15 years ago today, I was curled up at the foot of our bed … I cried until my tears ran dry.
I pleaded and prayed … asking God to change hearts and change the situation. I hoped with faith that it would be days, weeks, even months, but not years. I longed for the time we would look back on things and praise God for His healing grace.
And yet, here we are 15 years later and we’re still waiting and praying and hoping in faith.
There is good news though…
What the enemy of our souls wanted to use for evil … God used for good!
Our situation may not have changed but I have! And that’s what I want to tell you about today…
I want you to know how God is able to take your broken heart and piece it back together with His grace, mercy, and love. How He can remove your life-long fears, gave you strength, and increase your faith.
I want to tell you how … by the power of His Spirit, God took a heartbroken mess and gave me a new life of purpose by making me a life-long SEEKer who’s free to enjoy His peace, trusting that I have everything I need in Christ Jesus.
The change didn’t happen in one miraculous moment; it’s been a long season of growth. But if you’ve got a couple of minutes, I’d love to tell you about the process God used to transform me … one that I believe He would love to use in You and in the people you love.
5 Steps God Uses to Heal the Heartbroken
1. God Pursues Those Who are Heartbroken
If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them wanders away, what will he do? Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others on the hills and go out to search for the one that is lost? And if he finds it, I tell you the truth, he will rejoice over it more than over the ninety-nine that didn’t wander away!Matthew 18:12–13
I can’t remember a time in my life when I didn’t know and trust Jesus for my eternal future. I knew He was my Lord and Savior, that He died for me, and I believed He would take me to heaven when I died. But…
When it came to daily living … I was afraid.
Afraid of disappointing people and disappointing God. Afraid that if I completely surrendered to Jesus, the cross He asked me to carry would be too difficult and I’d disappoint everyone.
So, I frantically tried to juggle all the parts of my life on my own until all those balls I’d been juggling fell at my feet. And that’s when the Lord came and found me and held me. And gently carried me to His Word.
2. God Speaks to Those Who are Heartbroken
As for God, His way is perfect! The word of the Lord is tested and tried; He is a shield to all those who take refuge and put their trust in Him.Psalm 18:30 (AMPC)
I needed HOPE!
Not the kind words and assurances of people. I needed hope that would give me the strength I needed to get out of bed each day.
God had given me hope for my eternal future through Scripture; so, I turned to His Word looking for the hope I so desperately needed to get me through each day.
I picked up my Bible and I couldn’t put it down. And by God’s grace, it became my lifeline. I devoured it, Genesis through Revelation, in just three months.
All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.2 Timothy 3:16
And God used the TRUTH of His inspired Word in an interesting way.
In my brokenness, I didn’t relate to the heroes of faith so much as I saw myself in the doubters and the fearful. I saw myself in Eve and the grumbling Wilderness Wanderers, as well as the Pharisees and the fleeing disciples.
The more I read God’s Word … the more I was humbled, ashamed and repentant.
3. God Forgives the Heartbroken Who Come to Him in Repentance
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.Matthew 11:28–29
I carried all my brokenness, my failures, and my weaknesses … I took my sins to Jesus and asked Him to heal and forgive me.
The Bible says that when you and I carry the heavy burden of our sin to Jesus and ask Him to forgive us and change us … well, He said, “the angels rejoice!”
I tell you, it is the same way among the angels of God. If one sinner is sorry for his sins and turns from them, the angels are very happy.”Luke 15:10
That’s the blessing of God’s Word. It’s the Law that shows us our sin and then it’s the Good News Gospel that shows us God’s LOVE!
O Lord, you are so good, so ready to forgive, so full of unfailing love for all who ask for your help.Psalm 86:5
What other god promises unfailing love and forgiveness to everyone and anyone who repents and asks for help to change? What other god is able to give people everything they need to accomplish the change He desires? What other god promises freedom through faith and forgiveness?
If the Son sets you free, you are truly free.John 8:36
And it’s not just freedom for an eternal future in heaven but freedom to LIVE today with peace, joy, hope, courage, strength, and everything else you and I need!
4. God Replaces What is Broken with What is Needed
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and He will give you everything you need.Luke 12:31
What I began to learn was that the more I completely surrendered myself to the Lord the more intentionally He gave me everything I needed.
And one of the first things I needed was to be lifted out of the pit of despair…
I waited patiently for the Lord to help me,Psalm 40:1–2
and He turned to me and heard my cry.
He lifted me out of the pit of despair,
out of the mud and the mire.
He set my feet on solid ground
and steadied me as I walked along.
I’m not going to tell you how many times God lifted me out of the pit that I turned around and jumped right back in. A broken heart for any reason needs to grieve … but Paul wrote:
You have no reason to have sorrow as those who have no hope.1 Thessalonians 4:13
And that’s truth! Not only grief over death but hope for the heart that is broken for any reason. It’s not a hope that is dependent on our circumstances changing but hope that whatever our circumstances … God will give us everything we need!
5. God Strengthens the Heartbroken with His Promises
Something I didn’t even know I needed but a gift for which I will be eternally grateful … is the blessing of specific promises to encourage me.
The first promise and the one that has become my life verse is…
My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; He is mine forever.Psalm 73:26
And He has been the strength of my heart.
Remember, I said fear was one of my greatest struggles.
God has been faithful to the promise of my life verse. He has given us what we needed to get through circumstances that before I would have considered “impossible.”
He has been my strength. His presence has given me everything I need each day.
The two verses before my life verse say…
You guide me with Your counsel, leading me to a glorious destiny. Whom have I in heaven but You? I desire You more than anything on earth.Psalm 73:24–25
By God’s grace … I trust that He will guide me each day until I arrive at my “glorious destiny” in heaven. How can I not desire that more than anything else this life has to offer?
If you’re struggling today because of a broken heart … let me share with you one more promise that I hold close. I especially like the way The Message says it…
[God] told me, “My grace is enough; it’s all you need. My strength comes into its own in your weakness.” Once I heard that I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ’s strength moving in on my weakness. Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size—abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become.2 Corinthians 12:9–10
And that is absolute unfailing TRUTH!
In the past 15 years, I’ve learned that the more I surrender my fears and frustrations, my brokenness and battles, my weaknesses and worries, my losses and longings to Jesus … the more He fills me up with everything I need to LIVE!
To live free of the things I’ve surrendered to Him and free to enjoy the blessings He wants me to have!
Blessings David expressed beautifully in Psalm 40. He said that God lifted him out of that “pit of despair” and…
He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see what He has done and be amazed. They will put their trust in the Lord.Psalm 40:3
And that is my prayer! That’s why I write AT THE INTERSECTION OF FAITH AND LIFE!
I want you to know what God has done for me. I want you to be amazed by His love and grace and mercy. And more than anything, I want you to put your trust in the Lord!
Because if He is able to remove my life-long fears and give me everything I need to live surrendered to His loving care with freedom, peace, and joy … I believe with all my heart that He not only can but He will do that for you as well.
So, what do you say … will you consider prayerfully reading your Bible … getting to know the One who pursues you. The One who wants to speak to your heart and mind. The One who offers you complete forgiveness and everything else you need. The One who promises you freedom to LIVE sheltered in His LOVE!
I’m praying for you today and asking God to bless you and fill you with the transforming power of His perfect love!
Thank you so much for joining me today.
And a thank you to BibleGateway.com for sources.
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