God says “no.”
What are you supposed to do when you feel like God is the One who allowed your broken heart?
It is your heart’s desire.
And the Bible says,…
Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desires.Psalm 37:4
But for reasons beyond your ability to understand . . . God says “no.”
You’ve been good. You’ve tried to obey His commands. Maybe you’ve even dedicated your life to serving Him in ministry.
But He still seems to be saying “no.”
And in your quiet moments when and you’re being honest, you think … it’s not fair!
If you’re like me (at least me before I learned it’s better, no it’s best, to trust God’s perfect love) you’ll start by praying over and over again.
Asking, Pleading. Crying.
Then you’ll whine and complain like a child trying to get a parent to soften and give in.
But it’s taking so long. You’re still sick. Still single. Still longing for a child, a job, a home, a _________.
You look around and people who don’t even seem appreciative have that something you’re longing for, and you find yourself giving in to jealousy, tantrums, and anger.
This may be your story.
It’s mine. I wanted what I wanted and God’s ‘no’ was simply unacceptable.
And I’m ashamed to tell you, that like a spoiled child, I took things into my own hands refusing to wait on God’s will and timing.
I’ve learned that is not in any way … a good idea!
By God’s grace, He patiently allowed me to live the consequences of my choice and then He showed me a better way and I’d like to tell you about it…
5 Things to
Do ... When God Says “No” and Your Heart is Broken
1. Remember EVERYthing God allows is filtered through His love.
Love is God’s character. He cannot do anything outside of who He is.
You and I can trust Him. If He says “no” or “not now” He has a very good reason … even when it’s hard to understand.
God is love. God showed how much He loved us by sending His one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through Him.1 John 4:8–9
2. Trust God’s goodness is in EVERYthing He allows.
His goal for you is your eternal good
As hard as that is to understand at the moment … even when your longing is for something good, He never allows something that He is unable to use for the good of His children and for His glory.
You may never know how your circumstances and story might touch the eternal future of someone who is closely paying attention.
The Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together[m for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.Romans 8:27–28
3. Know that God sees the end from the beginning and may be protecting you.
We make God too small. He is eternal. He knows your past and your future. He knows all the lives you will touch and He knows how best to bless you not just today but with eternity in mind.
I am the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last, the Beginning and the End.Revelation 22:13
4. Do what you are able today and leave the rest to God.
Get up and focus on trusting God today. Ask God to give you peace and the ability to focus on your blessings.
Whew, that was hard for me! (In fact, that became the motivation behind my writing “Counting My Blessings.”)
Let me also add sometimes I still have to stop and have a good cry and honestly talk with God about my disappointment and sadness … that’s okay! He understands!
But … I’ve also learned to not allow myself to spend the day there. I give myself a set amount of time to cry and cry out, I give it to God, and then I get up, get busy, and live my life!
“Harness the power of today. Seize the blessings of today! Make something happen, enhance your life, make someone laugh, help a friend, love, love, love!” ~Steve Maraboli
5. Lean deep into God’s love through prayer and study of His Word.
Carry His promises close and trust, trust, trust.
Digging deep into God’s Word began my healing process. As I read through God’s Word and asked Him to strengthen me through His promises … everything began to change for me.
Trust became easier and other blessings became more obvious.
For the word of the Lord holds true,Psalm 33:4–5
and we can trust everything He does.
He loves whatever is just and good;
the unfailing love of the Lord fills the earth.
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It’s easier to believe the lie…
“The sin underneath all our sins is to trust the lie of the serpent that we cannot trust the love and grace of Christ and must take matters into our own hands” ~Martin Luther
But I believe today with everything in me … if God allows or “doesn’t” allow something in my life, He will give me the strength to endure.
The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you can endure.1 Corinthians 10:13
I believe God is at work in my life through His grace and mercy and even when He allows something painful and difficult … I am confident He will give me whatever I need to trust Him one day at a time.
I believe He will do that for you, too!
Because faith gives the hope we need to trust His real and present love…
Faith means being sure of the things we hope for and knowing that something is real even if we do not see it.Hebrews 11:1
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