5 Simple Prayers that will Bless Your Marriage
It’s easy to find marriage advice when you need it. There are countless books, blog posts and articles full of helpful tips to strengthen and improve spousal relationships.
The thing is … following helpful tips and suggestions can bless your marriage but the most important thing you can do for your marriage is—PRAY!
Why?
Because in any relationship, the only person you have the power to change is you and although your adjusted words and actions may motivate your spouse to change … well, they may not.
But God, through the power of His Holy Spirit, can change you and your spouse in ways that can give you a stronger marriage.
When Rev and I are enjoying moments of marital bliss and I don’t want to change a thing or on those rare occasions when our conversation is strained and we’re having trouble connecting … we need God in our marriage.
We need that—”triple-braided cord” that is not easily broken.
So, I’m taking my marriage to God in prayer and I’d love for you to join me.
Because I believe…
When You Want to Bless Your Marriage – Pray!
Ecclesiastes 4:12
A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated,
but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.
Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord
is not easily broken.
Father, we know that even when we stand together the enemy will try to discourage us and pull us apart. We need You! We need You to stand with us to give us strength.
When our marriage began we promised to love each other “for better or worse.” We didn’t know what that would mean … no clue as to how hard some of our worst moments would be. But You knew. Nothing is a surprise to You. You have been with us in the past and we trust that you will be with us in the future. So, whatever we face, help us stand strong together. Protect our marriage Lord as You keep us united by Your grace and with Your help. Amen.
Ephesians 4:2
Always be humble and gentle.
Be patient with each other,
making allowance for each other’s faults
because of your love.
Father, keep me humble and gentle. Please forgive me for the times I stubbornly want my own way … for times my asking sounds more like a demand than an ask and help me to humbly go to my husband and honestly ask for his forgiveness as well.
Father, give me patience. I know I need my spouse to be patient with me. Why is it so easy for me to expect patience I’m slow to give. Please forgive me. Please help me. Grant me Your mercy and grace and make me like Jesus. Amen.
Ephesians 4:32
Be kind to each other, tenderhearted,
forgiving one another, just as God
through Christ has forgiven you.
Father, make us kind. Kindness is generous and good. I want to be generous with kind words and acts of love. I want to be caring and forgiving … even when it’s not easy.
You have been so kind and generous to me. You have forgiven me countless times. I’m overwhelmed by Your loving grace and mercy. I have everything I need through Jesus. You love me. You help me trust even when I don’t understand. You forgive me. You grant me Your Spirit’s presence and give me contentment.
I believe in and with You, our marriage can be full of kindness. With Your help, we can be generous and loving and good. With Your help, we can forgive as You forgive. Be with us and help us, Father. Amen.
Ephesians 5:21
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Father, submission is hard and honestly, I just don’t want to give that much of myself away. I like getting my own way and most of the time I believe I’m right. I don’t want to surrender my power. I don’t want to humble myself.
Please forgive me! Jesus submitted completely for me. He endured all of the ugliness this world has to offer. He suffered my punishment. Please help me to love humbly and sacrificially, like my Savior.
By Your grace, help my spouse and me to submit first to You. Help us to willingly follow wherever You lead. Help us listen first to You and then to one another. May our love for each other and our love for You make us yield ourselves to You. Amen.
1 Peter 4:8
Most important of all,
continue to show deep love for each other,
for love covers a multitude of sins.
Father, above all, give us a deep love for each other. Help us to remember and honor the promise we made years ago. May we celebrate the good days and hold each other close on the hard ones. Help us to speak and act in ways that nurture trust and when we fail … help us to forgive quickly. May we grow in faith, in wisdom, in maturity, and even more in love. By Your grace, with Your Spirit’s help, in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Finally, a few quotes from The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian…
“The most important thing we can pray about for others is that they will know God better and that He will help them understand His will, grow in spiritual wisdom, and live lives that honor Him. We can pray that they will become more like Him and bear the fruit of His Spirit.”
“Lord, I pray that my husband will be strong in the Lord and put on the whole armor of God, so he can stand against the enemy every day. Enable him to take up the shield of faith, helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God.”
“The quality of your relationships will determine the quality of your life. And this is something worth praying about.”
Asking God to bless your marriage and your family!
Hi Deb,
Yes, I agree prayer is so very important in our marriages, great post!!
Jennifer
Joining with you in this, Deb! I do believe this sacred ground of marriage is a top priority for the enemy to dismantle. The “three-stranded cord” is a beautiful word picture of the active strength in standing against these continual attempts. So grateful for the power of prayer in combatting what we alone cannot defeat!
It occurs to me that those great thoughts you shared from Ephesians are followed very quickly by thoughts on spiritual warfare. Paul was very clear in his thinking on how (and by Whose power) we are supposed to live as Christian family members!
Beautiful prayers for keeping a marriage strong, loving, and centered in God. Thank you, Deb, and have a wonderful weekend!
Great post, Deb! My favorite part… “BUT GOD…” Oh, how different my life and marriage would look if not for Him! Thanks again for your encouragement and for pointing us back to Jesus.
I need to print these out – off on a spouse trip w/ my man-in-plaid!!
“The most important thing we can pray about for others is that they will know God better and that He will help them understand His will, grow in spiritual wisdom, and live lives that honor Him. We can pray that they will become more like Him and bear the fruit of His Spirit.”
Great truth to remember. Thank you!
Stormie O’martian’s prayer books were game changers for me as a young wife and mom. Good post. laurensparks.net
I know, Lauren! She has blessed so many of us with her counsel and wisdom on prayer. Blessings and hugs!
Hello Deb, your post is a blessing. I’ve never thought about putting the scriptures in the middle under the prayer.
Also, I pray for marriages a lot. Things are becoming so crazy to us as Christians.
Keep sending those prayers and I will join my faith with yours.
Thank you, Sharon. I really appreciate your kind encouragement. May the Lord be with you and bless you!