This is important!
Nothing . . . absolutely nothing is ever accomplished by being negative!
And yes, I said that negatively.
You may be thinking, “amen sister!”
You’re tired of the whining, complaining, arguing, disapproving, finger-pointing I’m right and you’re wrong attitude you’re hearing on the news, reading on social media, and seeing around well . . . everywhere.
Because let’s be honest for a minute, we’re all guilty to a point…
I started thinking about this because of the backlash Tim Tebow received for saying he liked the movie, The Shack.
I haven’t seen the movie and I don’t know if I will or not. I read the book and yes, it’s not Biblically accurate . . . it doesn’t claim to be. It’s fiction, written to tell a story of love and forgiveness. If it blesses someone, what do you or I accomplish by attacking the person or their character? Don’t like the movie, that’s fine, but why attack the person who says they like it?
It’s just so easy to be negative.
But stop for a minute and imagine what could happen if we chose to make sure at 99.5% of our expressed comments were positive.
If we stopped shutting each other down with “drop the mic” 140 character discussion enders and started having more respectful exchanges of ideas looking for solutions and compromise?
And… since I brought up the movie, The Shack, you may think I’m just talking to Christians or extreme conservatives, but you’d be wrong.
I’m also talking to those who are standing in the streets shouting “not my president.”
Much has been accomplished throughout history by the peaceful gathering of citizens wanting to make their voices heard, but and this is huge . . . they were gathering for something not against it. Women marched for the right to vote, pro-life advocates march for the rights of the unborn, and those who marched with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. marched for racial equality.
They were standing up for something not just shouting against it!
So, in keeping with my argument here . . . I’m done being negative and pointing out what people should stop doing.
The rest of this post will be positive and encouraging.
Because if you and I want to accomplish something good we need to know the positive outcome we’re hoping to achieve. Sure it takes a little more effort. It’s easy to jump on the negativity bandwagon. But if we really want to make a difference and do something good we need a positive plan.
10 Ways to Positively Improve Your Life Today
1. Walk away from all online or in person “ain’t it awful” groupthink.
Online – Take a break from social media or block the commenters who are always negative and confrontational. In person – Invite a complainer to tell you what they would do to make the situation better. If that doesn’t work change the subject or walk away.
2. Know what you’re for and what’s important to you.
Channel your energy towards the good you can do. Life is simply too short to waste time whining and moaning when there are so many ways to make a difference.
“Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is.” ~Anne Frank
3. Set positive goals and work toward accomplishing them.
What are you passionate about? What makes your heart beat faster? Invest your time in finding ways to pursue your passion and set achievable goals. I promise the fastest way to stop being negative is to pursue what you love.
4. Talk about your hopes and dreams for the future.
Are you crazy about your family? Do you love music, art, gardening, decorating, cooking, or all the above? Talk about what you love. Do you love Jesus? Tell someone. Share your enthusiasm and let the people in your life join in the fun.
5. Praise and encourage the positive actions of others.
Ask your friends about their hopes and dreams. Lift them up. Get excited about the possibilities with them and cheer on their efforts.
When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need—words that will help others become stronger. Then what you say will do good to those who listen to you. Ephesians 4:29
6. Do something good for someone.
Busy people don’t have time to complain and they say doing good for others makes you happy, too. Sounds like a bonus to me!
“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.” ~John Wesley
7. Talk online and in person about the good things you see people doing.
It’s just so easy to click on the like and share buttons. What if we just stopped passing along all the negative stuff? If you’re looking for something to post online . . . find a good news story or a funny picture or video. And this is important, only support encouraging things you see your friends and family posting.
8. Pray about the good, bad, and ugly! Ask God to show Himself strong in life’s messiness.
God is on His throne and hears every prayer. When we complain it sounds like we don’t believe He is able to do anything about it. Get on your knees and talk to God . . . every fear and frustration, each concern and care. He is sovereign and more than able to accomplish His will.
As for me, I will call on God and the Lord will save me. I will cry out and complain in the evening and morning and noon, and He will hear my voice. Psalm 55:16–17
9. Listen to different points of view, you might learn something.
If someone is respectfully sharing their opinion, even if you don’t agree, be kind and listen. Shutting down ideas with which we disagree doesn’t help anyone. Who knows . . . they might return the favor and listen to you.
“Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.” ~Anonymous
10. Before you complain about something you can’t change, do something to change what you can.
There are ministries that need our help. Groups that need your specific gifts and abilities. People who need your prayers. There is so much to do . . . why would we waste our time and energy complaining about something we can’t.
That’s my list.
Maybe you have something to add . . . please share it in the comments.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ~Roy T. Bennett
That choice will make a huge difference in your life.
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