How to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy

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How to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy - Everyone views life through a self-defined ME filter but the only thing that will make you happy is to look at life with a godly perspective. #Faith #Love #Perspective #BeHappy

One of Rev’s favorite questions to ask a new Bible Class is…

Name the one person you think about the most?

It’s okay … you can take a minute to think about it.

Most moms believe they think about their children most.
Occasionally spouses will indicate they think about their husband or wife most.
Maybe it’s a friend, someone you’re dating, a parent, or someone else.

After a few minutes of thought and discussion, Rev always answered the same way.

“NOPE! It’s none of those people. If you’re completely honest … the person you think about the most is … YOU!”

Each time the room immediately filled with nervous laughter and nodding heads.

We can’t help it!

You and I filter every thought, every interaction, every detail of our lives … through the filter of “ME!”

How does this affect me? What do they think about me? Will I succeed? How do I look? What will I do? Will this project go well? Will my children make me proud or embarrass me? Will I ..?

It’s normal! Just a part of life that has touched every person on the planet since Adam and Eve were banished from the Garden.

That’s the thing about sin and self-focused thinking…

It makes us miserable.

It’s our non-stop thinking about ourselves that leads to worry, anxiety, selfishness, anger, pride, etc. All those things that leave us distressed and discontented.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

The One who created you knows you.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
    and knit me together in my mother’s womb.

Psalm 139:13

He made you for His plans and purposes.

You were made by God for this time and place in His story!

And He didn’t just create you to leave you to figure it all out on your own. The Lord is fully aware of the experiences that have and will influence your life.

You go before me and follow me.
    You place Your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too great for me to understand.

Psalm 139:5–6

Who God created you to be and the experiences He allows become your lens (how you perceive) and your filter (how you process) your life.

And simply put … how you and I process and perceive our life experiences formulate our perceptions, our views, and opinions. They affect the way we react, the way we touch others, the way we LIVE.

That’s the truth we live with and it’s not bad … it just is.

Which is how Rev could know that everyone in any room thinks about themselves more than they think about anyone else.

So, what do we do with all of those ME thoughts without letting them get out of hand?

Everyone views life through a self-defined ME filter but the only thing that will make you happy is to look at life with a godly perspective. #Faith #Love #Perspective #BeHappy

5 Things You Can Do to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy

♥ Surrender Your Thoughts to God.

I know when I spend time focused on my appearance, my stuff, my social media footprint, my failures or successes … on me, I am setting myself up for a pretty miserable day.

And it’s in those moments, I want to hear the Lord whisper…

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”

Matthew 11:28

How awesome is it that Jesus invites us to bring all the “stuff” of life to Him? He will help us carry the things that burden us so we can enjoy peace and joy.

And just in case you need to see the promise…

You will keep in perfect peace
    all who trust in You,
    all whose thoughts are fixed on You!

Isaiah 26:3

♥ Ask God to help you seek and trust Him.

I’ve chosen the word “SEEK” as my forever word. It’s based on Luke 12:31

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.

You see, for far too many years I doubted that verse. Oh, I believed in Jesus for my eternal future but I didn’t believe He was able to give me strength if the struggle was too great or courage if I was afraid of the path before me.

He graciously and patiently showed me the truth of His “nothing is impossible” love. A love we can trust today, tomorrow, and forever.

♥ Ask God for His help to love others well.

It’s hard to love others the way God wants me to when I’m constantly filtering their words and actions to a filter of “ME.”

Jesus told His followers:

“I am giving you a new commandmenst; Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.”

John 13:34

It’s not a request. It’s a command.

But loving like Jesus doesn’t mean failing to set aside time for rest. It doesn’t mean saying “yes” to everyone and everything.

I believe loving like Jesus means we will:

  • be forgiving.
  • be kind and compassionate.
  • be humble.
  • and love unconditionally.

I also know I can’t love like Jesus without His help. I need wisdom, discernment, strength, courage, and a whole lot less of “ME” thinking if I’m ever going to love others the way He commands.

How to Have a Perspective that will Make You Happy - Everyone views life through a self-defined ME filter but the only thing that will make you happy is to look at life with a godly perspective. #Faith #Love #Perspective #BeHappy

♥ Ask God to help you do what you can and leave the rest to Him.

Although I know I’m supposed to do all of this one day at a time, I’m guilty of way too much past and future thinking.

I can overthink the things I’ve said and done and what people think about the things I’ve said and done. I can stress about what I’ll say and do in the future and what people will think about what I say and do in the future. And I can too often live my present influenced by the lens of “ME” based on the past and in anticipation of the future.

Yes, I’m a recovering people-pleaser with a long way to go.

And from the looks of my social media feed, I’m not alone!

But Paul wrote:

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

Romans 12:2

I believe that as I surrender to the Lord, He will continue to transform me.

And that transformation includes changing my lens … my perspective.

Remembering that it’s not about “ME!”

I currently need a new pair of eyeglasses.

I have my new prescription but I can’t find a new frame that I like as well as the ones I have.

And maybe that’s part of the problem with our “Me” filters. We know we need to surrender to God’s transforming grace but we’re just having trouble giving up our old way of looking at things … it’s comfortable and we’re a little worried that we won’t like the new ones as well.

But imagine the view, the perspective the Lord wants to give us. Imagine the clear beautiful way we could view things if we would just let Him help us filter our lives through His Word and promises.

Just imagine…

How beautiful life might look if you allowed the Lord to change your perspective.

Who knows, it might even make you happy!

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  1. I knew the answer to Rev’s question right away before reading further – yes, it’s “me,” guilty as charged. I love how you have taken that aspect of our lives, Deb, and helped us focus on what is much more important – putting God first in our lives. It does make us happy to do so, and when I get to loving the me too much, I try, and will continue to try, to put Him on the top tier.

    1. Yep, I’m guilty too, Martha! I can usually tell when my perspective is too “me” focused when everyone and everything starts annoying me. LOL That’s when I have to stop and say several “I’m sorry’s” and ask God to help me look at this the way He wants. And I’m so thankful that He is willing to help by filling me with love to share. Thanks, my friend! Blessings to you as well!

  2. Deb,
    This was a super, wonderful, inspiring, uplifting devotional. All of it touched my heart! I love the Scriptures you share with us very much. You always back up your writing with God’s Word. I love that!

    Then I looked at “My Perspective” and found more. More thoughts and ideas from other Christian writers or bloggers. Thank you very much! I only have 5 favorite sites saved, but enjoy reading others sites.

    Sisters in Christ….

    1. Thank you, Barbara! Your kind words blessed me bunches this morning! Have a beautifully blessed day!

  3. This was so eye opening this morning and so true. I get in my own way so often. I must rely on God to get outside of myself. Thank you for this!

    1. Me too, Brittany! That personal filter of mine gets in the way more often than I’d like. I sure appreciate your kind encouragement! Hope you enjoy a blessing-filled week!

  4. I love how you started with that question- it sparked some good self-reflection. I also loved your five practical tips- great reminder!!!

    1. Thanks so much, Katie! I’m blessed by your kind encouragement! Have a beautiful weekend and God bless you!

  5. Tea With Jennifer says:

    Another great post Deb! Roman 12:1 is a favorite of mine!
    Bless you,

  6. Thanks Deb for this post. It made me feel better after reading this. God bless you n your family

    1. Sisca, I’m so glad it helped you to feel better. Thank you for stopping to let me know! Praise God! May He bless you in the week ahead!

  7. I love this. Great points to work on. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thank you, Thalia! I appreciate your kind encouragement! God bless you!