30+ “What if” Questions that will Make You Love Your Life

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What if I'd done this or hadn't done that? "What if" questions that defeat and discourage. You can turn those questions into blessings and love your life.

Are you a “what if” thinker?

You know…

What if I’d done this? What if I hadn’t done that?

It’s called “second guessing” and it’s defined as . . . criticizing or questioning the actions or decisions of (someone) often after the results of those actions or decisions are known.

That someone is typically me, although I have been known to apply it to those closest to me when their choices affect me.

I’ll admit, I can turn “what if” thinking into a fine art. Often reliving days and moments wondering what I could have or should have done differently.

What if I hadn’t said that? What if I’d been more patient? What if I’d tried harder? What if I were braver, stronger, less fearful, more confident, less of a procrastinator, more fun…

Then there’s the worry side of “what if.”

What if this or that happens? What if I can’t? What if..?

If you can relate to the defeating cycle of “what if” thinking this week is for you.

We’re going to turn “what if” on its head by using Scripture to find positive ways to bless our lives, marriages, and families with positive “what if” ideas guaranteed to bless us and help us love our lives.

Just maybe we can use those two little words to improve our present and our futures.

I’m excited . . . so, let’s get going.

What if I'd done this or hadn't done that? "What if" questions that defeat and discourage. You can turn those questions into blessings and love your life.

30+ “What If” Questions that will Make You Love Your Life

What if I completely trusted God’s love?

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5–6

What if I believed God is for me?

If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since He did not spare even his own Son but gave Him up for us all, won’t He also give us everything else? Romans 8:31–32

What if I started living to glorify God instead of trying to please everyone else?

Not to us, O Lord, not to us, but to your name goes all the glory for your unfailing love and faithfulness. Psalm 115:1

What if I was created for “such a time as this?”

God began by making one man, and from him, He made all the different people who live everywhere in the world. He decided exactly when and where they would live. Acts 17:26

What if I rejected fear and started living boldly?

“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. John 14:27

What if I lived forgiven and guilt-free?

So now anyone who is in Christ Jesus is not judged guilty.That is because in Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit that brings life made you free. It made you free from the law that brings sin and death. Romans 8:1–2

What if I stopped worrying?

Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7

What if I believed I could really ask God anything?

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. Philippians 4:6

What if I believed God hears and answers every prayer?

As soon as I pray, you answer me; you encourage me by giving me strength. Psalm 138:3

What if love really is the greatest command?

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. Matthew 22:37–39

What if I trusted God’s mercy and stopped feeling guilty?

He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west. The Lord is like a father to His children, tender and compassionate to those who fear Him. Psalm 103:12–13

What if I have more to celebrate than I realize?

Let them praise the Lord for His great love and for the wonderful things He has done for them. For He satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things. Psalm 107:8–9

What if I'd done this or hadn't done that? "What if" questions that defeat and discourage. You can turn those questions into blessings and love your life.

Practical “What if” Questions to Help You Love Your Life

Just some things to think about…

Who knows they might inspire you to make a few changes. They’re helping me!

  • What if I smiled more?
  • What if I took a break from the news and social media?
  • What if I went outside and took a walk?
  • What if I spent more time with people I love?
  • What if I said “thank you” more often?
  • What if I forgave quickly?
  • What if I listened to understand not reply?
  • What if I asked God for wisdom?
  • What if I refused to compare?
  • What if I embraced change?
  • What if I laughed more?
  • What if I helped more than I criticized?
  • What if I ignored negative comments?
  • What if I loved my neighbor as I love myself?
  • What if I just stopped to breathe?
  • What if I stopped agonizing over my flaws and imperfections?
  • What if I stopped procrastinating?
  • What if I counted my blessings?
  • What if I thanked God for the good and bad and all I’ve learned?
  • What if I loved my life?

I’m done with negative “what if” thinking. Well, at least I want to be done. It’s hard to give up old habits.

But with God’s help, and I always need His help, I will do better to make my “what if” questions positive and motivating.

I can’t change the past and it does me absolutely no good to worry about the future but I can make today better by laughing more and loving more.

And I’m pretty sure that will help me love my life more.

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  1. This is a wonderful list! Thank you so much. I feel like I need to pick one a day to mull on. Love your blog!

    1. Oh, thank you so much, Kathy! God’s blessings!

  2. I love how you’ve taken the negative perception of “what-if” and turned it on its head, Deb! The next time I find myself asking “what if,” I’ll remember your most positive take on those two words.

  3. What a bunch of great questions, Deb!
    This one was a good reminder for me today – What if I thanked God for the good and bad and all I’ve learned?
    Thanks for pointing us toward Jesus!
    Appreciate you~

    1. Thank you, Mel! I am so thankful for you! I know as I look at the good and bad, by God’s grace I’ve learned tons! Blessings in bunches to you!!

  4. Such an inspiring read for this what-if thinker! I’m sharing it on my Facebook author page this Thursday night. Blessings to you!

    1. Thank you so much, Sarah! You made my day! God bless you!

  5. what if, what if, what if, – it’s like the question of the hour, huh? at least for me it is! what a great list! Thanks Deb:-)

    1. I know, Shannon! I’m the worst! Thanks for your kind encouragement, my friend!! Blessings!

  6. Wow Deb. You were certainly talking to me with this blog today! I am the “what if” queen. I love that you gave me positive what ifs instead of negative ones. I am thankful for this message and for sharing your wisdom! With God’s help I can break this bad habit. I believe..help me with my unbelief.

    1. Oh, Lynn, I just love how God works. I typically write what I need, when God uses it to bless someone else . . . well that’s just humbling and blesses me like crazy. I’m with you. I believe . . . Lord, help me with my unbelief! God’s blessings to you!

  7. I LOVE this!! Great list, Deb, thanks for encouraging me today.

  8. Oooh…this is some good stuff here, Deb. You have me thinking! 🙂

  9. I like these “what if” questions… turning deliberately away from fear to questions of faith. I also read a recent post that encouraged believers to take fear-fill “what if” questions and change them to “even if” that is for example, train yourself to move from “what if I lose my job” to “even if I lose my job, God will take care of me.”

  10. Deb, these are awesome questions! I love how you turned what could be a negative (what if) into a positive. I can tend to be the what if worrier. Thanks for this encouragement!

  11. Natalie Ogbourne says:

    These are good, good questions and a good perspective. What if I was created for such a time is this is one that’s been rolling around in my mind for a couple of years. It’s a game changer.

  12. This sounds like a fantastic Bible Study!! 😉 I had a long conversation with God about that 2nd what if one day… It turned into a “do you really not believe God is for you?” debate with me, myself, and I and I was driven straightway into His Word because of it. 🙂 I am a HUGE what if girl, it is a little maddening to those around me who are not. Glad to know I am not alone, but also glad to reverse the cycle with the good seeds of what if.:)

  13. I am so blessed , courageous and self confidence . I realy feel much better now. I am thankful for this massage . Love how you turned negative into positive . God bless you.

  14. Tammy L Kennington says:

    Oh, my…this is powerful. I tend to be a “what if this happens” thinker, Deb, and these questions along with the Scriptures spoke directly to my heart at a time when health is an issue. Thank you!

    Peace and grace,

    1. Thank you, Tammy! I’ve always been a “what if” worrier. So, I needed this one and wrote it for myself. I’m so glad it blessed you, too! Thanks for letting me know. God bless you!

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