This is for you, the one hurting with silent grief.
The one whose life has been altered by a loss or event that’s left you feeling broken and alone.
You can’t talk about it. There are reasons known only to you.
You see people grieving openly and you envy the love, support, and understanding they receive.
But you grieve behind closed doors. In the dark. Alone.
No one understands why you’re not as social as you once were. They don’t know how much you hate answering simple questions like…
Tell me about your family?
How many children do you have?
What are your kids up to these days?
Do you have any grandchildren?
How’s your spouse?
You’re uncomfortable meeting new people. Every introduction comes with the normal get to know you questions. And every question takes you back to what isn’t. To what you’ve lost.
So you pause over every invitation. Will it be worth the effort? The reminders? The pain?
This is for you because…
No matter how silent grief feels . . . you are not alone!
7 Reasons You Never Grieve Alone
You belong to God – He sees you.
Always under God’s watchful care, He sees you as valued, beautiful, and loved. Your grieving heart matters to Him.
Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” She also said, “Have I truly seen the One who sees me?”Genesis 16:13
You belong to God – He knows everything about you.
God made you. He calls you His child. Nothing in your life shocks or surprises Him. Even that thing you are grieving is known to Him. God cares. His hand of blessing is on you.
O Lord, you have examined my heartPsalm 139:1–5
and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
You see me when I travel
and when I rest at home.
You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
even before I say it, Lord.
You go before me and follow me.
You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too great for me to understand!
You belong to God – He collects every tear.
Not one tear falls without God’s care and compassion. He gathers every tear and records every sorrow-filled moment. Each one matters to Him. You matter to Him.
You keep track of all my sorrows.Psalm 56:8
You have collected all my tears in Your bottle.
You have recorded each one in Your book.
You belong to God – He hears every prayer.
Cry out. You don’t need perfect words or a carefully crafted format. Just pour your heart out to God and He will guide you and comfort you with His perfect peace.
I cry out to the Lord;Psalm 142:1–3a
I plead for the Lord’s mercy.
I pour out my complaints before him
and tell Him all my troubles.
When I am overwhelmed,
you alone know the way I should turn.
You belong to God – He is with you always.
Always! Forever! God’s Spirit is with you. You are never without His comforting presence. Jesus promised.
“I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”Matthew 28:20
You belong to God – He will help you.
Your Father doesn’t just offer you a listening ear, He will help you. His love never fails. When people make you feel judged and uncomfortable . . . turn to God’s love. You can count on His healing love.
“I will never fail you.Hebrews 13:5b
I will never abandon you.”
So we can say with confidence…
“The Lord is my helper,Hebrews 13:6
so I will have no fear.
What can mere people do to me?”
You Belong to God – He will give you peace.
Jesus, the Prince of Peace, wants to give you peace. Nothing you experience is new to Him. He was betrayed, rejected, abused, and denied. He knows and understands your pain and offers to replace it with satisfaction and calm assurance that with Him you will be okay.
“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.John 14:27
So, to you the one with silent grief.
You are not alone.
Your Father sees you, the Holy Spirit is with you, and Jesus offers you His peace.
THERE’S ONE MORE THING I WANT YOU TO KNOW…
I needed this. I wrote it for me. If you’re blessed, I’m thankful.
I wrote it for me because I know what it’s like to live with silent grief. I know what it’s like to feel judged and have people gossip and speculate.
Like you, I need a regular reminder of God’s promises that I am not alone.
I can’t control what other people think. But I can control what I think and when I struggle with silent lonely grief I have to go to God’s truth that gives me peace.
God sees me. He knows me. He gathers my tears and hears every prayer. He is with me. And He will help me and give me peace.
AND GOD DOES THOSE THINGS FOR YOU, TOO.
No matter what you’ve done or what has been done to you . . . my friend, you are not alone. You are loved and precious. More than you will ever know.
For the Lord, your God is living among you.Zephaniah 3:17
He is a mighty savior.
He will take delight in you with gladness.
With his love, he will calm all your fears.
He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.”
I’m praying for you and asking God to comfort you and give you His peace.
God bless you!
Thank you so much for joining me today.
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