5 Important Reasons to Forgive Even When It Feels Impossible

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Sometimes the pain is too much and forgiving feels impossible but maybe there are important reasons to forgive that will bless us and help us heal. #BibleStudy #Faith #Forgiveness #Blessings

[Jesus said], “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.

Luke 6:37

We know Jesus told His followers to forgive each other.

But I think most of us have experienced a time when it felt like…

  • The loss was too great.
  • The abuse was too severe.
  • The betrayal was too huge.
  • The pain was too much.

A time when we felt like every hope and dream had been dashed and life had been changed forever.

Then, to top it off, the person who caused the pain has:

  • spoken no regret.
  • shown no remorse.
  • and offered no apology.

So what now? How are we supposed to forgive when forgiving feels impossible?

Let’s look at 5 reasons the Lord told His followers to forgive—even when the loss and heartache are overwhelming.

5 Reasons to Forgive Even When It’s Hard

1. God forgives your past, present, and future. 

When you and I truly realize all that God has forgiven in us . . . it becomes easier to forgive the people around us.

For His unfailing love toward those who fear Him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth. He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west. The Lord is like a father to His children, tender and compassionate to those who fear Him.

Psalm 103:11–13

2. Forgiving heals us mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. 

Holding on to bitterness and unforgiveness is carrying a spiritual and emotional burden God never intended us to carry.

“There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” says Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital. Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure and immune response. Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease and diabetes, among other conditions. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health.” (Hopkins Medicine)

3. Forgiving blesses and strengthens relationships . . . helping us live together in community.

Forgiveness is not a guarantee that the relationship will be restored but without it . . . that door will be closed to even the possibility of recovery and renewal.

Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. For there is one body and one Spirit, just as you have been called to one glorious hope for the future.

Ephesians 4:2–4

4. Forgiving heals our hurting hearts and frees us to live with peace and hope.

Hurting people have a tendency to hurt others. Forgiveness frees our hearts from projecting our past hurts onto our current and future relationships.

He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. Psalm 147:3

A cheerful look brings joy to the heart; good news makes for good health. Proverbs 15:30

5. Jesus commanded that His followers forgive.

And this is the most important reason of all . . . the One who gave His life to make it possible for us to be forgiven commanded that we forgive one another!

 “Do not judge others, and God will not judge you; do not condemn others, and God will not condemn you; forgive others, and God will forgive you.  Give to others, and God will give to you. Indeed, you will receive a full measure, a generous helping, poured into your hands—all that you can hold. The measure you use for others is the one that God will use for you.” Luke 6:37–38

Sometimes the pain is too much and forgiving feels impossible but maybe there are important reasons to forgive that will bless us and help us heal. #BibleStudy #Faith #Forgiveness #Blessings

A Prayer for the Strength to Forgive

Father, how can I begin to thank you for Your forgiveness and love. Your Word says that I was dead in my sin and You made me alive in Christ Jesus. (Ephesians 2) By His sacrifice, I have been set free. (John 8:36) I am forgiven. (Acts 13:38) And my sins have been removed as far as the east is from the west. (Psalm 103:12)

You give me strength and courage. You promise to give me everything I need to forgive those who hurt me. You take my pain and give me peace that passes understanding. You heal my heart and fill me with hope. You assure me of Your love when I don’t feel lovable. You promise to make the impossible possible and that by Your grace, I have everything I need to trust and follow Your will . . . even forgiving when it is hard.

Lord, I give myself to You. I thank and praise You for Your unfailing love and forgiveness. Please give me a tender heart willing to forgive. Take me from victim to victory through Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. In whose name I pray. Amen.

Sometimes the pain is too much and forgiving feels impossible but maybe there are important reasons to forgive that will bless us and help us heal. #BibleStudy #Faith #Forgiveness #Blessings

Forgiveness is rarely easy…

It’s especially hard when the person who caused the pain is someone close . . . someone we loved and trusted.

I get it. I’ve been there.

The pain was so deep it was hard to get out of bed. I’d been betrayed and rejected. All my hopes and dreams were turned upside down, and yes, forgiveness seemed impossible. It felt like forgiving would excuse what had happened and say that it didn’t matter.

But I started having headaches. My anxiety increased and I had trouble sleeping. I felt awful.

I knew God wanted me to forgive and let it go. He came to me with open hands and asked me to give Him all my pain and loss. He invited me to trust Him . . . to surrender everything, no holding back.

I wish I could tell you I obeyed Him immediately. I didn’t.

But thankfully, the Holy Spirit didn’t give up on me. He gave me the strength to make the impossible possible. He helped me forgive and gave me victory in Christ Jesus.

And I’m here to tell you . . . victory is better.

Thank you so much for joining me today.

And a thank you to BibleGateway.com for sources.

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14 Comments

  1. Forgiving is so hard, Deb. Thank you for this encouragement and the reminder that God doesn’t give up on convincing us to forgive too.
    Thanks!

    1. Thanks for visiting, Sarah, and for joining the conversation. What a blessing it is to have a faith community to encourage and inspire us. Thanks for doing both for me. God be with you and bless you!

  2. Wow! This post hits really close to home, Deb. Number is so true, and I am working toward experiencing that freedom. I’m getting closer with God’s help. I cannot do it on my own. Thanks for blessing us with your wisdom. I appreciate the opportunity to share. Blessings.

    1. “I cannot do it on my own.” That is a truth of so much of life, isn’t it? I have countless things that need to be laid before Him each day. What amazing grace and love that He is both willing and able to help us when we take it all to Him. Thanks so much for your kind encouragement. God bless you, my friend!

  3. Even when it seems nigh impossible to forgive someone, with God’s help, we can and we must. We will become both physically and spiritually ill when we withhold from forgiving others. God doesn’t want that to be our dead end!
    Blessings, Deb!

    1. I know, Martha! Sometimes the pain seems like too much but God knows the blessings forgiveness bring us. I am so thankful that He promises to help us carry these things when we surrender them to Him. Have a wonderful day, dear friend!

  4. Nancy Lail says:

    It’s amazing how God connected today’s message on forgiveness with the personal Bible study I had finished before I checked my email. Yes, I had been studying forgiveness. I have a lot of past things I have been working through. Today, God told me that the unforgiveness was causing me physical problems and that the only way I could ever break through is to forgive. I thought I had, but I hadn’t forgiven myself. I gave it all to God. I feel so much better. Thank you for confirming what God had told me. Your words are a blessing. I’ve been digging in to your past writings. They help me so much. God Bless You Richly!

    1. I love the way God works in our lives. His Spirit is active in us helping us grow in all that God wants for us. I also love when the Lord lifts a burden off of our hearts. He is so good! God bless you!

  5. Thank You FOR Sharing Deb 😊❗️I JUST pinned an Inspiration Quote From Pinterest That Says “People WHO Will Betray You It’s All JUST part of The plan …(We Know it IS )❗️G-d♥️ is using it TO grow Our character and refine us👍🏼♥️GREAT Inspiration ❗️♥️ It’s Definitely NOT ALWAYS easy 😳G-d♥️Bless😊

    1. It’s not easy, Cheri. You’re right! I do love that the Lord knew though that forgiveness is so important for our relationships and our health. Blessings in the Lord!

      1. Thanks for this beautiful message! I needed this today!

        1. I’m so glad it blessed and encouraged you, Stacey! God bless you!

  6. Thank you. I read this with my husband tonight before bed. I’m so grateful for your ministry! We needed this.

    1. Thank you so much, Ann! I truly appreciate that you visited and took the time to tell me that you were encouraged. God bless you!

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