Things You Need to Know When You Don’t Feel God’s Love

I received an email telling me that no matter what she does or how hard she tries, she just doesn't feel God's love. This is my reply...

Earlier this summer I received the following email from a reader…

 I’ve had a problem all of my adult years.  I’ve been unable to feel God’s love.  He is always very remote for me.  I have almost constant feelings of guilt.  I try to be a Christ-like person, but too often fall short in my thoughts.  I have a very difficult time getting rid of unChirstlike thoughts,  When someone hurts me, I try to forgive, yet I ruminate on the injury.  I just can’t stop the thoughts so I feel like I’m displeasing God. I feel his disapproval.  I read scriptures to help me.  I have many memorized.  I have whole chapters of scriptures memorized.  I pray and read the scriptures daily.  I do good things, yet those feelings remain.  I attend church every Sunday.
I just wondered if you had any suggestions.  Maybe it’s lack of faith on my part and I just need to accept that God loves me as I am.  

I replied to her email with the following…

I’m so often humbled by God’s timing as He works in our lives. I found myself nodding as I read through your words because I can so relate to times when I long for an extra measure of the feeling of God’s love and He seems silent.

One thing I know for sure – God loves you and He is with you! You are seeking Him and He promises that He will be found by those who seek Him. And that He is with them.

I know what I am planning for you,” says the Lord. “I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future. Then you will call my name. You will come to me and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will search for me. And when you search for me with all your heart, you will find me! Jeremiah 29:11–13

“Be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:20

These are the verses I hold close when I don’t feel God’s love or His closeness in my life.

I’m certain of this as well. It is Satan, the enemy of our souls, who wants you to doubt God’s love and presence; he is the one who wants you to doubt God’s forgiveness and continue to struggle with guilt.

God promises that if you and I repent … He forgives us. He promises His love and presence. I remind myself that even when I don’t feel Him with me. He is.

A Scripture I turn to and trust is Psalm 139.

Lord, You have examined my heart
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!

I can never escape from your Spirit!
I can never get away from Your presence!

You saw me before I was born.
Every day of my life was recorded in Your book.
Every moment was laid out
before a single day had passed.

How precious are your thoughts about me, O God.
They cannot be numbered
I can’t even count them;
they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
You are still with me!
v. 1–7, 16–18

You are are seeking Him and doing all the things you should be doing to grow closer to Him. You are doing the things that honor Him and please Him. Try not to let your feelings get in the way – He is pleased with you and He loves you! You can trust His promises.

Thank you so much for reaching out! It is always a blessing to hear from one of my readers.

God bless you! Deb

I’ve thought about this email exchange often since and wondered if you might also have times when God seems silent … when you don’t feel His love. So, I made a list of things I want to do when my feelings and faith fall flat.

I received an email telling me that no matter what she does or how hard she tries, she just doesn't feel God's love. This is my reply...

Things to Do When You Don’t Feel God’s Love

1. Be Honest with Yourself and with God

I love that you and I can turn to the pages of Scripture and find many examples of men and women who honestly struggled as they walked with God. Even David, the “man after God’s own heart” honestly voiced His feelings of emptiness and longing.

Lord, how long will You forget me? Forever?
How long will You look the other way?
How long must I struggle with anguish in my soul,
with sorrow in my heart every day?
How long will my enemy have the upper hand?
Psalm 13:1–2

2. Take it to God in Prayer 

And we are confident that He hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases Him. 1 John 5:14

You and I can be confident that God wants us to seek Him, to grow in faith, to trust His love, and to experience His loving presence. When we pray to know and love Him more, we can be assured that He will not only hear our prayers … He will work in our lives to grant our request.

3. Live Your Faith Until You Feel God’s Love 

When you and I can’t feel God’s loving presence – it’s important to remember feelings are just that … they’re feelings.  They are not necessarily the truth.

God is always with us. So, even when our faith feels small—God is near.

I love the account in Mark 9:17–29 – Jesus’ disciples had been trying unsuccessfully to deliver a boy from an evil spirit.

As Jesus approached them, the father of the boy pleads, “Have mercy on us and help us, if you can.”

Jesus answered, “What do you mean, ‘If I can’? Anything is possible if a person believes.”

And then my favorite part…

The father instantly cried out, “Lord, I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”

Jesus responded by healing his son.

I believe the most important thing you and I need to remember is…

Things to Know When You Don't Feel God's Love by Deb Wolf @ Counting My Blessings

God’s love is a fact not a feeling!


God is love!
1 John 4:8

Our feelings don’t, they won’t, they can’t, change God’s love.

While you and I were still sinners – God sent Jesus!

God showed how much He loved us by sending His one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through Him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. 1 John 4:9–10

He promises His love is never-ending.

The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh each morning. Lamentations 3:22–23

And that nothing can separate us from His love.

 I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. Romans 8:38

So, where does that leave you and me?

Thanking and praising God – for His faithful forever love!

Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! His faithful love endures forever. Psalm 136:1

That’s a prayer and a promise to hold close to our hearts each and every day!

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15 thoughts on “Things You Need to Know When You Don’t Feel God’s Love

  1. You can never go wrong with the Word. I remember struggling with this in college and all I saw was John 15 – to obey meant I loved God. So to do as He’s asked me helps me feel love (eventually) – usually worship music will cause me to tear up nowadays! I used to solo – not sure I could now – such a softy in my old age. To believe is what pleases God and sometimes I believe very little, but then remember Ps 103 – He knows we are but dust! There you go! I ask Him to remind me every time I’m relying on myself instead of Him and to create in me a sense of my sin so that I appreciate His grace and mercy deeper and better. You are a good mentor, Deb.

  2. Thank you so much, I too feel the same way. And especially since my dad passed last year. We didn’t have the best relationship but I was there at the end and I’m still filled with guilt not being there through my earlier years.

    1. You’re very welcome1 I’m so glad you were able to be there for your dad at the end of his life. Focus on that. I’m sure he was so blessed to have you close at that time that the rest was no longer important to him. And through Jesus, you are forgiven and loved. I’m praying for you today and asking God to hold you close and give you a greater sense of His perfect peace and amazing grace. God bless you!
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  3. I could definitely use this encouragement Deb. It’s much easier to trust God’s plan when I can sense Him. Yet, there are times when He needs me to rely on faith alone, and these are amazing words and verses to remember.

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