5 Things You Need to Know about the Way Fear Lies to You
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It is an absolute blessing to introduce you to my friend, Valerie Murray. I am so very thankful God brought her into my life.
If you’ve been visiting Counting My Blessings for a while, you know I’ve had a long hard journey through decades filled with fear. You know that quote of C. S. Lewis that says,“Friendship … is born at the moment when one man says to another “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .”? That was my experience meeting Valerie.
One of the many things I love about Valerie is that she’s a fighter. She’s fighting her fear with faith and she’s a beautiful kind caring encourager who will inspire you to fight your fear as well.
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5 Things You Need to Know about the Way Fear Lies to You
I wouldn’t do that if I were you. What if something bad happens? What if? How would you live with that kind of gut-wrenching pain? It’s WAY too risky. Someone could get hurt. You’ll look stupid. Make a fool of yourself. People just aren’t going to like you. Who do you think you are?
Fear is deceptive. The feeling of fear is so uncomfortable, it begs us to turn around and run as far away from it as possible!
I’m not referring to healthy fear that serves to protect us from harm. Instead, it’s the kind that retreats from growth, that pulls in and steps backward.
Subconsciously, it forms habits and pathways of thinking that leave permanent imprints like stamps in concrete. We start telling ourselves lies and cement them into our way of living.
Are you listening to the lies of fear or the truth of faith?
1. Fear says you’ll be safer and happier if you avoid taking risks.
It wants you to bypass anything bringing apprehensive feelings to the surface. Protect yourself through avoidance.
Faith trusts in God’s sovereignty and control.
It believes nothing happens that’s not first filtered through the hands of a loving, all-powerful God. It holds onto the hope that when tragedy strikes, God is still there, still good, still loving and still taking care of you.
Faith recognizes that joy is unearthed in the personal and spiritual efforts found in the hard work of trading fear for faith.
Faith says,”I will be ok because I have Jesus.”
He is before all things and in Him all things hold together. (Colossians 1:17)
For in Him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through Him and for Him. (Colossians 1:16)
2. Fear distorts reality by magnifying the level of actual danger a certain activity has.
In my pursuit to overcome my fear of driving on freeways, I decided to look up what percentage of the US population dies in car accidents each year. Every time I drive on freeways, it feels as if I am very likely to get in a car accident.
According to statistics, I only have a 1% chance of dying while driving on the freeway. Only 1%! And yet I live as if I’m going to die every time I get on the onramp. My fear greatly distorted the amount of risk involved.
Faith chooses to believe truth and doesn’t allow feelings to control behavior. It uses a sound mind.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy: 1:7 KJB)
3. Fear gives you a false sense of control.
When I decide not to drive to the out-of-town baby shower or go the birthday party that requires traveling on 3 unknown freeways, it feels like I’m controlling my own safety. It feels like I’m preventing something bad from happening. I feel a false sense of control.
But in actuality, I’m being controlled by fear. I’m doubting God’s sovereignty that I’ll be ok, even if an accident happens. And I’m inhibiting the growth of relationships and connection to others in the process.
Faith understands there’s freedom in surrender–in opening my clenched fists and exposing the very fear that Jesus wants to remedy.
4. Fear doubts God’s love by focusing on the pain and sadness in difficult circumstances instead of the hope that’s found in Jesus.
When a child dies, a friend has a brain aneurysm, gets cancer, killed in a car accident — this is where I really get stuck. I begin to get lost in sorrow and I become afraid of living. Afraid because if that happened to me, I don’t even know how I’d be able to breathe. And what if I didn’t want to?
But Jesus always offers hope even in the most excruciating circumstances. And I’ve seen that hope when all hope should have been gone. And it’s real. That’s what we need to remember. What we have to grab hold of.
Hope is the anchor for the soul. And we need to grab onto it!
Faith takes hold of the hope found in Jesus when sorrow floods our heart.
We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure. It entered the inner sanctuary behind the curtain. (Hebrews 6:19)
5. Fear says you’ll never be able to change.
You’re stuck in your ways. The cement has dried. It’s too late for you.
Faith believes that with Jesus, all things are possible!
Faith: Jesus looked at them and said,
With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God. Matthew 19:26
God loves you enough not to let you stay in darkness. And if you decide to trade your fear for faith, He’s not going to leave you alone.
You’re not forever stuck in concrete.
With Jesus, there is a way out. It may not be an easy way to freedom. There may be some chipping away at the raw places where fear’s roots have been planted. But once the roots are loose, you will gradually be able to taste the freedom of fully trusting in God.
What fear are you struggling with today? How can you let your faith be bigger than your fears?
Valerie Murray is a wife of 21 years and a busy mom to 4 energetic children. She writes at ValerieMurray.com about keeping faith and family strong through Christ. Her heart’s desire is to offer hope to others and declare the glory of God in her life through her writing. Her mission is to offer encouragement to struggling marriages, overwhelmed moms and people striving to face their fears and know their worth. Coffee, chocolate and a good movie always makes her happy! You can find her on Pinterest, Twitter, Instagram & Google+.
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Great article. I can also struggle with overwhelming fear, around imaginary circumstance of something happening to those I love. With God’s help, support from others, praying and faith I am improving in this area. God has been faithful and helping me to see my fears for what they are. I have also found I refuse to let the devil steal my joy and control my life through fear.
Yay, Jean! I’m so glad you feel you’re making progress in the area of fear. You’re so right, fear is a joy stealer and with God’s help, it is possible to put it in its rightful place as a momentary visitor, not a permanent resident. God bless you!
I’m amazed that you both talk about fear in the past tense. Being “healed” from depression, anxiety and fear seems like an impossibility to me. I’ve been struggling with this for over 30 years! Numerous psychiatrists, psychologists, medications. . . I read something like this post and am encouraged, but I feel like I start every day all over again. It never feels like I can refer to fear in the past tense.
Oh, Karen, I feel for you. I know those feelings well and I have to tell you, I still have anxious thoughts and the physical feelings fear produces on occasion but I’ve learned to stop and pray quickly asking God to help me think clearly. Then I go through the list of ways He has gotten me through several really hard times in the past. When I remember His faithfulness in the storms I know He will never leave in the future.
I used to believe I’d completely fall to pieces if x, y, or z happened. And then some of them did. I fell to pieces and God put me back together. So now when I’m afraid I usually just say to myself, “you’ve been through worse than this and God has been faithful, He’ll be faithful again.”
I’m praying you for you. God bless you bunches!!
Thank you Deb, for sharing my words on your blog. What a joy and honor to know you and call you friend. You are an example of someone who puts fear in its rightful place, “a momentary visitor, not a permanent resident.”
So thankful for you, Valerie! You bless me and teach me so much about fighting fear and living through faith! Love you, Girl!!
Printing this one out and taping it inside my kitchen cabinet!!
I need to reread it often, too, Amy! I’m so much better than I used to be when it comes to fear but not yet where I’d like to be. With God’s help, I believe I can reject each of Satan’s lies and trust God’s amazing grace and undeserved mercy. God bless you, my friend!
Val pls pray for me and husband it’s been 5 yrs now he does not talk to me at all … Although we live under the same roof but in separate bedrooms
Hey I wanna start off with saying this article is very well done. Also a little poem/ lyric I wrote is very similar to the last line on the third paragraph (of the actual artical, not the introduction) and I’d just like to share it with y’all so…
Here it lies:
Fear tells lies.
It steer our lives.
You’re right, J! I know I allowed fear to have too much influence in my life for far too long. Praise God – He has given me a better way to deal with stress and anxiety. God bless you!