Who Do You Think Should Decide Right and Wrong?

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Who should decide right and wrong? If everyone says something is okay, is it? If it is, why is there so much pain, anger, frustration? Let's look closer... #Bible #Commandments #Faith #Love #CountingMyBlessings #BlessingBloggers

I wonder…

Who Do You Think Should Decide Right and Wrong?

If everyone says it’s okay … is it really okay?

Is cultural holiness the bar for right and wrong?

What is cultural holiness? 

“Many Christians have what we might call a “cultural holiness”. They adapt to the character and behavior pattern of Christians around them. As the Christian culture around them is more or less holy, so these Christians are more or less holy. But God has not called us to be like those around us. He has called us to be like Himself. Holiness is nothing less than conformity to the character of God.” ~Jerry Bridges

It’s so much easier to follow culture than it is to conform to God’s character.

Because we can be culturally holy without love.

Cultural holiness cares about how things seem and what people think but God calls His children to obey what He declares right and wrong for a higher purpose.

A purpose of love.

Let me make my case…


  • your spouse disregards your feelings repeatedly.
  • your teen rebels against your rules often.
  • your best friend doesn’t value the things that are important to you.

You can’t help but wonder but question the sincerity of their love. 

It’s natural. Because everyone knows . . . when you love someone, you want to please them, to make them happy.


Obeying God’s commands, living by what He says is right and wrong, is one of the ways you and I show our love for God.

Who should decide right and wrong? If everyone says something is okay, is it? If it is, why is there so much pain, anger, frustration? Let's look closer...

The word obedience means – to do, keep, or follow commands, restrictions, wishes, instructions, etc.

God gave His people the 10 Commandments to make lives safer and happier, not to spoil their fun. It’s what loving parents do, isn’t it? Parents provide boundaries for their children because they love them.

God is love.


“One of Satan’s most frequently used deceptions is the notion that the commandments of God are meant to restrict freedom and limit happiness.” ~Henry B. Eyring

So, you and I have to reject Satan’s lies and culture’s idea of “holiness” and look to what Jesus said about God’s commands and obedience.

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:37-40

10 Commandments to Love God and Love People.

1. Have no other gods.
2. Don’t make, bow down, or worship idols (images or things).
3. Don’t misuse God’s name.
4. Observe the Sabbath and keep it holy.
5. Honor your mother and father.
6. Don’t murder.
7. Don’t commit adultery.
8. Don’t steal.
9. Don’t testify falsely about your neighbor.
10. Don’t covet what belongs to your neighbor. (Exodus 20:1–17)

Most of us would prefer it if these were just negotiable guidelines, rather than absolute truths. But when you and I remember that God’s commands are intended to bless and protect us, we begin to realize that anytime we fail to love the way God directed us, we hurt ourselves and others.

I would love to keep His commands perfectly. To love the way He wants me to.

But I don’t. I can’t. I won’t.

I’m stubborn and selfish. Maybe you are too.

And that stubborn selfishness wants to believe if the people around me say something is fun, acceptable, or beneficial, God’s commands are outdated or unnecessary.

So the internet and magazines publish articles like:

  • Why Gossip is Actually Good for You.
  • When it’s Okay to Lie.
  • Why Adultery Can Help Save a Marriage.

Yeah, the Enemy is still holding out forbidden fruit trying to convince people that God is holding out on them. And like Eve, we’re still grabbing it and taking a bite.


If you’ve been the victim of spread gossip, if people have lied to you or about you, or your spouse has had an affair . . . You know it’s all a lie. None of those things are okay, helpful, or good for you.

God wants what is best for you and me because He loves us. Which is why He so clearly showed us a better way!

And when you and I trust God, we will naturally want to obey Him because we know obedience is one of the ways we can and worship Him.

Who Do You Think Should Decide Right and Wrong? by Deb Wolf at Counting My Blessings#Bible #Commandments #Faith #Love #CountingMyBlessings #BlessingBloggers
I love the way Paul put it in Romans 12:1–2

So brothers and sisters, since God has shown us great mercy, I beg you to offer your lives as a living sacrifice to Him. Your offering must be only for God and pleasing to Him, which is the spiritual way for you to worship. Do not be shaped by this world, instead be changed within by a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide what God wants for you; you will know what is good and pleasing to Him and what is perfect.

So, it doesn’t matter how culture defines right and wrong, or what our friends say…

You and I will respond to God’s grace, mercy, and love with obedience disregarding the Enemy’s temptations and rejecting our own selfishness because we trust God’s personal, individual, one of a kind love.

No matter what the world says…

Obeying God is simply a way to show Him how very much we love Him.

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  1. Love this, Deb, and especially the quote at the beginning. Comparing our actions/sins/holiness with the people around us instead of the word is dangerous ground. I love how you brought out that we want to please someone when we love that person. We don’t always apply that to loving God.

  2. I recognized that quote from Jerry Bridges right off the bat, as I’ve read The Discipline of Grace – what an amazing book!
    Yes, God has given us rules because, like you said, He loves us like any good parent. We need to conform to His image, not the cultural influences around us. Thanks, Deb, for this inspiration today!

  3. It’s such a precious thing to have my mind taken right to the foundations of holiness. Along these same lines, I’ve been convicted of the lie of Comparative holiness as well. God’s not interested in how good I am compared to anyone else. He knows my heart and holds me to His own standard of holiness.

  4. Thank you for such a great read this morning! This was especially on my mind since I was studying 1 Samuel 16 yesterday and thinking about Saul’s disobedience. God set the rules and it is not up to us to justify our sins. Just do what He wants exactly as He told us to do it. Thank you for hosting!

  5. Once again, Deb, as you so often do, you’ve spoken directly to my heart. I long to love God, in a way that obeys Him and not the norms of cultural christianity, but ‘I don’t. I can’t. I won’t.’ Yet, God with His forever love loves me anyway, and it is that love that draws me close, spurs me on and gives me the ability to obey Him one step at a time. Thanks for sharing your heart. Blessings to you, my friend.

  6. Hi Deb!

    Happy St. Patty’s Day! Thanks for being such a gracious host, once again.


  7. Deb; what a pleasant surprise to see that you featured my post. Thanks so much.

    This post on cultural holiness hits home. We need to look up instead of around so that we know how to act.

    Thanks again.

  8. super post, deb and well-said and well-needed. We/I slide easily into what feels and seems good for the sake of loving another instead of checking all of life with the Holy One who actually knows how to love best. Have a restoring weekend. sue

  9. Patty Schell says:

    I have often said God’s love language is obedience. If we can get that, we can love God in a way He feels loved. Thanks for your post.

  10. Becoming a living sacrifice is definitely something that goes against our fleshly nature. I’m so grateful that God loved us first so we can learn to follow suit. Thanks for sharing this, Deb!

  11. Oh man, I love that quote from Jerry Bridges! There is such truth to that! Thank you for sharing!

  12. Deb- Wow! Yes, I find myself scratching my head when Christian friends know what God says, but live closer to the culture. God’s rules aren’t for us to pick or choose or even weaken. If He said it, He means it!
    Great post!

  13. Deb – This was great. We can get so caught up in the culture around us we don’t recognize it is against God. For me, it is so important to keep my eyes on the scripture. Thank you for taking us back to the basics that we tend to disregard. Maree

  14. Yes, your right Christ has called us to reflect him not “flesh.” He warns of trusting in man or “flesh.” a lot. I have been writing on this too. great post! Thanks for hosting!