Jesus is the One Who Can Unite People in a Call Out World

Is it okay to call out all the people with whom we disagree? What about other Christians? I've challenged myself to find out what the Bible says. #BibleStudy #ChristianCommunity #SocialMedia #CountingMyBlessings

Eight years ago, I spent the months of June and July updating my passport, getting the required vaccines, and trying to figure out what in the world I should pack. Each day spent getting ready to travel to Bolivia as a member of the World Vision Bolivia Bloggers Team.

I was considerably older than the rest of the team’s members and I definitely had the smallest platform … I’m still in awe of the ways God worked to graciously allow me to go on this life-changing trip.

If you’re curious about the trip itself … you can learn more here.

The trip itself is not the reason for this post.

You see, the reason I’m writing this is … I met Rachel Held Evans that week.

I chose not to speak out while she was ill and following her death. But recently, I’ve felt the Lord’s nudge to share some thoughts with you.

Not as much thoughts about Rachel as thoughts about the rest of us.

You see, I struggle with being judgmental. There is something self-righteously satisfying about stopping to call out the people we deem”false teachers.” The people we believe are doing or say “it” wrong. Whatever we decide “it” is.

Honestly, I caught myself being guilty again just the other day.

So, I’m definitely not here to preach at you. Like you, I’m on a journey of faith … honestly sharing the things the Lord lays on my heart. They are things I need to hear and so I wonder if you might need them too.

Back to Bolivia and meeting Rachel…

Rachel and the others in the group were the ages of my children. Their life experiences differed from mine in almost every way. Although, I probably shared my thoughts with them more than I’d like to admit … I hope I asked lots of questions and listened intentionally because several of their ideas were new to me and I wanted to know more.

Rachel was in the middle of writing her book – A Year of Biblical Womanhood.

The following is the first paragraph of the book’s synopsis on Amazon.

Strong-willed and independent, Rachel Held Evans couldn’t sew a button on a blouse before she embarked on a radical life experiment—a year of biblical womanhood. Intrigued by the traditionalist resurgence that led many of her friends to abandon their careers to assume traditional gender roles in the home, Evans decides to try it for herself, vowing to take all of the Bible’s instructions for women as literally as possible for a year.

I smiled as I read those words because I don’t remember Rachel, as being strong-willed, although I’ll admit I only spent a week with her.

What I do remember about her is her smile and willingness to laugh, her kindness, and her passion for the children and families we were visiting and her heart for the ministry of World Vision.

Did I agree with everything that was said that week? No.

But I cared for and about everyone on the trip … including Rachel. When I heard she was ill, I prayed and prayed and prayed that God would heal her. And it broke my heart to learn she had died.

There was something else that broke my heart…

People using that heart-breaking time to say cruel and hateful things about her on social media because they disagreed with what she wrote.

Jesus is the One Who Can Unite People in a Call Out World

So, why am I writing about this now weeks later?

Last week, the Lord tapped me on the shoulder as I was read the following in Jonah and 1 John…

Jonah didn’t want to go to Nineveh.

Why? Because Jonah hated the Assyrians and believed they deserved God’s judgment. Jonah had judged them and believed they deserved whatever God’s punishment.

So, when God asked him to go and “deliver the message” … Jonah took off in the opposite direction.

Which is how he found himself in the belly of a big fish.

God graciously and mercifully turned him around and gave him a second opportunity to obey. Which he did.

Jonah went to Nineveh and gave them God’s message:

“Forty days from now Nineveh will be destroyed!”
Jonah 3:4

And do you know what happened?

The people of Nineveh believed God’s message, and from the greatest to the least, they declared a fast and put on burlap to show their sorrow.
Jonah 3:5

But Jonah was not happy…

“Didn’t I say before I left home that You would do this, Lord? That is why I ran away to Tarshish! I knew that You are a merciful and compassionate God, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love. You are eager to turn back from destroying people.
Jonah 4:2

As I sat there pondering my own judgmental attitudes, I turned to my New Testament reading in 1 John 2:

Dear friends, I am not writing a new commandment for you; rather it is an old one you have had from the very beginning. This old commandment—to love one another—is the same message you heard before.
1 John 2:7

So, my heart was hearing … don’t judge people—love them!

I kept reading…

If anyone claims, “I am living in the light,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is still living in darkness. Anyone who loves a fellow believer is living in the light and does not cause others to stumble.
1 John 2:9

The Life Application Bible Notes say:

John’s words focus on the attitude that causes us to ignore or despise others, to treat them as irritants, competitors, or enemies. Christian love is not a feeling but a choice. We can choose to be concerned with people’s well being and treat them with respect, whether or not we feel affection toward them.

And I would add, whether or not we agree with them.

The LAB Notes also say:

Love should be the unifying force and identifying mark of the Christian community. Love is the key to walking in the light.

Friends, you and I are representing Jesus to the world. Why would anyone want what we have … when we publicly ridicule, condemn, and call out those with whom we disagree.

When we don’t agree, you and I are called to speak the truth in love.

Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of His body, the church.
Ephesians 4:15

Maybe we need to be more focused on love because too often we forget that part, choosing to speak the truth with a sledgehammer.

What if speaking the truth in love looked more like…

Worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it. But do this in a gentle and respectful way.
1 Peter 2:15b–16

What if we did a better job of humbly telling our own broken stories that share the transforming power of God’s love!

What if we just told people about Jesus, the One who not only knows the truth but who is the Truth and the Way and the Life.

You see, He’s the One who prayed..

Now I am departing from the world; they are staying in this world, but I am coming to you. Holy Father, You have given me Your name; now protect them by the power of Your name so that they will be united just as we are.
John 17:11

He prayed for us to be united by His love and I want to honor Jesus’ prayer.

So, I’m asking God to give me eyes to see everyone as a soul desperately in need of His love. I’m asking Him to make me gracious and merciful in the way I treat others. I’m asking Him to help me listen more and call out less.

Because…

I don’t want people to know the truth according to Deb. I want people to know Jesus and experience the power of His transforming love.

1 John 4:8 says:

God is love!

Overwhelming love! Love who never gives up … who mercifully and patiently seeks out people and transforms lives.

Love who can unite people in a broken and sinful world. Love who can heal hearts and relationships. Love who has promised us LIFE!

I want to care more about people and less about being right. I want to treat everyone with caring kindness and compassion. And I want to be silent when I’m tempted to call out.

I’m praying with the help of the Holy Spirit, I will do a better job of loving like Jesus.

Will you please pray with me?

Father, thank you for faithfully showing me Your grace, mercy, and love. Please, please forgive me for failing to extend the same grace, mercy, and love to others. Please help me realize that I don’t have to agree with someone to be respectful, caring, and compassionate. Help me to be a better example of Your love in my home, at work, at church, in my community, and online. Unite us, Father, by Your love. In the name of Jesus. By Your grace and for Your glory. Amen.

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Take the Philippians’ Challenge and See What Happens

10 / 29 / 18

You know the feeling…

You can’t put your finger on it. In general, things are pretty good. You’re not dealing with a major life crisis, but you feel like you’re that cartoon character who walks around with her own personal storm cloud hanging over her head.

I started questioning whether I was fighting another season of anxiety and depression when the Lord lovingly and gently gave me another explanation.

You see, I became interested in politics and current events about 10 years ago. It’s made for great conversations at our house. I keep Rev up to date on what’s going on in the world and he gives me the history buff perspective that keeps me grounded.

But friends, it’s gotten so ugly!

And it doesn’t matter what side you’re on or who you voted for … both sides are guilty.

The vitriolic words coming out of the mouths of everyone, be it a political leader or a news personality, is awful. And don’t you be blamin’ the other side. I’m tired of hearing “yeah but they started it!” I’m a mom and a grade school teacher … been there heard that a thousand times or more.

The truth is, my neighborhood doesn’t look like what these people are telling me.

The people in my neighborhood come in all shades, shapes, and sizes and we all live together rather well! People are cordial, caring, and kind. They look out for each other and I don’t even know where they stand politically.

When I go out into my community, I see people who look very different from me. Some are dressed in ways that indicate they have different religious beliefs … yet, we smile at each other and say hello and we try to help wherever we can.

And no, I haven’t died and gone to heaven already.

I still live in a community in the United States of America.

I’m guessing that many of you live in communities a lot like mine.

As I sat down to read my Bible this morning, I asked God to point me to what He wanted me to read … and He led me to Galatians 6.

It starts this way…

Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. v. 1

Did you see that?

“Humbly and gently.”

And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. v. 2

Friends, we may not be able to change what others say and do but we can with God’s help, love like Jesus.

Later, Paul wrote…

So, let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith. v. 9 – 10

And I personally believe, that if we ever want those who are outside of the family of faith to become part of the family of faith … we need to “do good” to them also!

Jesus said, “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” John 13:34–35

And in Galatians 5, Paul wrote…

For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another. v. 13–15

I’ll admit it, the biting and devouring I’m seeing when I turn on the news, is hurting my heart. So, I’m going to do something I probably should have done a while ago…

Take the Philippians’ Challenge and See What Happens

I’m turning off the news channels and hiding all that is divisive and agitating on social media.

And I’m going to take to heart Paul’s words to the people in Philippi…

And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:8

There is so much good happening in the world.

We went to the Mercy Me Concert in KC last week and stood for hours with 7,000+ fellow believers praising, worshipping, and lifting high the name of Jesus. (And 7,000+ more gathered to do the same the following night.)

Rev has visited two different homeless shelters in our area … where servants of Christ are making a difference every day in broken lives.

Countless people are working to help the people who lost everything along the Florida Panhandle.

Families are doing foster care and volunteering. They are sponsoring children around the world and right here in our community, there are people who go into homes to take care of widows each week.

And every single day, I see you encourage each other online through social media, blog comments, and personal texts and messages.

Friends, there is so much good happening. So much of the life going on around us is … true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.

And I want to focus on that.

Maybe you do too. Or maybe, you’ve been doing it all along. I can be a slow learner who is thankful for God’s grace and patience.

Whatever the case …

♥ I’m inviting you to join me in a Philippians’ challenge this week.

Take a fast from the news and from your Twitter feed until after the mid-term elections.
Grab a journal and make a list of things that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, and admirable each day.
Invite your family to have good news conversations at dinner each night.
Do one small act of kindness every day.
Pray for our nation, our leaders, and for the upcoming election.

I urge you, first of all, to pray for all people. Ask God to help them; intercede on their behalf, and give thanks for them. Pray this way for kings and all who are in authority so that we can live peaceful and quiet lives marked by godliness and dignity. This is good and pleases God our Savior, who wants everyone to be saved and to understand the truth. 1 Timothy 2:1–4

Because we have God’s promise…

If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14

God is good! He loves us! And He’s given us a beautiful Truth, Jesus, the One who is able to change hearts and minds … who transforms lives.

So, I’m taking the Philippians’ Challenge, turning off the junk and practicing the presence of God this week. If you’re in … let me know in the comments. And to help get us started, share something good you see happening in your community.

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How to be a Better Listener When You Just Want to be Heard

10 / 8 / 18

Last week, I told you that I have opinions … lots of them.

I’m also a Sanguine talker.

Combine those facts you might assume that it’s taken me a long time and more than one bloody tongue to learn that I don’t need to share my views on everything with everyone. And you’d be right!

Something I’ve learned from my bloody tongue experiences is that as much as I feel the need to be heard and want to change the opinions of the people around me … my relationships benefit and I’ve actually learned a thing or two when I’ve shut up and listened!

At a time when more of us are talking than listening, I thought it might be helpful for me to honestly share my journey … because in all honesty, I didn’t get here easily!

6 Ways to be a Better Listener

♥ Listen without Assumptions

It’s so easy to assume that we know how someone thinks based on their skin color, gender, religion, or where they live. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Each person is uniquely and wonderfully made by God.

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
Psalm 139:13–14

Each person is dearly loved by God and precious to Him.

You are a child of God, you are wonderfully made, dearly loved, and precious in His sight. Before God made you, He knew You. There is no one else like you. ~Unknown (based on Psalm 139 and Col. 3:12)

It takes time to get to know people individually but it’s important … really important.

♥ Listen without Judgment

Everyone you meet has a story and every story has its painful broken chapters.

I’ll admit, I’ve had more times than I care to admit when I was quick to judge people whose lives were a mess. Back when I was doing everything I could to be a “good girl” and “do life RIGHT,” I was quick to assume that life’s messes were caused by personal bad choices. Although that’s true sometimes … it’s not true always!

Boy, was I humbled when my mess was exposed to public view and I felt the scrutinizing judgment of others.

God allowed me to learn a huge lesson the hard way…

“You must be compassionate, just as your Father is compassionate. Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:36–37

You and I can give the gift of listening with kindness and compassion. We can make it safe for people to share their stories of brokenness by showing them the love of Jesus.

♥ Listen to Understand

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. The collective monologue is everyone is talking and no one is listening.” ~ Stephen Covey

Can you imagine the difference we could make if we really listened and asked questions to understand before we replied to people?

Everyone looks at life through a lens of their own personal perspective … a lens that takes years to shape and polish. They have well-developed long-standing reasons for their beliefs.

I want to do a better job of listening to understand by asking “why” and “please help me understand” questions. I want to keep conversations going and learn the reasons behind the beliefs and opinions people hold.

♥ Listen to Learn

I still have so very much to learn. In fact, the longer I live and the more I learn … the more I realize just how little KNOW.

Sure my wise mentors and teachers have taught me tons but I’ve also learned a lot by listening to hurting friends and the heartfelt stories of complete strangers.

God is at work in lives, friends! When you and I listen to each other with a desire to learn, we benefit from His work in every life.

Tell your story and encourage the people you meet to tell you theirs!

Listen to the words of the wise; apply your heart to my instruction. Proverbs 22:17

♥ Listen Respectfully

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interest but take an interest in others, too. Philippians 2:3–4

Whew, we could go a long way in the respect department at the moment, couldn’t we?

Truthfully, those other people really need to do a better job of being respectful! (Sense my sarcasm?)

If you’re like me, it’s easy to point fingers and blame those who disagree with us. But aren’t we really just trying to get that speck out of the other guy’s eye before getting the log out of my own.

“How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye?” Matthew 7:4

Respect begins with me and it starts at home. Help us, Lord!

♥ Listen Intentionally

I don’t know whether I have ADD or I’m just easily distracted, but it’s hard for me to sit in a restaurant and not have my eyes dart around the room like I’m watching bumble bees in a garden.

I love people watching. But because I want to listen intentionally to the people I’m with … I sit with my back to the activity so I can focus on the people with me.

I also sit near the front in church or any place I want to avoid distractions.

If you and I want to listen intentionally we need to avoid distractions, put down our devices, and look at each other! Then listen without interrupting. (Yeah, that one’s hard for me too.)

I want to be a better listener!

Friends, there are so many emotional subjects on the table right now. Feelings are frayed. And sides have been taken.

But I believe you and I can make a difference. Jesus showed us a better way.

He listened. Really listened to people.

At the end of the day, which will matter more…

That people know our opinions on the most recent political conversation or social issue or that they feel the love and compassion of Christ?

Will you and I ever do it perfectly this side of heaven?

No, probably not.

But I’m not willing to quit trying to be a better listener.

And believe me, I’m a work in progress. I’m still just trying…

The other day, we had a tech repairman visit because we were having problems with our cable box. As he asked me to try a variety of solutions, all of which I’d done earlier, my replies became more agitated and impatient.

Then I had one of those Holy Spirit moments of conviction. I had not listened well nor had I been respectful or compassionate.

But this time…

I caught myself and apologized. We ended up having a good conversation.

Now I need to work on my responses to the poor people who happen to pick up my phone call at the end of a long phone tree. Yep, like you, I’m still a work in progress.

And the truth is we’re all agitated, some say they’re even frightened. Everyone believes they know the truth and want to be heard.

This may just be the perfect time for you and me to make a difference by being a better listener even when we just want to be heard.

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The Unexpected Life Lesson of the Honor Flight

5 / 14 / 185 / 14 / 18

It was late at night when my phone rang … a facetime call inviting me to join the experience.

I answered immediately.

I’d been thinking about him all day – since his first call had been just after sunrise that morning.

He was tired and emotional after having spent the day with 73 other American Veterans on their “Final Mission” (I tear up every time I see those words) to Washington DC.

Their ages spanned several decades, branches of the military, and calls of duty … each one sacrificing on other shores because they chose to serve on behalf of others … for love of country and countrymen.

Collier – Lee County Honor Flight

Ten days ago, Collier Honor Flight #16 honored those brave military warriors with a day of respect and recognition.

My dad, the cute guy in the cap and a World War II Veteran, was one of those honored!

Throughout the day, they visited the memorials on The Mall and The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at Arlington Cemetary.

I will always remember when I answered his 9 PM call, my dad didn’t want to talk about the monuments or the changing of the guard at Arlington … all he could talk about was the people. The kindness of the Collier Honor Flight Team who saw to every need with joy and enthusiasm.

As we talked again the next day, He teared up when he told me about the reception they received … especially as they returned to RSW Airport in Fort Myers.

My dad served in the Navy in the mid- 1940’s. It’s been a long time since anyone has thanked him for his service to the country, and yet on May 5th, hundreds of people came out late on a Saturday night to salute and applaud individuals who had quietly returned to civilian life decades earlier carrying countless memories in their hearts and minds.

My dad said the thing that overwhelmed him most throughout the day was the JOY! Not the joy of the veteran recipients … but the joy exhibited by those who made the day possible.

The Unexpected Life Lesson of the Honor Flight

The JOY of serving others

Dad and I have talked about it several times this week and he tears up every time. How special they made each person feel! How every need was met! How hearts were encouraged and blessed!

And my dad said…

“Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could have that attitude in the church!”

And I would add … in our communities.

Is it possible that finding joy in serving others could be the uniter of our culture divided by ideology, stereotypes, social identities, etc?

What if we looked at one another with kindness and got to know hearts before we judged and dismissed?

What if we looked up from our devices and saw faces?

What if we made serving one another with joy a priority?

And what about our churches…

What if every visitor to our churches were greeted like those we invite into our homes – with joyful hospitality?

What if every church was full of people worshiping with joy – like they meant it?

What if loved and served each other before we disagreed and divided?

What if?

Paul wrote in his letter to the Romans…

For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up. Romans 14:17

Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically. Romans 12:10

And to the people in Philippi, he wrote…

Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice! Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do. Remember, the Lord is coming soon. Philippians 4:4–5

I don’t believe the Holy Spirit would have inspired Paul to write these words if we weren’t supposed to make serving one another with joy a goal.

I know, you’re overwhelmed! You already have too much to do!

But the truth is, you don’t have to add one thing to your schedule to start serving with joy today!

Here are just a few ways to add joyful service to your day:

In Your Community…

Look everyone in the eye and smile at them.
Open doors for people.
The next time you text a friend ask them how you can pray for them.
Pay attention to the people around you and stop to help where you can. (I’m tall. I love reaching things off the top shelves at stores for those who can’t reach them.)
Look behind you when you go through a door and hold it for the person behind you.
Pass the first shopping cart to the person who came in behind you and take the next one,
Pray and ask God to show you where He wants you to serve with joy!

At Your Church…

Look everyone in the eye and smile at them.
Say hello to someone you don’t know.
Offer to help a mom with restless children.
Praise your pastor and members of the music team.
Look for things to love rather than things to criticize.
Participate – Worship with joy!
The same as #7 above – PRAY!

Think about ways you can add joy to serving your family, at work, or online. We’re going to do many of these things anyway … so let’s add some joy and make it more fun for everyone.

Can you imagine how much better you’ll feel if you add a little joy to what you’re doing already?!

I believe we can do this!

And…

I believe our joyful service shows people the love of Jesus. It may just be the thing that opens a door to someone wanting to know more about Him.

Remember the early church…

They worshiped together at the Temple each day, met in homes for the Lord’s Supper, and shared their meals with great joy and generosityall the while praising God and enjoying the goodwill of all the people. And each day the Lord added to their fellowship those who were being saved. Acts 2:46–47

They Served Others with Joy! We can too!

A huge shout out and thank you to everyone involved with the Collier Honor Flight #16. A special thank you to Rick Wobbe, for his kind interactions with the vets and their families and Mamie Blue for sponsoring this flight. Our family thanks you all!

Also, a thank you to my nephew, Ryan, who graciously took the time to travel with and serve as guardian for his grandpa for the flight!

One last thing…

Yesterday, May 13th, was my dad’s 93rd birthday! We are so very thankful for him. If you have a minute – stop and wish him a Happy Birthday in the comments below.♥

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2 Members – 1 Church – Helpful Truth You Need to Know

4 / 19 / 184 / 19 / 18

It’s been years, but I can still picture them well.

They were members of our small church in St. Louis.

For my story today, I’m going to call them members A and B.

Member A –

A was a slightly built man with a wisp of silver hair. He had a huge smile and a bear hug that wrapped around you and well, you just knew he meant it! Both A and his wife were humble servants … faithfully doing the unheralded jobs that few others wanted to do. They were always there early and they stayed late.

I picture A standing near the entrance welcoming everyone who walked in with a handshake or a hug and the following simple sentence:

Do you know how much Jesus loves you?

Rev remembers how he would bring his 5’8″ frame right up to his 6’6″ one, grab him by the collar, look him in the eye and say, “I pray for you every single day!” And we knew he did!

Member B –

Member B was a taller more distinguished looking man. He always held leadership positions and knew how the church should run. He liked tradition and was outspoken and unhappy about most changes. He served that church and gave generously. He was doing it right and felt it important that he should help others “do it right,” too!

I remember one exchange with B’s wife …

Rev and I had struggled with secondary infertility for 7 years. One particularly bad hormone swing day, I shared with her that I was hurting and sad. She stepped in close, shook her finger in my face, and told me I should be ashamed of myself. I was blessed with two healthy children and I should stop feeling sorry for myself and be thankful.

I was thankful for my children! Very thankful. I just had an exceptionally powerful mom gene! And at that moment, more than anything I needed love, kindness, and compassion.

Two members – One Church

One full of love the other full of ~~self~~ righteousness.

I believe A and B and their wives loved Jesus and that they were trying to follow Him to the best of their abilities.

I also believe there is a little A and B in each of us.

I wrote the following as part of Mondays’ post…

God selected Abraham and his descendants as His chosen people not to exclude the other nations but because He wanted to draw all people to Himself through them. Had the Israelites followed God’s will they would have shown surrounding nations the blessings of living as God’s children.

God wanted His people to be “holy” or “set apart” … to look different from everyone else because as He blessed their obedience, others would want what they had.

Then on Tuesday morning, I read the following in Ezekiel…

I gave them my decrees and regulations so they could find life by keeping them. And I gave them my Sabbath days of rest as a sign between them and me. It was to remind them that I am the Lord, who had set them apart to be holy. Ezekiel 20:11–12

Decrees and regulations so they could find life.

A day of rest as a sign of the covenant … that they were set apart as His. A day to refocus their priorities and remember all He had done for them.

Why?

Love!!!

God gave His commands and the Sabbath out of love. He knew obedience would make their lives better. And He set them apart so the people around them would see the blessings of living in relationship with the one true God.

And yet, time and again, like you and me … God’s people failed to trust and obey completely.

They chose idolatry, power, prestige, popularity, and personal comfort over obedience. They wanted what the non-believers had. It looked good. It sounded good. It felt good.

It was self-focused and selfish.

I want to be like Mr. and Mrs. A! I want my love for Jesus to bubble out of me all over everyone who meets me. I want to serve humbly as an offering of gratitude for all God has done for me.

Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Ephesians 6:7

Unfortunately, I recall times when I’ve been more like Mr. and Mrs. B than I’d like to admit. Times when I was critical and judgmental, and yes, maybe even a little self-righteous.

So today, I asking God to forgive me. I’m also asking Him to help me keep my focus on Jesus.

Let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Hebrews 12:1b–2a

I’m asking Him to help me love Him through obedience … not to win His pleasure or gain His blessings but to glorify and thank Him for all He has given me and done for me through Jesus.

John the Baptist said, “He must become more important while I become less important.” John 3:30

I like to say it this way…

Less of me! More of Jesus!

I want people to see Jesus in me. I want them to want what I have. I want them to love the One I love!

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Practical Things to Do When You Just Can’t People

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Some days it's hard to love your people well ... days when you feel like you just can't people today! These practical tips are here to help! #LoveOthers #FaithBlogger #CountingMyBlessings #SeekGodFirst #MentalHealth

What do you do on those exhausted days when the last thing you want to do is deal with anyone?

Nope, you just can’t people today!

Most days are full of people.

You have your family, they’re your HAVE TO people. Your coworkers. The people with whom you do ministry and the random people you cross paths with when you’re out running errands. People are everywhere!

What do you do on those days when you feel like it’s too hard to deal with people.

Nope, you just can’t people today!

Most days are full of people.

If you’re like me, you have days when every one of them is getting on your last nerve. Those are the days I wish I could stay in bed and avoid people altogether.

Yes, I have them too!

Days when I’m in a mood and I find everyone frustrating, annoying, agitating, and just plain exhausting.

Admit it, you know you have those days, too!

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I have to admit it’s not really what I want to hear on my “I can’t people” days but Paul wrote:

Since God chose you to be the holy people He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful. Colossians 3:12–15

Yep, like me, you’re thinking … that is so not what I needed right now!

You might even be thinking . . . that’s easy for Paul to say, he didn’t have to put up with my people!

If you’re having one of those days where tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience feel impossible, I’d like to offer some practical to-dos that will help you through today and maybe even give you some hope for tomorrow.

Practical Things to Do When You Just Can’t People

1. PRAY

I know, it’s always the first thing to do. Isn’t it a blessing to know that God welcomes our prayers even when we’re whining about the annoying people in our lives.

He’s not surprised. He knows about your yesterday and what the rest of today looks like. Oh yeah, tomorrow and the next day too. He knows. Talk with Him, be honest, and get ready to listen. Confess your frustration. Admit you’re exhausted. Ask Him to give you strength and help you love like Jesus. AND ask Him to help you find peace in your chaos.

2. Be Honest

I’m guessing your people love you! Tell them you’re having a bad day.

I like to give Rev fair warning when I’m cranky.

People can’t tell you’re struggling if you don’t tell them and I’ve always believed it’s better to “use my words” than it is to express my full-blown emotions.

It’s okay to ask for help. You might be surprised at the people who would love to help you if they knew you needed a reprieve.

Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.Galatians 6:2

3. Be Thankful

Even if you don’t feel like it! Your people are your people for a reason … even when they’re annoying you.

I remember a time early in our marriage when Rev neglected to do something I’d asked . . . again. It wasn’t a big deal. It was just annoying. I was pregnant, hormonal, and very irritated. As I took care of the truthfully unimportant task myself with full-blown annoyance, I heard God’s quiet whisper. “Would you prefer he wasn’t here?”

It wasn’t a threat. Just a question. What’s more important the relationship or being right? It’s a question that still blesses our marriage.

4. Forgive Yourself – Forgive Your People

Ask God to forgive you for your less than loving attitude, forgive yourself and then, forgive your people!

I can’t do this one on my own. I need God’s help. When I remember the countless times God has forgiven me and think about the many times my family and friends have forgiven me … even when I don’t feel like it, I can choose forgiveness.

Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends. Proverbs 17:9

5. Do Things to Fill Your Emotional Tank

I am always more easily agitated when I’ve strayed from my normally healthy diet and fail to get enough rest. I also notice that too many hours at the computer makes my body ache.

All those things make it harder for me to be loving and kind.

So, I’m keeping a list of tank-filling things I love to do. Things like: listening to great music, reading a good book, taking a walk, playing with the dog, etc.

What do you do to fill your emotional tank?

Finally – Thank God for His Help

Isn’t it awesome that you and I don’t have to deal with people alone?

God wouldn’t ask us to be merciful, kind, and loving if He were not willing and able to help us.

I love knowing I don’t have to be strong on my own. God promised His all-sufficient grace for every trial. We can lean into His abundant supply any time we need it.

O my Strength, to You I sing praises, for You, O God, are my refuge, the God who shows me unfailing love. Psalm 59:17

Do you ever wonder if there were days when Jesus got tired of dealing with people?

We don’t know.

What we do know is Jesus took time to be alone with His Father, trusting the Father to strengthen Him and give Him everything He needed to accomplish what He came to do.

So, I’m ready.

Even when I feel like I just can’t people today…

With God’s help, I can do this! And you can do it, too!

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7 Lessons from the Life of Jesus that will Show You How to be Present

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It’s the season of Joy!

I have to admit, I spent too many years chasing what I believed was just a bit more … enough to finally experience lasting joy. You see, even though I have believed in Jesus for as long as I can remember, I didn’t believe He was enough.

When I meet someone like Kira Bridges at Joy Pursued, I’m always humbled and yes, even a little ashamed. Kira is so much wiser than I was at her age. She knows that the things of this life will never be the satisfying ingredients for joy.

Her “About Me” page begins…

Have you ever felt like life should be something more than it is? Like you are missing something? Is it joy?

If so, you are in the right place.

Hi, I am Kira, and I am on a journey to discover how to live with joy.

My journey began with the realization that something was missing from my life. Everyday was pretty much the same. I’d wake up, take care of the baby, clean the house, cook dinner, do school/work, then collapse in front of the TV until bedtime. At the end of most days I felt unfulfilled. Life was flying by and I was not enjoying it. I knew life had to be more than this. I knew I was meant for more than this. So I asked God what I should do and he answered:

Pursue joy.

And I’m excited to share her guest post with you today about yet another specific time in her life when God whispered and she found joy in obedience.

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So, please make her feel welcome. I know her words will encourage and inspire you!

7 Lessons from the Life of Jesus that will Show You How to be Present

In a group where everyone else knew each other, I stood out. Over the course of two days I repeated myself a lot, explaining who I was and where I came from. But the other women repeated themselves as well, all asking, “how long have you attended our church?” and responding to my answer with, “Wow, you are brave to come to a women’s retreat so soon!”

Each time I smiled and said something about seeing the retreat as a good opportunity to meet people and get connected to the church. What I didn’t tell them is I showed up out of obedience, not bravery.

For the previous few months, the command “be present” continually pressed into my soul. I’d listen to a podcast, read a blog post, or see a status update from a friend, and all broadcasting the same message: “Show up in your actual life. Step away from the computer, get out of your head, and experience life with the people around you.” But most of all, the life of Jesus himself spoke to me as I read through the book of Luke.

7 Important Lessons from the Life of Jesus

*All verses are from the NKJV

1. Sit with others and listen and ask questions (Luke 2:41-50).

As a boy, Jesus took the opportunity of being in Jerusalem to sit with the teachers in the temple. Luke tells us Jesus both listened to the teachers and asked them questions. When Mary and Joseph ask what he is doing, Jesus responds, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?” (Luke 2:49).

God desires us to learn about Him from others. He expects us to sit down, listen, and ask questions. God also desires us to teach others. Speaking of Jesus at the temple, Luke records, “And all who heard Him were astonished at His understanding and answers” (Luke 2:47).

Sitting with others encourages the sharing of wisdom so that all may grow in their knowledge and understanding of God.

2. Look for ways to help others.

Glancing through the headings in Luke, some variation of “Jesus heals” appears over and over again. He heals the sick, casts out evil spirits, restores life, and feeds the hungry. All these miracles required Jesus to be among the people, to recognize a need, and allow his compassion to move him into action.

We live in community for this very reason. Only when we do life together, can we help meet each other’s needs and bear each other’s burdens.

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

3. Make the first move (Luke 5:1-11).

Jesus sought out His disciples. In the calling of the four fishermen, Luke recounts Jesus going to the fishermen and climbing into their boat where He taught, and caught fish. Only after Jesus met the fishermen in their everyday lives, did they forsake all to follow Him.

While we are not trying to get other people to forsake their life and follow us, we do need to take a cue from Jesus and make the first move. Be the one who invites an acquaintance to coffee. Be the person who introduces yourself to the newcomer at church. Ask the family with a toddler to come over for dinner and show no sign of distress when the toddler runs around instead of sitting at the table.

Many times people are desperate for community, and they just need someone to reach out and say, I see you.

Be merciful.

Jesus tells his disciples; “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,” (Luke 6:27) and “Therefore, be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful” (Luke 6:36). Mercy means giving someone what they do not deserve, such as forgiveness and kindness after they wronged you.

Being present with the people in our life carries the inherent risk of being hurt. But it also gives us an opportunity to demonstrate the power of the gospel. When someone sins against us, we should respond with forgiveness and mercy because that is how our Father in Heaven responds when we sin against Him.

5. Seek out individuals who need Jesus.

When Jesus passed through Jericho, He chose to eat with Zacchaeus, a chief tax collector. Luke says when people saw Jesus going to Zacchaeus house they complained, “He has gone to be a guest with a man who is sinner” (Luke 19:7). They didn’t understand sinners are the whole reason Jesus came to earth.

In John 20:21 Jesus says, “As the Father has sent Me, I also send you.” Jesus came to seek and save the lost, and then passed along that work to us. We must walk with open eyes and open hearts in order to see the “Zacchaeuses” God places in our life.

6. Share meals together.

At the end of Jesus’ life, He gathered with His disciples for the Passover meal and proclaimed; “With fervent desire I have desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer” (Luke 22:15). Fervent desire, those words reveal the heart of Jesus. He valued gathering together and spending important and difficult moments of life in community.

Special moments happen around tables, and part of opening our lives to those around us means inviting them to our table.

7. Spread hope.

We cannot look at the life of Jesus without seeing hope. Jesus offers hope through the forgiveness of sins, through healing, through the ability to ask and receive, and through the power of the Holy Spirit.

As Christians, the hope of Christ lives within us. Therefore, we are messengers of hope, just like Jesus. Through encouragement and sharing testimonies of God’s faithfulness, we can spread the hope of Christ to others.

I will be the first to admit I don’t always want to do these things. Some days (okay most days) I’d rather stay home with a cup of tea and a good book. But as I’ve obediently shown up in my life, God has blessed me, and I know he wants to do the same for you.

So let me ask you, how can you be present in your life today?

Kira Bridges is pursuing joy by seeking the life God intended. She writes at Joy Pursued, sharing lessons learned and resources to help women draw close to God and experience His joy. Living in Oregon with her husband, daughter, and two dogs; Kira believes living with joy is a lifelong journey and would love for you to join her. You can hang out with her on Facebook, and Instagram.

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Do You Hear Love When You Really Listen?

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^{I sit in a quiet space. My Bible on my lap. My journal beside me.}

I ask the Lord to speak to me in the stillness. I want to hear His voice.

And I thank Him as He pours His promises into my thoughts.

Then this weekend, I stopped in the stillness and wondered…

Am I simply hearing or am I really listening? Am I journaling words of love, hope, and promise and brushing past words of conviction that challenge my heart toward trust that obeys. Am I hearing what I want and ignoring what I don’t?

Moses called all the people of Israel together and said: Listen, Israel, to the commands and laws I am giving you today. Learn them and obey them carefully. Deuteronomy 5:1

I suddenly realized I want to do more than just hear. I want to listen. I want to trust Him by following and obeying His commands.

And…

“The most important command is this: ‘Listen, people of Israel! The Lord our God is the only Lord. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.’The second command is this: ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.’ There are no commands more important than these.” Mark 12:29–31

His words make me wonder if people look at my life do they see a follower. Do they see someone who loves like Jesus?

I wonder if you ask the same.

And then I look around at a hurting world knowing that more than ever…

You and I need to live His love!

My heart hurts as I look at all the brokenness. The way we hurt each other with our words and with our actions. I watch the news and grieve what I witness in our nation.

So, I will guard my words. I will not join the debate. I will not point fingers. I will not take sides. Because the truth on every side is as people we are failing to love each other well.

I believe there is only one answer for followers of Jesus.

When we look at each other we must look past the surface and see souls deeply loved by God. We must see each person as someone for whom Christ died.

You and I can make a difference. We can start looking at what’s inside at hearts and stop grouping people based on things like skin color, religion, economics, popularity, power, or politics.

I’m tired of finger-waggers blaming each other because if we are failing to love like Jesus, we are each guilty of being a part of the problem.

I wonder what would happen if rather than looking for laws or solutions that pit us against each other, we turned to the only law, the only solution, the one command that has the power to change hearts and therefore lives.

The command to love one another!

Will you join me and make a pledge to listen, to follow Jesus
and obey God’s command to love your neighbor?

I am pledging to:

1. Look into eyes, smile, and make an effort to connect with everyone. To look up from my phone and really see the people around me.

“Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ~Mother Teresa

2. Look past broken exteriors and see souls deeply loved by God and important to Him. To see every person I meet as someone for whom Jesus died.

We know the love that God has for us, and we trust that love. God is love. Those who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.This is how love is made perfect in us: that we can be without fear on the day God judges us because in this world we are like Him. 1 John 4:16–17

3. Listen with understanding, remembering everyone views life through a filter of their own perspective and personal experiences.

“Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself but others.” ~Shannon L. Alder

4. Offer everyone compassion, kindness, and love. To engage in conversations and listen more than I talk. To be understanding and caring.

“In the New Testament, love is more of a verb than a noun. It has more to do with acting than with feeling. The call to love is not so much a call to a certain state of feeling as it is to a quality of action.” ~R. C. Sproul

5. Pray for God’s Spirit to unite us through His gift of love. I can’t do this on my own. BUT with God’s help, I know I can love like Jesus. Not perfectly, but intentionally.

Father, we need you. We are hurting and we’re hurting each other. You commanded us to love and we are failing to love well, to love like Jesus. Forgive us. Remove our fear of those who are different. Work in our hearts and minds by the power of your Spirit that we might see one another the way you see us. Created. Loved. Precious. Help us to help each other. With you all things are possible. We want to do better. Give us eyes to see and hearts enthusiastic to love. In the name of our loving Savior, Jesus. Amen.

With the Spirits help, I will hear. I will listen. I will follow wherever He leads.

I will take my quiet time of worship and make following Him my daily act of worship. I will give my all to the One who gave His all for me.

Oh, I know I won’t get it right. I will still see life through the imperfect lens of my sinful self, but I trust with God’s help I can do better. I can look through my Father’s eyes that love this undeserving soul and reach out with that love to others.

You and I can be the change we want to see.

Will you take the pledge to listen, follow, and love with me?

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What Does Maundy Mean?

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It’s Maundy Thursday. Have you ever wondered what “Maundy” means?

The first words of John 13:34 in Latin are Mandatum novum. In English they are translated, “A new command.” In Old English the Latin word, mandatum, became mande’.

So, in most English-speaking Protestant Churches, Holy Thursday is referred to as Maundy Thursday.

If we look at John 13:34-35, we read: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Let’s look at the events of Maundy Thursday as they are recorded in the Bible: