” ~Warren W. Wiersbe
Listen with your head and with your heart.
“When you really listen to another person from their point of view and reflect back to them that understanding, it’s like giving them emotional oxygen.” ~Stephen Covey
Every relationship is a precious gift. Let them know!
“You must know that you are worth much to me whether you accomplish anything or not. Even if you are rejected in the world’s eyes, you are valuable to me.” ~Stormie Omartian
True wisdom is God-given and grows as you get to know God’s character and His will. It will always help you know what to do and say, and when to do it and say it.
“Not until we have become humble and teachable, standing in awe of God’s holiness and sovereignty. acknowledging our own littleness, distrusting our own thoughts, and willing to have our minds turned upside down, can divine wisdom become ours.” ~J.I.Packer
X – Extend Extra Grace –
Always offer grace . . . I promise there will times when you’ll need it in return.
“Grace is love that cares and stoops and rescues.” -John R. W. Stott
be Yourself –
God created you for your relationships . . . with Him and with others. No one else can touch a life exactly the way you can.
For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 2:10
Zesty – Keep it Spicy
Play, have fun and live with enthusiasm.
“The zest for life, which is the source of all passion and all insight, even divine, does not come to us from ourselves…. It is God who has to give us the impulse of wanting Him.” ~Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
So, that’s my A to Z of ways to bless your relationships.
I believe they work whether you’re just getting to know someone or even if you’ve known them forever.
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