How to Add Wisdom That Will Bless Our Relationships

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We want our relationships to be blessed, but too often we wonder… what in the world we could have been thinking.

The relationship ended, and we wonder how we could have been so foolish. The signs were there all along. How did we miss them?

You and I were created to be close to God and people, but the entrance of sin made our connections and interactions far from what the Lord designed.

Adam and Eve had a perfect relationship with God and each other before that first sin. But in an instant, everything changed. Can you imagine what their conversation must have sounded like that first night outside of the Garden?

Then, as we read through the Old and New Testaments, it becomes clear that selfishness, pride, unforgiveness, and anger have wreaked havoc on our relationships ever since the fruit of that tree touched their lips.

What an awesome blessing that God wants us all to know that His ways are best. So, He graciously and lovingly gave us detailed instructions to teach us how to add wisdom to our relationships. You see, those real accounts of real people in real messy relationships came with lots of wise advice for you and me.

Let’s take a look at some of the ways we can…

Add Wisdom that will Bless Our Relationships

1. Put God First in Every Relationship.

Strive to honor and glorify God in everything. With the Holy Spirit’s help, you and I can make it our goal to prioritize loving, trusting, and obeying God. When we work to KNOW, TRUST, and OBEY His will, we will want to be less prideful and selfish. And that will change all our relationships.

“When we put God first, all other things fall into their proper place or drop out of our lives. Our love of the Lord will govern the claims for our affection, the demands on our time, the interests we pursue, and the order of our priorities.” ~Charles Stanley

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.

Proverbs 3:5–6

2. Look At Every Relationship Through a God-First Filter.

Everyone you and I meet is someone dearly loved by God and precious to Him. When we view people through a God-first filter, we can’t help but lead with love. That doesn’t mean we say ‘yes’ to everything and everyone. It means we will pray about everything and ask the Lord to help us love like Jesus.

“Learning how to love your neighbor requires a willingness to draw on the strength of Jesus Christ as you die to self and live for Him. Living in this manner allows you to practice biblical love for others in spite of adverse circumstances or your feelings to the contrary.” ~John C. Broger

 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”

John 13:34–35

3. Set God-first Boundaries in Your Relationships.

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, and expect them to do the same. Refuse to take part in gossip. Be honest. Honor God physically. Control your anger. Avoid getting close to those lines you know shouldn’t be crossed.

“A strong strand throughout the Bible stresses that you are to GIVE to needs and put LIMITS on sin. Boundaries help you do just that.” ~Henry Cloud

Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are His dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ.

Ephesians 5:1–2a

4. Remember, It Is Impossible to Please Everyone.

People will have demanding wants and expectations, making it impossible to keep everyone happy all the time. I know. I’ve tried. It doesn’t work, and it’s not supposed to. So, let’s ask God for wisdom to help us make wise decisions. We won’t please everyone, but we will honor God, and that will always be best.

“You can please some of the people all of the time; all of the people some of the time and some of the people NONE of the time, and these are the people you PRAY for ALL of the time.” ~ Margaret McBride

Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.

Galatians 1:10

Let’s pray…

A Prayer for Wisdom to Bless Our Relationships

Abba Father, relationships can be challenging in this sinful world. We’re all guilty of being prideful and selfish at times, and those self-absorbed attitudes get in the way of our ability to love others as You desire.

Please forgive us and help us love humbly with care and compassion. Please help me focus my heart and mind on You and the blessing of Your love. By the power of Your Spirit, help me make trusting and obeying You my greatest priority.

Help me focus my heart and mind on You, remembering that everyone I meet is precious to You. Help me speak the truth of Your Word with gentleness and respect. And give me the wisdom I need to bless my relationships.

I want to glorify You by loving like Jesus. I want to forgive as You have forgiven me. Please give me the wisdom and strength I need, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Love is much more than a feeling. Love is a choice. As is forgiveness.

Both are born in obedience. God-first wisdom prompts us to be loving and forgiving, caring and patient, honest and compassionate.

The first and often only person to be healed by forgiveness is the person who does the forgiveness… When we genuinely forgive, we set a prisoner free and then discover that the prisoner we set free was us. ~Lewis B. Smedes

Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.

Proverbs 117:9

May we give ourselves grace. We’ve all made some unwise relationship choices in the past. I’ve paid a high price for relationship foolishness. But continuing to beat ourselves up or failing to forgive won’t help. In fact, wallowing in the past can make it easier for us to repeat our foolish choices.

So, let’s ask for forgiveness. Forgive ourselves. Forgive others. And SEEK God’s wisdom, because with God’s help, we can make better choices and bless our relationships.

May the Lord give you wisdom that will bless your relationships.

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