What Is The Best Way To Love You?

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I want to know more about you. What you love. What breaks your heart. How I can pray for you. I want to know the best way to love you.

I want to pour myself into this space.

I want to love you well.

I don’t want to preach at you or talk to you about rules and religion.

I want to love you well.

I want to tell you how God’s love worked its way into my heart; how He replaced fear with faith. I want to talk about joy and trusting Jesus and living overwhelmed by His love.

I want you to know that He is able to carry you through your greatest fear. He carried me through mine.

I know you. You are going through hard days.

  • Infertility
  • Loss
  • Broken Relationship
  • Rebellious Child
  • Aging or Ill Parent
  • Sick child
  • Financial Worry
  • Judgmental Neighbor
  • Miserable Coworker
  • And the List Goes On and On

I want you to come to this place knowing you are safe and loved.

I want you to be blessed by encouragement and hope.

I want to love you well.

Please tell me the best way to love you.

Please tell me how I can pray for you.

I want to listen. 

I want to know your hard places.

I want to know what breaks your heart.

I want to love you well.

I don’t want this space to be about numbers or stats . . . about how many people show up or share. I want it to be a place where God’s love pours over relationships . . . where Jesus love gives courage to love well.

What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has ears to hear the sorrows and sighs of men. That is what love looks like. ~St. Augustine

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I want this to be a place where you can ask for help.

I want this to be a place where pretense is abandoned. Because I want to love you well.

Loving well connects us to each other.

You are not alone. You are loved.

From now on everyone is defined by Christ, everyone is included in Christ. So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Colossians 4:11–15

 In this place may we wear love.

May I love you well.

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  1. This was written so beautifully. Sometimes all someone needs is a little encouragement… thank you so much!

    1. Thank you Erin. You have encouraged me. You blessed my day!

  2. Offering a place for someone to come without judgment is so critical. I think people would tend to do that more on your site than mine since I am a pastor and you tend to be a “softer place to land.” I applaud you Deb for being that.

    1. You are always so kind Bill. Thank you. I was talking with my dad last night remembering how my mom consistently challenged me to look at other points of view through a lens of truth and kindness. There were times when I just wanted her to take my side, but looking back I’m thankful she taught me to care more about people than about being right. Blessings to you!

  3. The love I feel here, Deb, whenever I visit with you is the reason I come back each and every day. Oh, how you lift my spirits and encourage me with your words! It’s wonderful to find the love of Jesus shining through you!

    1. Oh Martha, thank you so much! You are such a faithful visitor and commenter. I can’t tell you how much that blesses me. Big hugs to you!

  4. So great, Deb – your heart really shines through these words. I join mine with yours in creating places where women can be real and vulnerable and pour out their hearts without fear of condemnation. Those places seem to be growing rare – especially in the church. You can pray for me as I try to create that space in my home for woman who didn’t find it in His. Blessings and hugs to you – your neighbor at #threewordwednesday

  5. Sarah Donegan says:

    you have such a beautiful heart! I know I want to love well and not miss a chance to show God’s love because I am busy or distracted. I want to live fully the way He intended.

  6. Your words truly touched my heart. I felt like you were speaking directly to me because I do have those lonely moments that can be overwhelming. Thank you for showing that kind of compassion. ♥

    1. Oh Celi, You bless me. I’m so thankful this spoke to you. I hope you’ll come back to visit often. I would love to get to know you. God bless you!

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